To think DH should sit in the front?

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Now and again we get an Uber with DD for quite journey of about 25/30 mins. Every time DH squeezes in the back with me and DD. I should say we are both a bit bigger and DH is tall. Dd id a teenager. He opens the door for us and we get in and then he makes us budge up and we all sit squashed in whilst the front passenger seat is empty.

Is this weird? He thinks you don't sit in the front seat, I think he should.

I would sit in the front but I generally think he should and secondly he gestures for me to get in first and then gets in after. It would be silly for me to get back out and walk around to the front seat.

What do you think?

Well, if you don’t like being squashed in the back, you can go and sit in the front each time. Unless it’s one of those very rare special Ubers where the seatbelts in the front seat can only be operated by a penis.

Have you ever asked him why he doesn’t sit in the front?

I still don’t understand why when the taxi pulls up, you don’t say “are you getting in the front, or shall I?”

I don't know where you live but this certainly isn't the case where I am. Oh and DH is a taxi driver!

A very VERY strange image has just popped into my head!!

Talk about man things?! How very bizarre!

Never been in a taxi where you couldn’t sit in the front seat. Ever.

Allen keys, tarpaulins and camping trailers. And Yorkies marinated in diesel, I presume.

I think in most other areas of life, he's very gentlemanly and thinks of me and dd, puts our comfort first.

He walks on the road side of the pavement, opens doors, carries heavy bags etc etc.

Yes, but who has to wash his clothes after all of the peasants have jettisoned their slops and sirreverences out of the upstairs windows and he's been right in the firing line?!

OP have you considered that maybe he just likes being with you both?

Yes, indeed - it was definitely about the seat belts. Even a small person, if unrestrained in the back, would carry a significant, destructive force if they were hurled forwards in the event of an impact.

Unless your seat belts are faulty (and thus would fail an MoT), a 35-stone passenger could be in the back row of a 7-seater and still not personally put any of the much smaller people in front of them in any danger in a crash.

But iirr that was an advert about wearing seatbelts.
Seatbelts would have prevented that - it's what they are for!

And how would it even work if you're the driver and have adult passengers?

😂

Not in my family they don't.

I would just sit in the front.

I got an uber a few weeks back and just got in the front passenger seat out of habit.

I apologised when I realised and he said it was fine. We had a nice journey and passed the time by chatting. I don't know if we were talking about 'man things' though.

You both seem to have fixed ideas about the roles and behaviours of men and women though, OP. I'd just do what you feel is for the best if I were you. Just say to him, "It's too cramped in the back. I'll get in the front." Problem solved.

Yes they do! I never ever sit in the back.

I'm surprised that some enterprising person hasn't started producing signs for taxi drivers to hang in clear view of the front passenger seat that say "Do not ask the driver if s/he has been busy, when s/he started his/her shift or when s/he is working until, throughout your entire journey".

I think they'd go down a storm - and, in the case of any blatant infringements, the driver could just wag their finger and say sternly "Don't make me tap the sign!!"

If he's happy sitting in the back, and you're the one who doesn't want to be squashed.. then you sit in the front. I don't know why you think he should!

No, you just have a different world and experience. Good for you, glad you’re happy. I explicitly said this is just what we do!

I always sit in the front in taxis , I get really travel sick.

Good idea - I know a famous person somebody who's got one. I'll ask to borrow it next time I'm giving lifts to long-legged male relatives. 😂

My childhood was on a careful budget, and apart from one time in London (in a black cab) the first time I went in a taxi I was on my own, having caught a lateish train back to my university town.

The driver got out to put my suitcase in the boot, then we both got in by the two front doors. It never occurred to me to do anything else. I've had a taxi maybe three times by myself in the intervening decades and have done the same. Once we all got one back from town (heaving, buses driving past full) and I went in the back with the kids and H automatically got in front and did the chatty stuff.

It has genuinely never occurred to me that there'd be an issue with using the front seat.

Maybe he’d like a snooze himself!

If he isn’t moaning about his ‘longer legs’ being squashed, this really is a you problem 😂

Maybe he's from somewhere where you sit in the back with a screen so you can't stab the driver?

Sorry, if there's no argument and you're not annoyed, what's the point of this?

You need to agree before you get in the uber or taxi who is going to sit in the front.

Its ridiculous all squeezing in the back