To think this is a giant red flag?

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Been on a few dates with a guy. Due to travels we've been chatting a long time but only been on a handful of dates. I haven't slept with him yet because I didn't feel ready. We get on great. No issues until....

On Friday night, I was in a bar with work colleagues when a random drunk man came and sat down next to me and put his hand on my knee and then, before I could move away, attempted to put it up my skirt.

I obviously moved away and spoke to the staff and he was thrown out the bar. No harm done but not the nicest experience.

I told the guy I've been dating about this and his response was "well you did look hot in that dress" (he'd seen a photo from that night) "...but I can't have some random drunk guy getting further with you than I have".

I'm not a sensitive person AT ALL and I honestly thought this was a vile response.

AIBU to think this is gross and a huge red flag?

Run.

Don’t take this one any further - permanently.

Yeah red flag. Yuck.
set this one free.

Gross. Immediate bin. Either he thought it was funny or he meant it. Either way (and anywhere in between) = gross/bin/run.

Ew. Neeeeeeeeeext.

Sorry that happened to you op.

Bloody hell. That’s quite the worst response possible.

Did you not say anything to him at the time op? I’d have been tempted to bin him there and then.

Vile response - ditch and run

I have the ick just reading that.

It was via text message and I haven't replied since!

Christ. Either comment would be a big red flag, urghh he's made my skin crawl and I don't even know him.
Very sorry that happened to you at the bar (which is what he should have said)

So, you were sexually assaulted and that was his response? What an absolute knuckledragging creep. Block and delete immediately.

Oh, dear. Sorry you wasted all that effort, but glad you found out sooner rather than too late!

Creepy lecher by proxy. That's going some 🤮

He's not prepared to back you up, or even offer any sympathy.

I'm sure you know what to do!

Gross

And he delivered that hideous message by text? Beyond gross. Had it been in person I'd think maybe he's read you wrong, that you are making light of the incident. A BIG maybe. But by text? He's got to go.

Yuck. What a scumbag.

Wow! What will you reply OP? He's the type of guy who'll say "Sorry to upset you. It was only a joke babe!"
Gross, but brilliant he's shown you so early on 🚩🚩

Yeah that is really not a nice response, I think I'd avoid to be honest

Throw this one back

You've dodged a bullet there, a nice clear signal early on that he's a waste of your time.

I don’t normally comment on the dating threads as I’m so out of touch but that’s 100% terrible. I’d never want to hear from him again.

So he's more bothered by the fact that random drunk guy got 'further with you' than he has than how you are actually feeling about being assaulted? Nice...

Ewww disgusting response. Bin immediately. I would just not reply and block.

I’d certainly not want to be seeing him again. I’d be scared what he’d do.
Get rid OP. Not the response I’d be looking for when I said I’d been assaulted in a bar.

Agree with pp. Dump and block.