I’ve bumped my husbands new car 🚗

[StaceyAl]

I’m in a panic. My husband bought an expensive new car last week. He was having an afternoon nap so I just borrowed it to collect my son from sports training. I’ve reversed into a low wall in a car park (couldn’t see it in my rear view mirror) and have dented the rear bumper.
He’s working from home tomorrow- is there any chance I can get up early and take it to a garage to get fixed and return it without him knowing?
what should I do, I can’t tell him he’ll be furious and I took it without asking

Nope, my car is mine.

DH can't just take it whilst I'm sleeping.

That's illogical - Being idiotic is very much a human trait

😂😂 poor you.

this isn't normal...yeah sure don't have the music on that loud if it distracts you, but the language you are using isn't the language of partnership. Please have a real look at what everyone is saying to you. It's a car, it's a dent or whatever, these things happen. I can't imagine how stressful it must be to have to worry about sneaking around. My partner would be annoyed, but I can't imagine having to hide.....is this marriage right for you?

We can take either. On a day to day basis we have my car and his car, but if one of us is just nipping out we take whichever has the most fuel, or whichever keys we pick up first.

As an example, we're off this week. I am going to visit my parents later on in the week (long drive). So while mine is fully fuelled, we're using DHs so we don't have to top it back up and I can just jump in and go later on.

We're married. We have a child. When we met neither of us had anything except a car each that was worth peanuts. Everything we have is shared assets.

Erm, I know most partners would be angry at this (not necessarily rightly) but is your husband maybe abusive and controlling? Reading between the lines in your posts you should shit scared of him.

She's got her own car.

Is there a reason why you took his car instead of yours?

Ah the laughing emoji, a sure sign of an eloquent argument

It’s the internet ffs 😂

Here, have another one 😘

Yes the Internet does bring out some strange behaviours

Now come on can you imagine if a man took his wives car without permission and damaged it? He would no doubt be a cocklodger with no respect for her property and she should LTB immediately

Actually, it partially was. Yes, his attitude stinks, and obviously his first thoughts should be concern for his wife's wellbeing, but why wouldn't he be angry?

She took his car without asking - yup, his car, because she has her own - because she just fancied driving it because it's new. Basic etiquette would dictate that she asks first before use.

Have you never encountered that sense of disappointment when somebody breaks/rips/scratches/whatever something that belongs to you before you've actually had a chance to enjoy it?

She took his car and dented it, through a lack of care. Assuming OP gave her DH the same details she has posted here, he has every reason to be pissed off if she reversed into a wall because she wasn't concentrating.

Using an emoji to convey laughter in text based communication is not a strange behaviour in the slightest.

Why can't married individuals have some things that are solely theirs?

Because he was sleeping at the time so it was her best chance to drive it.

To be honest she cannot be scared of him if she's willing to essentially steal his car.

I agree.
Some incredibly strange behaviours.

But I think hearing that married couples who are their own individual people and have their own (none-shared) vehicles is outdated - is probably more strange than using emojis.

Anyway, have a great day 😘

The car is not the problem your husband is. I wouldn’t dream of asking permission to use my husband’s car or he mine, we are both insured and just take whatever one. And if someone had a bump in it, shit happens, as long as no one’s hurt no big deal. Don’t get me wrong if I damaged my husbands car I would feel bad but not fearful of his reaction or that I needed to hide it.

OP has updated.

Her dh was mad and told her to pay for it and not to use his car again.

That is all very reasonable.

He didn't beat her. Lock her outside. Threaten to divorce her.

Why are people inventing scenarios?

It's a car for goodness sake, a material object. Just WHAT us the problem? Not worth telling lies over either.

Being “mad” over a scuffed bumper is not reasonable behaviour. Hardly like she wrote it off.

They don't share cars though. This isn't about you and your DH.

And if the man saved up and bought an expensive car he has every right to be annoyed it's damaged in a week by his wife who took it without asking?

Not every couple shares cars and finances.

If they are married then it’s marital property and not “his” and “hers”.

I only mentioned my H as he’s clearly not a prick and an arsehole who values his precious penis extension more than his wife’s feelings.

Sorry Op did I miss whether it was a BMW, an Audi or a Merc?

If it’s a plastic bumper boiling water works.

I'm gobsmacked people think it's normal to help themselves to other peoples property married or not. How many times on here do you see people moaning about their teen kids taking their property without asking and being told yes they are disrespectful vile brats for doing so