To think DH should sit in the front?

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Now and again we get an Uber with DD for quite journey of about 25/30 mins. Every time DH squeezes in the back with me and DD. I should say we are both a bit bigger and DH is tall. Dd id a teenager. He opens the door for us and we get in and then he makes us budge up and we all sit squashed in whilst the front passenger seat is empty.

Is this weird? He thinks you don't sit in the front seat, I think he should.

I would sit in the front but I generally think he should and secondly he gestures for me to get in first and then gets in after. It would be silly for me to get back out and walk around to the front seat.

What do you think?

Where do you live that taxis don't allow you to sit in the front??

I wonder if your DH is just anxious and lonely and doesn't want to spend a minute apart from you, OP.

If you did get straight in the front passenger seat, would he still be expecting you to 'budge up' so that he could sit next to you - forcing the driver to get in the back (in true 'There Were Ten In The Bed' style) and leaving you driving the taxi?!

Generally in this situation I sit in the front. I'm not a man.

Ditto

😂

If I was the teen daughter and my parents were squabbling over everyone being in the back - and no doubt being the squashed in the. Idle, I think I'd just start sitting in the front myself!

You need a Rolls Royce. I hear that they're quite cramped in the front but capacious in the back - because the people who own them don't usually drive them themselves!

It's the same journey every time. Its a rural pick up and DH will go and wait outside to help them find us.

It's after a night out, dark etc and dh has longer legs and can talk about man things in the front. Dd and I generally like to close our eyes and have a mini snooze.

We aren't squabbling. Stop making things up or believing a provocative poster who has made this up.

They talk about man things? Like penises, prostate issues, testicular cancer?

Don't know why so many people are getting arsey about this - I agree the man usually sits in the front - typically because they are bigger (NOT always, Mumsnet pedants).

I agree with you OP - but not sure why you don't just say are you getting in the front or shall I?

All good subjects!

Bit weird to be talking about their penises with a teenage girl in the back, but obviously something you’re comfortable with!

I think, outside of covid, I've only known black cabs to have this kind of rule.

Where you live, can you only order a taxi for 3 people max?

You can generally order a taxi for 4 people - and a normal car turns up. You can't fit 4 in the back so one would have to go up front.

But the op is the one who is bothered about being squashed in the back. It clearly doesn't bother her dh.

So, if it bothers the op then she should say something and sit in the front,

Just say do you want to sit in the front or shall I? It's too squahed for all 3 of us.

I think in most other areas of life, he's very gentlemanly and thinks of me and dd, puts our comfort first.

He walks on the road side of the pavement, opens doors, carries heavy bags etc etc.

I pull my weight, I'm the main driver if we go out as a family, I do the bins and most of the DIY.

Celery people have forgotten that harrowing advert from the 2000s where a mother is killed in a car accident cos her heavier teenage son slams into the back of her seat. It came at a formative time for me - I don’t let people who are bigger than me sit behind me in the car.

I mean yes, we aren't being ironic at all!

We used to sit 3 of us in a back when DD was small as she had anxiety and was sick in a taxi sometimes so it was easier with 2 of us next to her. We might sit 3 of us and put a suitcase at the front sit if there is not enough space in the boot. We might sit 3 of us in this big taxi if we feel for chatting.
Generally we just ask each other who want to sit at the front in advance and that’s it.
Just tell him that you prefer him sit at the front due to the space.

Mmmm. Since, this is just about OPs Sunday morning musings and not a UN conference about the politics of hired transport, I would tend to be in agreement!

Whenever we have been in a taxi, abroad or in our northern UK town, me and DS would get in the back and DH would get in the front, doing the whole 'you been busy' line of communication with the driver!

This has never been an agreement but just a natural 'car filling' arrangement!

The advert was about wearing a seat belt, not having people who are heavier than you sit behind you. And he was hardly a whale of a teenage boy… Very odd that’s your takeaway from the advert.

Hahaha, my husband used to do the same - every time!! Then we went out for a special anniversary meal, all our clothes fully pressed / steamed, and he squashed us all and ruined 3 outfits (and moods). These days I bark a quick ‘sit at the front!’ and he executes.

Maybe PP is thinking of London black cabs - Hackney Carriages - which, on the very rare occasions that I've had cause to use them, seem to be designed to avoid any social/human contact between the driver and passengers at all, with a thick post-office-style window and microphone/speaker system between you both. I'm not certain if there even is a front passenger seat there at all.

To be fair, I suppose it's probably safer if you're working in a huge, potentially dangerous city. And they're normally large cars, with at least five passenger seats in the back (as long as two people don't mind pretending that they're at the cinema but watching the wall at the back instead of the screen). Or maybe they're just designed that way at the demand of the drivers, to prevent them from going postal on the 236th passenger of the day asking them if they've been busy!

With taxis/Ubers that are normal cars - i.e. the exact same car that you might have as a family (except with no easy-to-remember phone number painted on the side) - there's absolutely no reason to avoid using the most comfortable passenger seat at all - even if you're the only passenger.

That’s not what ironic means 😂

If I was the teenager daughter I’d be mortified my mum was so sexist and sit in the front myself!!

What a stupid comment.

I always sit in the front because I can't get in the back. Last time I checked, I was not a man