I’m aware this is privileged and pathetic but…

[Littleacornnut]

How do you shake that ennui/ Boredom/ depression after coming back from a really expensive holiday? (For me that is, it’s all relative i suppose)

honeslty since coming back to the drudgery of everyday I’ve felt really low. Normally I get a bit of post holiday blues I book somewhere else but now I can’t afford to.

I’ve been back a month and still feel pretty low.

yanbu this normal and everyone feels like this after a big hols. It takes a while to shift

yabu- bit of post hol blues is normal but not for this long. Take a wider look at your life

If you can afford a 3 week holiday then you can afford a 2 week holiday and a housekeeper to come after the holiday to launder and fold the laundry away.

That is what I would do. 3 weeks is a long time. 10 days feels like 2 weeks. Pretty sure 2 weeks just feels like 3 weeks anyway. But you will be happier if your home is sorted.

If it helps think of those ppl who have not had a holiday for 10 plus years. I like to learn languages, and I pick a film on Netflix, and eat food/snacks from that country its actually fun. Besides I have a dog so stick to the UK.

I feel similar after my week in the sun (not Disney) I think it's because it's not that nice weather wise here just now. I'm getting over it by researching destinations for my next holiday. Can't actually afford to book another one at the min but still enjoying looking into where I want to go to next.

YABU to mention the holiday was expensive and I would wonder why you needed to over time spent and I assume you enjoyed. YANBU, though to feel sad the holiday has ended over going back to the daily grind as it were. I'm childfree/pet free/unmarried and love my holiday's too relative to wedding/kids/pets costs. It's what I live for in life and my priority over anything else. I always feel "the blues" when I get back. I love warmer weather and was born in the wrong place.

I don't think it helps you've come back to such miserable, dull weather. I think when it hopefully brightens up it will help

How old are you OP? Could this be related to perimenpause?

I don't do big holidays. Haven't been abroad in a decade. But I have lots of cheap UK holidays (and by cheap I really mean that our summer bargain is 4 nights in a camping pod for £100 and October in a caravan for four nights is even less though we do have extra weekends etc for a bit more). I do something most months.

The money I would spend on big holidays would mean I'd have to work full time. And I don't want to. I earn reasonable money and enjoy having longer weekends.

But I used to feel like you. I personally would rather sacrifice the big one off treat for a nicer lifestyle all of the time but we are not all the same. I like being outside with a lovely view. I am not bothered by five star luxury but if that's your thing then you accept the other sacrifices. There's no right or wrong, just working out what suits you best.

The cost was relevant to the fact I can’t just book another trip as this years holiday budget has been spent.

Flipping hope not, I’m 33 (mum didn’t start peri menopause until 50s).

I knew it was Disney as soon as I read the OP 😅we went in October/ November of last year with kids of a similar age and I felt like this for a good month after returning too, I think it is quite normal. I have recovered now, planning DLP for next year as a stop gap between saving and planning to go again in a few years 🙂

I’m on DLP v a Disney cruise. Can’t decide. DLP is having quite a bit of work done though, I think, the studios bit being renamed and stuff, not sure if it will be worth it, but saying that you can find some really cheap deals occasionally.

might have to do Disney on ice to see us (read me) through the year 😅

Dig into that statement. More what? What's missing in your life?

He didn't wash them. The machine did.
How difficult is it to put clothes in a machine and switch it on? I'm always puzzled by some people thinking it's onerous.
The problems are to do with the household chores and organisation. If you're both too busy, get domestic help.

That’s what I say, he wasn’t down at the river using a rock to beat the clothes.

saying that, the one household task I find so onerous it’s painful, it folding and putting away clothes. I’d literally rather scrub the patio on my hands and knees

Where did you go op?

Why can't he fold and put away the clothes?
Maybe you can "do the washing" and he can fold and put away?.

Can you live a life of steadier emotions re holidays? Always book what you can easily afford, always have the next one somewhat planned before the current one ends? I divide my AL across 4 holidays spread out evenly across the year. Every NY I sit down with my new diary and start to plan them. I don't actually go on expensive holidays because I prioritise other things that make me happier, but the regular time off keeps me steady.

It's not the coming back from a great holiday that's the problem, it's the fact that you're not really happy coming back at all and you need to work out why.
I've had some great holidays, but I love coming home!

You may just need to re-curate your life.

The main feeling I get in the middle of a holiday is that I can't wait to be back home. Because I've recently changed my lifestyle and honestly no holiday can measure up to it.

Sundays spent at the club reading in the sunshine with coffees etc overlooking manicured gardens and countryside. Massages and meditation. Meeting with friends several times a week. Beautiful clothes, bags, shoes, hairdos. Balls at stately homes. Ballet, opera, theatre, academic discussions.

Disappearing into uninhabited countryside in good company. Sunrise swims in the wild. Cute animals. Picnics in the middle of nowhere. Spontaneous hugs, kisses, sex. Taking an interest in others around you and helping where you can.

I used to live in a plane, always dashing off somewhere more exotic, and actually everything you're looking for can be there in the everyday if you make it happen - and perhaps throw some of the holiday money at it.

I always tried to enjoy my day to day life, not spend all my days looking forward to the weekend, or a holiday. Its a question of attitude, you may not be able to change your job at the moment, but you can change your attitude to it, and your life, live in the moment. Happiness is within you, not somewhere else.

My thoughts and prayers with you at these difficult times.

This is a bone of contention in our house. I’d rather do it bit by bit, one load, put it away, then another load etc. Whereas he’d rather go on a mad one, which means loads to put away which is quite overwhelming to put away. So he says I don’t do it fast enough

Book another one! I booked one while laid the sun lounger on our last day

It's not the need for a holiday and it's not the washing. Something else is wrong.
Perhaps sit down with your husband and talk through what's troubling you?

I think leaving the UK for a trip nowadays puts you at risk of severe holiday blues. The UK has declined so rapidly these last few years that coming back to the depressing sadness that seems to be everywhere is quite overwhelming.

Spending time on a resort where everyone is tanned and glowing with a happiness vibe around them is a stark contrast to the grim reality of being back home. Hopefully it doesn’t last too long and you get used to being back in good old shitey.