Would you be ok with Dh taking dc on a flight for the first time

[Tomisstheolddays]

Without you, for 3 days, my dc is 5, never flown before, never been away from each other overnight.
I’m not sure about it

Flight - not a first I’d care about, in fact as small children are hard work on flights a bonus to miss that
First time apart for 3 days - can see you might be worried. I have 2 DC who would have been fine with this and one who struggled to be away from me. In fact she’s 22 now and still likes a high level of contact! You could do a trial run of shorter time/same country to acclimatise
Meeting husband’s family - I’d be a bit sad to miss out as it’s a big milestone but not worried unless I knew something averse about the family

She'll be with her dad. Why wouldn't she be O.K.?

In your shoes, of course I'd miss her. But that isn't a reason for her not to go.

As others have said, miss yes, worry no.
I had to go back to work in a job that requires travel when my boys were both babies. I was the other side of the Atlantic by the time the first was 6 months old, and snowed into a European country when the second was 7 months old. I missed them both horribly, but had every confidence that they would be fine with their father. So for me, it is unusual that by age 5 you have never had a night away from her. Not wrong, but unusual.

As you are pregnant now, you may need to start 'separating' yourself a bit, for the longer term good of your family. To fully trust your H that he will look after her, and know how to calm her if she is upset for any reason.

Yes but I wouldn’t be worried my dh couldn’t cope. I would just miss them.
if she’s going to family there are people who will love and help look after her. She’ll love the attention.

FaceTime and call x

Enjoy this time in your early pregnancy. Rest, relax and eat well.
I hope all goes well xxx

I think there were men that took their children on the Titanic alone , that didn't end well .But they can manage . Women are not mythical creatures . I wish they were but they're not. Alas they're not or the ship wouldn't be such a disaster .

Of course! I’d enjoy the time to myself.

I am amazed you’ve never had a night away from her in 5 years!

@MaryFuckingFerguson Why? We don’t live near family, I’ve been for girls nights and back around 3, but she’s asleep and sees me in the morning

My DD went with her father to visit his parents abroad at 6 months old without me for a week and all was fine.
At 5 years old it will be a lovely bonding trip for them ❤️

Yep, fine. I love it when DH takes the kids away. I wouldn't mind missing their first flight.

I think you are worrying yourself unnecessarily OP. Your child will be with their father, and loving relatives. Yes you will miss her, but this is an important step in her development as an independent human being, and you should be proud that she is ready to take it. You can face time her to see how she is enjoying her holiday, but if you do be positive, don’t ask if she is missing you, or say you are missing her.

At least 3 times a year I take my 3 year old away for weeks without DH/her dad. It's never occurred to me to not do? Is that you don't want to miss out?

I'm sure most parents would miss their child, but that isn't a reason not to let the child go.

I completely get that you haven't spent a night away from your child before, but perhaps now is the time to get more comfortable with that. It's a lot better for your five-year-old to experience her first couple of nights away from you now, in the context of an exciting holiday with Daddy, than it would be if her first nights away from you were (for example) in hospital having an emergency operation, or indeed if you have to spend a couple of nights in hospital when your new baby arrives.

No, I'd want to be there, and my DH would get it.

My DH recently took our then 4yo on a 5 hour flight to see relatives. I couldn't go because of work. He got upset on facetime the first night because he missed me but overall they were gone for 5 nights and they had a great time together.

Far better for her first time away from you overnight to be on a fun holiday with daddy.

Than when you go and have the baby. There's all sorts of things that could mean that you might need to stay in hospital for a few days at some point.

So a really good idea to get both of you used to it

Its normal to miss them. But we can't not do things just because we might miss them.

As they grow up, we need to encourage them to spread their wings. Its part of parenting them... make them independent of us.

That's entirely different to what you said initially, though.

And yes, she'll be fine - unless you're going to dripfeed additional information...

I think this is pregnancy hormones speaking, OP. There's absolutely nothing to worry about, other than your own feelings.

She'll have a blast. And fgs don't tell her how you're feeling!

The flight is a red herring though I think! If she was going for 3 days away with other parent in a car at 5 surely no one would bat an eyelid? I think she'll be fine and it will be a fun adventure for her. I'm sure you'll miss each other but it's good practise too in case you're in hospital for a few days after birth

Normal to miss your DC but in the unlikely event of anything happening, your DH will be there

I was working in Singapore when DS broke his leg badly at school. I got a flight home asap but DH was with DS all the time in hospital and as he was taken into surgery.

He’s his dad. How would you feel if he didn’t trust you in similar circumstances?

Miss their child? less than I'd though 😂
Worry? I worry even when they are in the park behind the house, but we still need to have a life.

How long is the flight?
Is it another language?
I will take a wild guess and imagine it's fairly civilised, at worst, if something was happening , can't the family arrange video calls with you, it's not like you will disappear.

For 3 days, it can't be Australia from the UK, which would be a bit of an issue regarding the flight for you.

Gently, but I think the question is if YOU will be ok. She will be fine! Even if there’s a bit of adjusting, that’s a normal part of growing up and it would be a wonderful experience for her. Don’t frame this as a negative thing, especially not around her or your partner.

She’ll be with her father who you say is perfectly capable of looking after her, she’ll be fine. Get a spa weekend booked in and enjoy the break!

Why yes of course. It’s not like you’re mum and therefore the default ie read better parent. He is an adult and will be able to look after your child. I suppose you have no hesitation to go without him?