I’m aware this is privileged and pathetic but…

[Littleacornnut]

How do you shake that ennui/ Boredom/ depression after coming back from a really expensive holiday? (For me that is, it’s all relative i suppose)

honeslty since coming back to the drudgery of everyday I’ve felt really low. Normally I get a bit of post holiday blues I book somewhere else but now I can’t afford to.

I’ve been back a month and still feel pretty low.

yanbu this normal and everyone feels like this after a big hols. It takes a while to shift

yabu- bit of post hol blues is normal but not for this long. Take a wider look at your life

Think about the small indivdual things you enjoyed there. Exercise classes? Reading a book? Sitting outside with a glass of wine? And then try and recreate them.

i adore my holiday but i love my home
so much that it’s always a joy to walk in after being away no matter how luxurious the previous week or so has been

the key is to do a mega clean before you leave so you walk in and everything sparkling with fresh bedding on beds

I’ve been back a month and still feel pretty low.

a month? sounds more than post holiday blues to me, i thought you meant a day or two afterwards

I suspect you don’t enjoy your job?

I suppose that does not help that we were away from 3 weeks and straight back to work so the house is still a veritable bomb site of laundry

Hobbies? Spend time in the garden while the weather is nice? Find something in your home which makes you happy?

Can’t say I’ve ever had post holiday blues, maybe I’m going on the wrong type of holiday. Are you happy with the life you have OP? Maybe dig deep to find out where this feeling is coming from

No I don’t, I really really don’t. But I have to power through, slim pickings In the market place right now

Everyone feels a little bit down after a great holiday, that's natural. But to be so sad after a month is not right. Presumably you are not happy with your life, or some part of it? Try to think exactly what it is you are unhappy about and consider how you can put some changes in place.
Perhaps you want to live somewhere else?
Perhaps you want to be out of a relationship, or in one?
Perhaps you are in the wrong job?

Ah laundry! If you can afford a 3 weeks holiday, book a spring clean in and a day off work to get that washing down. Life is to short not to be happy at home.

I don’t know, honestly I don’t know, I’ve felt so weepy lately, especially at work.

Yeah we need a once a month deep cleaner or just someone to put away my clothes for me. They’ve all been washed but are now in piles just everywhere. Depressing me

op this isn’t post holiday blues
this is feeling low and unhappy generally

That’s the thing I can’t pin point it. I dont love my job, but I just feel so wrestless like I could scream. But I can’t articulate why. I felt ok before my holidays, maybe it was the something to look forward to that was keeping it all together

Are you surrounded by too much stuff at home? Clutter can have such a negative impact and it’s really hard to control. you say the washing is done but not put away, why not give yourself 20 mins of good music which you put away as much as you can. Natural dopamine fix.

how’s things with your partner op?

Sounds like the holiday was an escape. Is it somewhere you would want to move to? If not, is there something you can adjust here to make yourself happier?

Maybe try journaling? That helps me. I've lived abroad a few times and it's really really hard to adjust to coming back here, but it's more the weather and lack of outdoor socialising which I find hard. After a few years I've started to enjoy life more but it took a lot of journaling/therapy, small changes etc. (And knowing I'll probably one day live abroad again when circumstances change).

It sounds like more a reflection on your usual lifestyle .. to be honest I've never felt like that and I haven't even had a 'big' holiday for years ... I like my home, the area I live in, being with local friends, doing my hobbies and interests ... I am retired now but I loved my job and was always happy to get back to work !
You do sound depressed, the fact you haven't found time in a month to put clean laundry away sounds worrying ... and why isn't anyone else in your family helping?

was your really expensive holiday within your means? or were you treated to a glimpse of a lifestyle you could only dream of?

i've always found the best receipe to get over post holidays blues is to book another holiday then you have something to look forwards too

Some has been put away but it’s not all, there was like 7 bin bag amounts. My husband won’t put it away. I asked him to last weekend whilst I cleaned, deep clean, he had the kids with him 2 and 4 and they were just chucking clothes everywhere. So nothing got done.

i work 9/5 but have a commute so I’m out 8/6 normally have to finish off bits in the evening too. So my day ends realistically at 9pm and then we prep food for the next day. I genuinely feel like I don’t have enough time

I never get post-holiday blues tbh. I love going on holiday, but I'm also always happy to be home! Do you like where you live? Are you happy with your home? Do you do enough stuff that's not work?

I think it's a sign you have unmet needs in your day to day life which needs fixing.

I had a weekend away on my own a month ago doing a sporty thing which I loved and since then I have felt the same way- a sort of restlessness and boredom as I was on a high after the weekend then crashed down.

For me I have booked another sport activity in Oct so I have a goal to work towards. Still not quite there so I'm trying to think of other goals.

My husband won’t put it away. I asked him to last weekend whilst I cleaned, deep clean, he had the kids with him 2 and 4 and they were just chucking clothes everywhere. So nothing got done.

ok so that answers my question re what your relationship is like with your partner

It was expensive for us but within our means, budget for and no debt was incurred and no savings drained but it was our entire annual holiday budget so we have to be super frugal if we go away again. It is also not a holiday we could take every year due to cost

i think there is something there, he can be very moody and prone to just going on and on. But around the house he is very involved, for instance he put did the washing and does a lot of cooking and washing up. He does light cleaning too. But he doesn’t put the clothes away as he sees it as ‘well i washed them’ and deep cleaning he doesn’t do

Yes!! No matter how nice the hotel is, it is always amazing to return home to a clean house where things are exactly as we like them. I actually think one of the benefits of holidays is that I have a renewed appreciation for being home.