I’m aware this is privileged and pathetic but…

[Littleacornnut]

How do you shake that ennui/ Boredom/ depression after coming back from a really expensive holiday? (For me that is, it’s all relative i suppose)

honeslty since coming back to the drudgery of everyday I’ve felt really low. Normally I get a bit of post holiday blues I book somewhere else but now I can’t afford to.

I’ve been back a month and still feel pretty low.

yanbu this normal and everyone feels like this after a big hols. It takes a while to shift

yabu- bit of post hol blues is normal but not for this long. Take a wider look at your life

I am fortunate to travel really a lot, I always like up a few social things with my friends the week I get back and that works well.

Book another holiday.

I assume you have a roof over your head and food whenever you need to eat. That's more than some people have ATM. I'm sure they would love to be in your shoes.

My mind is blown by the fact this has been triggered by a trip to Disneyland 😅

My kids are too young to know what that is so I’m safe for a couple of years but I’d (wrongly) assumed you’d gone on some luxury, child free holiday rather than the madness that appears to be Disney! Wondering I’ll feel the same way if I’m ever persuaded to go.

I think PP’s are right though and this is a bigger issue of feeling unhappy at home.

Yes, it surprised me too that this was triggered by Disneyland rather than some exotic location with interesting and amazing new things to see and do. This confirms it's not about returning from a holiday.

Not Disneyland, Disney World... Which has Broadway level productions, some of the most technologically advanced rides and award winning restaurants. Holidays don't have to be "exotic" to be full of interesting and amazing things.

For an adult, though?

Well I like shows, restaurants and rides so yep, for an adult too. Adults are allowed to enjoy things that aren't spas and operas too.

Well what are you whinging for then? You've got a phone and an internet connection, and I assume Terry Taliban isn't about to drag you out of the roofless mud hut you live in and frisbee you off the top of Kajaki damn for speaking in the tongue of the infidel? No? Well you've nothing to complain about then, have you. You've got a hell of a lot more than millions of other women have after all...

You see how this works, right? There's always gonna be someone who's got more than we have, and there's always gonna be someone with less, but everyone's experience is subjective and just because someone on what we perceive as the greener side of the fence is struggling with something doesn't mean you should attack them for it or that they're bad people. We'd be enraged if we had to queue for 45 minutes to get to the till in ASDA, but how many would say "Actually I'm thrilled to have the chance just to be in a queue! 24 people got blown up by a car bomb at the vegetable market in Sadr city last week, so it doesn't matter that I'll be late to pick the kids up!" - does that mean we're bad people and deserve to be kicked when we're down?

Well, it just seems strange to have such a strong reaction after this kind of holiday, and reading other posts from the OP, there's a lot more going on.

This really doesn’t sound like post holiday blues (is that even a thing?) It sounds like you’re generally tired, stressed, unmotivated and the holiday was a brief distraction.

I wouldn’t focus on the next holiday but on making changes to your ordinary life.

I remember once driving round the SW of the US for a month, arriving 24 hours late at Manchester and phoning a friend from the train to get me from a station near school to be able to attend a training day. I think I actually fell asleep at one point though that wasn't unusual for a training day! The best part of returning home is my own bed.

Was it your first time to Disney with the kids, OP? There might be some extra sadness that this wonderful thing you’ve been planning for your babies is over and even if you rebook you won’t have that first moment again.

When my DTs were 4 we did an amazing Disney trip for 3 weeks including the Disney cruise. It was magical. They’re nearly 16 now and I still think about that trip and feel a tug of sadness!

Also, laundry loads should be done by person not colour or load type. It makes folding and putting away so much easier.

I'm with you on putting clothes away!! It's a job i deteste, as evidenced by my mountain on the kitchen table- dp said they'll soon be selling tickets for walking tours on it! ((he doesn't live with me before anyone says get him to put them away). That and once I've decluttered actually getting the bags to the tip are my two down falls.

Seriously though, I feel like this after a holiday. Back to the mundane work and home life. I miss having someone come in and clean up after me, cook and make my bed. I've noticed with each holiday I'm getting more anxious about going back to work. So I've asked for condensed days, I'm waiting to hear the outcome!

We use 5 baskets and a clothes rail to assist

Wash dry
Fold into baskets
1 x each person
1 x house stuff (bedding/tea towels etc)
Basket in bedroom of owner
Owner of hanging stuff removed from rail.

Smaller children assisted with putting away (by 8 ish mine could do their clothes)

Rules of engagement. One up, all
up i.e. it’s a team effort and no one sits down until we all sit down.

Your life sounds hard work OP (I studied my professional exams when the kids were small
and never stopped each night until 9.30pm - hard yards)

I've recently come back from a 3 week holiday and also feel very disgruntled. Part of it for me is coming back to this shitty weather. Wearing dresses for 3 weeks and now horrible. I'm just looking forward to the next one which isn't long as retired. All this election talk too is depressing.

What do you suggest she does with her children and job?

On a side note, what's a deep clean versus a light clean? Deep=spring clean??

It seems common post Disney world, but perhaps it’s a bit of both.

I don’t get a bit meh post all holidays but Disney land Paris didnt incite the same reaction

I have also considered the cruise but might save that until kids are a bit older, deffo on the “must do” list at some point though! Yes DLP is having a bit of a revamp so planning for later in the year, I’m excited about Frozen land 😅and I have also booked Disney on ice “for the kids”. Have fun whatever you decide and I hope you get over your holiday blues soon!

Have you managed to talk to your husband yet? Perhaps make some time and talk through what's really bothering you?

Yeah he feels a bit low too but he doesn’t seem to get it

Has he identified why or how he feels low?
It's natural to feel tired with two young children and demanding jobs. Have you thought about getting some domestic help?

Expensive does not automatically mean good

Great holidays can be cheap or expensive

The idea an expensive holiday is something special in itself would mean that person has a warped sense of things

Cost matters in so far as if it was expensive (relative to the individual of course) you can’t just ‘book another holiday’

but way to be sanctimonious