Would you be ok with Dh taking dc on a flight for the first time

[Tomisstheolddays]

Without you, for 3 days, my dc is 5, never flown before, never been away from each other overnight.
I’m not sure about it

I don't worry at all. DH will be looking after DS5 for 3 days next week and 2 days the week after. My in-laws have had him for a few days and they live 200 miles away.

She’s 5, she would be fine. As much as it might hurt to think they can’t cope without mum, they can. Let her go. Your DH should have every right to take his child to see family

I mean this kindly...

Is it possible that your losses have had a deep impact on you and on your response to the prospect of separation?

Would you say you have developed anxiety as a result of those losses? Do you have a tendency to 'wrap DD in cotton wool'? A tendency toward overprotectiveness? A tendency to be anxious about her?

If something happens...
You can't always be there for your child. Accidents and hurt feelings can happen any time in a childs life. You are not going to be there to help with a skinned knee or when a nasty word is spoken in the playground, or when a teacher's tone upsets her.

It is very good for a child to learn to face difficulties without mum or dad there to offer comfort. It is very good for a child to learn to trust other adults to hear her if she's in distress and care for her. It is very good for a child to learn to advocate for herself - "Miss A, I'm feeling sick", "My knee is bleeding and I need a plaster", "Someone called me a horrible name amd hurt my feelings", "I don't like the scary parts in films", "Thank you for tea, Mrs A, is it OK if I don't eat the peas?"...

I believe I can see a vestige of the feelings you may have experienced when you suffered your losses there in that fear. Have you forgiven yourself for your losses? Mothers can often carry around a burden of guilt over pregnancy loss.

No.

But would you consider a babysitter for a few hours on a Saturday morning?

A mother's helper even, to come and play with DD while you put your feet up or get some ironing done?

Hopefully, she will have a new baby sibling in a few months, and it would be a good idea to introduce a helper/ companion for her to ease into the reality of mummy being very busy with feeding and caring for the baby, and too knackered to take her to the park, etc.

I would have missed my children but I wouldn’t have been worried. My children’s dad is capable of looking after them, comforting them and dealing with anything that would come up. The chances of anything bad happening are so tiny that it’s not worth thinking of.

Of course!

Is there a reason to worry like he might not return?