To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

YANBU. It's grim.

I’m so confused.

Are you talking about kids or dogs now?

The OP is talking about a range of people from what I can see. Some people who do it occasionally and one person who spent three days in their pyjamas. (Disclaimer: I haven’t gone back and checked and need to disappear now because I need to get dressed and take the dog for a walk before work).

Lounge wear. It's that in between . I wouldn't go out in it. But I also don't consider it sleep wear . If its say a Sunday and I know we are in for the day I give my kids till just before lunch . Then say shower/change into comfy clothing .

Why wouldn't you sit in your home on a Sunday or whenever do you not like your house ? I mean if it helps you to be out and about then crack on but not everyone is you, I wasn't over the door yesterday I did some bits pieces of housework caught up on TV played with my dog then napped it was great. I didn't feel shut in or lazy or unexcersised

I do, I do 10 minutes yoga everyday before my morning shower. Doesn't negate the need to get fresh air. The benefits of walking outdoors are well researched.

I was gonna say - there’s an opposite end to this spectrum, which is people who have to have a face full of makeup to sit in the house/pop to the shops! Each to their own.

I was dressed though 😀

Exactly ! In the depts of the winter and its lashing rain and we don't need to go anywhere, who cares ?

@Bunchesofhyacinths not short enough that you don't have time to change.

We stay in PJs all day for a lazy day at home but that happens maybe once every couple of months and is not a regular thing

That's fine for you ( well tbh probably not great, how do you get your 10,000 steps?) but is absolutely not ok for young children.

I spend most of my time in pyjamas because I work from home and theyre comfy. I dont sleep in them though, theyre more like my day clothes. I'm happy, I don't mind what other people think and hobestly I never think about whether other people do or not, their daywear choices do not affect me 😁

So your needs and wishes come first no matter what @Neurodiversitydoctor?

Would you feel the same if you had an autistic or neurodiverse child who needed a day "off" from the world in order to regulate and not become overwhelmed?

I hope your username isn’t reflective of your job title 😬

I agree with you OP.

@Neurodiversitydoctor show me the research that says it benefits ALL people.

Also lots of things have benefits but that doesn't mean you need to do them every single day 🙄

I don’t sleep in pyjamas and there’s rarely a day we don’t leave the house, but on such days I would have a shower then stick on whatever I have that closest resembles pyjamas. I absolutely wouldn’t be wearing a bra. DS 18m, would stay in onesie if it doesn’t get covered in breakfast.

https://www.savethechildren.org.uk/news/media-centre/press-releases/children-today-62-percent-less-likely-to-play-outside-than-their?ppc=true&matchtype=&s_keyword=&adposition=&s_kwcid=AL!9048!3!458052851960!!!g!!&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gclid=*

If not going out I’d rather shower and change into joggers and a hoody than stay in PJs.

https://activeforlife.com/why-outdoor-play-is-critical-to-child-development/?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjw9vqyBhCKARIsAIIcLMFjsYzxXIhWTwwnNoKdxkNhrdPaPxhsTtPOEvwBuPCoG9TeeSe1iA8aAsO5EALw_wcB&gclsrc=aw.ds

Oh Im not able to do a million steps I don't own a smart watch that counts them I was up and down my stairs a few times. If that makes a difference. You have your mind made up that children need outside every single day that's OK that's your mindset.

I WFH in my pjs 3 days a week and I don’t feel minging or depressed at all. I have a shower after I’ve finished work and change into fresh pjs (unless I’m going out obviously)

My office days I’m up showered and fully scrubbed up before 8am and I see working in my pjs underwear free being a bit of a tramp for a few days as a perk of WFH after 35 years commuting fully dressed and made up.

If people want to judge me I don’t care as at my age (55) I’ve long stopped worrying about the opinions of others

https://childmind.org/article/why-kids-need-to-spend-time-in-nature/#:~:text=Spending%20time%20outdoors%20isn't,nature%20can%20build%20their%20confidence.

It's not something I do, unless I'm ill, but I don't think it's disgusting and I understand why people would. I don't sleep in PJs so it wouldn't be any different from me wearing outdoor clothes. They are no dirtier. . In fact they'd be cleaner as they haven't been outdoors! I have let my toddler son stay in his PJs (he requests to stay in them!) But I've only done this once or twice as I like to get him out of the house. It has only been done on days where it's pouring with rain and we have no plans.

If she's happy doing it, why do you care OP? Why not just let her be and get on with your day? Why do need everyone to sit here commenting on her hygiene?