Would you be ok with Dh taking dc on a flight for the first time

[Tomisstheolddays]

Without you, for 3 days, my dc is 5, never flown before, never been away from each other overnight.
I’m not sure about it

Yes, of course. I'd be thrilled. A lovely break for me!

Unless DH is an incompetent parent, what's the issue?

If you would do it without DH then he should be able to do it without you. 5 is plenty old enough. They are at school by then.

Is it the actual flight or the time away you are concerned about?

Yes, my DH is a capable man able to navigate an airport and look after a child. I’m assuming he is not going to Kiev or some where else potentially dangerous.

Unles DH is an irresponsible arse then no way but without any information on your dh it’s hard to tell.

Well why would I be better at it than my husband? I may be female but does not male me better

Yes I would fine

Of course! How would you feel if he was asking the same question? Do you have issues trusting his ability to keep your child safe?

I don't get what having not flown before has to do with the situation?

Yes of course I’d be fine with it. I’d miss my child, but I wouldn’t object - my husband has as much right as I do to take the kids somewhere.

It’s not about Dh, he’s perfectly capable. It’s about her being away from me for 3 nights and days in a new place, would she be go ok?

Why wouldn't she be?

Of course she will. She'll be with daddy having lots of exciting new experiences. She might miss you a bit, but will probably be more than happy with a video call or two.

Thats a completely different question to your title.

Of course she will be ok

She is with her dad, she will be fine and have a great time. This is more about you than her. Let her go and have fun with her dad.

I suppose because we’ve never been away from one another for a night, she’ll be in a different country and meeting family she’s never met

Yes of course

So sounds perfect then

Yes of course. DH is an equal parent. He regularly took DT’s to Canada to visit his parents when I couldn’t go due to work commitments

This is a you problem, not a H problem.
She will be with a parent, who you say is capable.
Has he ever been away and left her with you? Was it fine? Is there any rational reason she should be less fine with him than with you?

Is there a reason you are not going?
But to answer your question - my dh took ds on his first ferry trip and flight at that age and they had a blast!

Yes of course. They will both be fine

3 DAYS?

If I didn't trust my DH with my kid for such a short time, I am not sure I would stay with him frankly.

How do you imagine your DH would react if you were the one being left alone with your child for 3 days?

Your child will be fine. Of course, they might miss you a little bit, but the other parent is perfectly ok to handle that. Being in another country makes no difference for your kid, it's exciting and interesting, but they would miss you the same - probably not as much as you think if they're with daddy - if you were 2 houses down.

Yes but she’ll be with her dad.

You should have put more detail in the original post because your question changes with every update.
Is this a situation where they are from a different culture and that is what you’re worried about?

All of which frankly means that she's even less likely to think of or miss you, because everything is new and it's not a situation where she's used to having you there. If she does feel a bit sad at some point, her dad can comfort her.

This is a you issue. You need to not project your issues on her.

Unless her father is incompetent, why wouldn't it be ok?