I’m aware this is privileged and pathetic but…

[Littleacornnut]

How do you shake that ennui/ Boredom/ depression after coming back from a really expensive holiday? (For me that is, it’s all relative i suppose)

honeslty since coming back to the drudgery of everyday I’ve felt really low. Normally I get a bit of post holiday blues I book somewhere else but now I can’t afford to.

I’ve been back a month and still feel pretty low.

yanbu this normal and everyone feels like this after a big hols. It takes a while to shift

yabu- bit of post hol blues is normal but not for this long. Take a wider look at your life

OP it sounds as though the root cause of your unhappiness is much deeper than simply loving your holidays. Your marriage doesn’t sound in a good state at all

i really think we should, at least look into it, but I think for a deep clean it’s about £100 a month which is £1200 a year seems a lot.

How could you discern that from what I said? Because we have differing views on laundry?

(just curious)

It is a lot. Maybe just someone a couple of hours a week for general cleaning/tidying?

it seeps through

he can be very moody and prone to just going on and on.

and you’re asking “maybe i’m really unhappy in my life”

You just spent ten grand on a holiday. Twelve percent of that cost, one percent of it monthly, could revolutionise every month of the year.

That’s actually a really good way to think about it, where as I was thinking of it as thats a cheap holiday lol

Disney blues are a thing, but a month on seems extreme. We went a few years ago and it sounds very cheesy but every day was so amazing that coming back to reality was very hard. I like to recreate things that have happened on holiday, so making my version of a nice meal we had, a cheesecake etc or watching you tube videos of the rides or going through our photos and reminiscing with the children. It will pass but I’d say it’s more to do with how overwhelmed you feel with everything you have to do to get your lives back on track. I didn’t have as much laundry as that but I put everything in colour/white piles on the kitchen floor and didn’t stop until it was done.

Look at it this way - if you were forced to spend six months at Disney World, you would be sick of it long before you got home.

My friends arrange a laundry service for when they return from holiday, how about trying that next time?

Lol as soon as I read your OP I thought 'definitely post Disney depression' 😄
Its definitely worse coming back from a big Disney holiday than a 'normal' holiday and I really struggle too when we come home I totally understand how you're feeling ❤️
I love the Disney bubble and it's SO hard going back to reality when it's all over! Best way to get over it is to start planning the next one!

Alternatively there's the Disney Dream cruises from Southampton in the summer hols if they could be an option?? We also recently visited California Disney (which is cheaper than WDW!) if that could be another option? (Disneyland California is amazing by the way and i'd highly recommend - smaller than WDW but so special!)

You'll get through this 💝🏰

We’d love to go to cali in general, my eldest wants to go to the tar pits too lol.

how much did you budget for the trip, in my head because I shop around a lot, it was looking more costly than WDW . Looked at the Pixar place hotel as a place for the Disney days

Didn’t even know that existed!? I’m definitely doing that next time!

Book another holiday !

I think it’s important to listen to these feelings. You’ve stepped outside your normal life so it’s a chance to reflect and make some changes while you’re still so young.

You said you loved seeing your children’s faces light up everyday so can you try to make your long working days shorter so you both have some time and energy to plan lovely regular family times doing new things. Try until you find what’s good. Doesn’t have to cost thousands. What makes your heart sing OP? Sometimes it’s that we feel so much healthier from being outside more, getting more exercise, spending time relaxing instead of doing a ‘todo’ list.

I don’t think it’s good to push these feelings down, instead use it to have some imagination and vision for how you want your family life to be. Good luck.😀

We booked flights and hotel in the BA sale (definitely worth holding out for a sale if you can) and got a really good deal for last August. Considering it was in school holidays it was very reasonable (and cheaper than Florida which is why we chose it 😄) Then just added on a car and park tickets (Disney, Universal + touristy bits, studio tour etc) and it was so much fun!

We stayed off-site at a hotel about 10mins walk from Disney (again, cheaper than a Disney hotel 😄) which was nice. It wasnt cheap by any means (probably around £8k but that included business class flights) but definitely shop around though and wait for sales, there are definitely deals to be had!

oooh fantastic tips!
how many of your were there and how long did you go for? When factoring in business class tickets that’s very reasonable indeed!

Is anyone else spending today researching Disney holidays after reading this thread? 😆

No. I can't think of anything worse!
However. Each to their own.

To be honest, you could have avoided the 'privileged' bit, and simply said 'holiday' - people would understand. Inserting that into the sentence does imply a bit of a brag.

It was 2 adults 1 child, we went for 10 nights.
Like I said, check prices when the sales are on and if you're flexible on dates it can absolutely be cheaper than Florida!
Look for hotels on Harbour Boulevard as they're close to Disney but not with Disney prices 😀

Attraction Tickets do sales aswell for when you're looking for Disney/Universal tickets.
Another bonus of California was that Super Nintendo World is already open (and is awesome!) I know the one in Florida is close to being finished though it was definitely nice to go before the Florida one opens 😄

I’ve said this a few times now, that was to illustrate I can’t ‘just book another’, expensive is relative, my expensive might be your reasonable and vice Versa

So what are you planning to do op? because your Op certainly conveyed the impression that you are very unhappy.

Time for the feeling to pass?

Or really explore why this has hit you so hard and for such a long time

i think your husband being “very moody” and “prone to going on and on” should be addressed either way.