Would you be ok with Dh taking dc on a flight for the first time

[Tomisstheolddays]

Without you, for 3 days, my dc is 5, never flown before, never been away from each other overnight.
I’m not sure about it

I do wonder how some people navigate life!

Would no one else be worried and miss their child 🙈maybe I have issues, I still see 5 as young to be away from me for that long in another country. If something happened I couldn’t be there
Its not another culture, I can’t go as I’m in the early stages of pregnancy after many losses, I don’t want to risk anything

I'm taking my 6 year old away on a plane for 4 days without dh. Dh hasn't taken him on a plane, but he has taken him 7 hours away on a trip (by car) without me for several days. I also took ds away on a place for several days when he was a baby without dh.

Realistically, no I wouldn't be worried about him being so far away from me with dh. They'll be fine. I would be a bit nervous about the plane, because I am a nervous flier! But given I've taken him away on planes myself, which seems less scary because I'm the one doing it, I can't really say I'd be uncomfortable. I'd be nervous until I knew they were safely landed though.

I might be a bit sad about not being there to witness her first flight, but would be completely happy for DH to travel with and care for DC for 3 days.

Of course she will, he's her parent.

Yes, I’d absolutely miss him. But I’d be ok. And no, I wouldn’t be worried.

I think you're being a little paranoid and worrying too much but if you've never had a night away from her I can understand your concern. It will be fine, of course. But sure, she might be a bit unsettled becuase she's not used to it. But that's not really a bad thing - a good learning for both her and DH.

I'd miss them of course, but I totally wouldn't stand in the way. It would be a me problem. I'd get over it.

Think about your husband and daughter having a great time away. Stop making it about you.

I'd miss my child, but I'd also enjoy the break. I wouldn't be worried because there would be nothing to be worried about.

Miss yes, worry no it's not about me

Of course parents (fathers as well as mothers) miss their dc when they're away from them. And as you will be away from your dd for the first time I understand you may feel anxious.
I have been a single parent to my dd since her birth and she was 5 when she first stayed away from me. I was anxious before hand because it was an entirely unknown experience but it went brilliantly.
Your dd will be with her other parent. A parent she has lived with all her life. She will be fine.

You're projecting your upset on not seeing DC for a few days onto her.

She'll be fine. Totally.

Don't make her miss out because you'll miss her.

As she hasn't spent a night away from you in 5 years I'd take it as a great opportunity to change that.

My DC went with GPs to Italy for a week when youngest was 4.

Yes I missed them.
No I didn't worry as completely trust my parents.

I would miss my child, sure, and tbh I'd probably also feel sad that I didn't get to be on their first flight with them - just to see their excitement etc! Not that I'd tell them that and spoil it for them. But worry, not really, DH is also his parent and capable?

Would no one else be worried and miss their child 🙈maybe I have issues, I still see 5 as young to be away from me for that long in another country. If something happened I couldn’t be there
Worrying and missing are totally different things. I'd miss her, I wouldn't be worried. Nor would I send her away to another country with another family member but with her own dad of course it's fine

I'd relish the break! Dh took ds to Oz when he was 8. They had a blast

Miss DC, of course. But I’d see this as the start of her being a little less dependent on you. Otherwise you’ll be the one whose DC can’t cope with a one night school residential in Y4 and she’ll miss out on so many things.

I wouldn't worry about the DC for a second if they were away with DH, he's their parent, same as me. Is your partner not very involved in the day to day parenting?

I took DD away by myself at 4 to visit family, her first flight. DH was slightly envious he was missing the excitement, but no other issues.

Miss my child yes. Worried that are with a competent parent who is more than capable. No

Why not, she is with her Dad? I am separated from my exH and he has been having our DD on his own in his new house since she was 7. I also used to travel for work from when DD was 2 and she stayed home with her Dad 2, 3 or even 5 nights. It was tough (single parenting is) but they survived and whilst pleased to see me back, my DD was never upset that I'd gone.

Edited to add that of course I miss her. I miss her now she is 13 as much, or maybe more, than I did when she was 3. I chat to her on the phone and hug her a lot when she gets back.

She’ll have a lovely time. She’ll be fine. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I don't understand the question. Why wouldn't you (I assume he is their dad)? What an odd question.

Miss yes. But by this time I would have always been away on work for up to 2-3 nights and DH for longer. Has your DH been away from home? Presumably your DC has also been in school so isn't around you 24/7. As long as DH is competent I wouldn't worry at all. I might miss them, and the whole adventure but I wouldn't be worried. For the record DH first took DC1 on a flight without me at about 2 to see the parents (I was at a conference), and since then has taken one or both away without me.

Also 3 nights is not long- it's an extended weekend yes? For a little baby with no sense of time that might be long but not for a five year old.