I’ve bumped my husbands new car 🚗

[StaceyAl]

I’m in a panic. My husband bought an expensive new car last week. He was having an afternoon nap so I just borrowed it to collect my son from sports training. I’ve reversed into a low wall in a car park (couldn’t see it in my rear view mirror) and have dented the rear bumper.
He’s working from home tomorrow- is there any chance I can get up early and take it to a garage to get fixed and return it without him knowing?
what should I do, I can’t tell him he’ll be furious and I took it without asking

Agreed

She can’t have been that frightened before. She took the car without asking.

You have to drive past a space to reverse into it. That is when you check the space to make sure there are no obstacles because it's not just toddlers that aren't visible behind cars. It's why you are taught to not use just your mirrors when performing manoeuvres. You use your eyes and your ears. She used neither. She didn't even use the advanced safety features in the car.

Yes @HollyKnight she had a minor accident. She probably wasn't concentrating like a lot of people (men and women) who have prangs or accidentally speed. Luckily that's what insurance is for.

I've been reversing cars for nearly 40 years, so I have got the hang of it now.

The crash is only "minor" because no one was walking behind the car at the time. Her driving was dangerous.

And it's not her insurance that will be paying for her mistake though, is it? It's not her premiums that will go up next year if he goes through his insurance.

I’ve read your update, you have bigger problems if you’re genuinely as concerned about his reaction as you appear. I could not respect my dh if he was unreasonable about what is a minor accident like this. It’s not a big deal at all.

I'm concerned that you're scared to tell him. Why? What will happen?

DH and I have both bumped each others cars over the years. Shit happens. We just sort it out.

Yeah, because of how scared the OP was. She was asked many times by posters if her husband was abusive and she ignored all those questions.

I think that’s reasonable for posters to make assumptions.

I once reversed into my own house. I reversed off the drive every single day. Could do it with my eyes shut (never did). One day I just got it all wrong. Obviously knew the house was there. Could see it in the mirrors. Something went wrong somewhere and I scraped the rear wing of the car.

Clearly you're an amazing driver who has never once gotten anything wrong. Please try and see from up there on your high horse that us mere mortals aren't perfect.

Nobody was walking behind her car because nobody was behind her car @HollyKnight . Not sure why you are inventing scenarios that didn't happen? We don't know what would or wouldn't have happened in hypothetical situations so it seems a bit pointless to debate them. OP said she looked so that's all we have to go on. And, frankly, I don't care.

They are married, so it's their insurance.

Well, I hope you remember this attitude if you ever lose a loved one due to someone making a mistake. Because some of us actually have had to bury people who died as a result of someone else's momentary lapse in judgment.

I did exactly this. Hairdryer under car where the indent is - just pushes out when it is warm. Husband no the wiser!

She said she looked in the mirror. She wasn't looking behind her.

And what do you mean "their insurance"? She has insurance on her car. He has insurance on his. She can not claim on her insurance for the damage done to his car.

I hope you remember how sanctimonious you are towards people who make mistakes when you finally make one. Because you will. Because you're human, and humans make mistakes.

There is nothing accidental about reversing too fast into spaces while not looking and while blasting music so loud that you can't hear the parking sensors telling you that you're going to hit something. That's idiotic, not human.

I wish some posters would stop making things up.

OP has spoken to her husband and it seems to have been sorted for now.

OP - I hope you're okay.
If my dp did this I admit I'd be pissed off but there wouldn't be "consequences", I agree with others you sound scared of him?
My Dp did Infact prang my car a few months ago, he misjudged a gap and completely knackered my wing mirror, no I wasn't thrilled about it but he paid for the repair and it hasn't been mentioned since. If I'd done the same in his car, again he wouldn't be thrilled about it but I wouldn't be shaking in fear of telling him

No one said too fast, you've made that up.

Many cars don't have parking sensors either. Just to point out that sometimes you are entirely reliant on your own vision, and things you can't see still exist.

"although my parking sensors did go off I was too heavy footed on the accelerator and it was too late."

I recently crashed my husbands car into the back of someone else as I misjudged a junction. It needed a bumper replacing and I felt a bit daft. I rang DH straight away to tell him and I’m sure he was annoyed but he only asked if I was okay. And not once has he thrown it back in my face or banned me from driving his car. Honestly, you shouldn’t be scared to tell him things!

That's a good tip!

Surley cars should be family cars, so no-one's nicking any cars without asking

I think this is a bit outdated.

Not all married couples like shared or “family” assets. My car is 100% my car. I am my own person with my own possessions.

This! Bloody hell OP your reaction is really worrying!

I think that's a bit outdated