To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

My word, the judgement 😂 if people are sitting around at home, doing nothing, then why bother to change…? They don’t need to “start the day” because they’re not doing anything.

I agree with this. My mindset would be awful if l didn't get dressed - unless l was ill of course

@Neurodiversitydoctor great articles, not what I have asked for though.

Nope one of the best things to do especially in winter. Why cause more washing. And using the word minging come on 😳😂

I worked with preschoolers for 20odd years you don't have to educate me on the benefits of them being outside, all I'm saying is it's fine to be at home and hang around the house too.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9566327/

It's not something I do unless poorly, but even then I get up and get a fresh pair of pjs!

My ex suffered with depression and wouldn’t get dressed or leave the house even on a beautiful day. He missed so much of life. Doctors tried to get him to leave the house every day . Don’t set yourself up for this .

I agree op, even as babies I changed their clothes, even if to another sleepsuit.

As a grown adult I don't wear pj's at night anyway, hate clothes in bed. In the morning it's shower and dress in our house, the young adult DDs are told get dressed if they are slobbing around

Yes, that is what all the evidence shows. I believe getting outside daily has benefits for ND children as well. Adults can obviously do whatever they like.

There's a huge difference between having an illness stopping you from going out and actively making the choice to stay at home occasionally.

I've had depression and I've had days where I couldn't even get out of bed, but that's nothing like the days where I just need to stay in and rest and relax.

I have a get out of jail card as I'm severely disabled.

I really don't see anything wrong with having the occasional duvet day as an able-bodied adult or teen though,

I remember when my son came home from his gold D of E he was so tired he fell asleep in the bath. He had a duvet day the next day.

Sometimes you're just so tired you need a mental break and a rest.

(And for the haterz out there I often go out into my garden in my PJs and nap of my garden chair. I also answer the door in my PJs and dressing gown at any time of day if I'm wearing them. Having a shower or bath takes significant energy for me and I do have one most days but sometimes I need to wait for the pain to go down)

my kids have house clothes. not necessarily pjs but softer and comfy joggers etc. i wash them in morning and put them on. i also have longe wear

I wouldn’t do it, as I like to shower and get dressed. But, each to their own. 🤷‍♀️

Just sitting or hanging out at home Is teaching children to amuse themselves and just be settledis fine.

I just don’t buy this. It’s definitely the current mantra but I dont think it’s true.

In small doses everyone needs to chill and not be too structured.

But I see more and more people talking about the “importance of being bored” for children. They talk about it as if their kids are recreating some idyllic childhood building forts and all the rest of it. In reality for the most part they are not really doing this. They are watching TV and on their phones.

And a bit of that is completely fine. It ain’t going away and kids will want to do that and they have to learn to live with it. But if people think structuring and entire weekend around that is somehow “building creativity” or something they are deluding themselves.

Balance is inportant. You don’t have to schedule every second of the day. But never scheduling anything, never having any purpose and never leaving the house is not great. I wouldn’t want my kid to think days on end of doing nothing except sitting on the sofa in their PJs is all they can aspire to.

That's fine but it is also OK for children to just be able to relax in their own house.

Look we are not going to agree on this, young children ( under 11 say) should be encouraged to move their bodies daily. That is the NHS guidance, it is what all the evidence suggests. You may not like it, you may choose to believe that " chillout" days are beneficial, but that is not what the evidence suggests.

young children ( under 11 say) should be encouraged to move their bodies daily. That is the NHS guidance, it is what all the evidence suggests.

And they don't have to leave the home to do that 🙈

https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/exercise/physical-activity-guidelines-children-and-young-people/

I work in a senior professional role outside the house full time. I don't have small kids any more. I'm in my 50s

I dress very well, I'm often complimented on my sense of style. I buy good clothes & I love them.

However, each evening the very first thing I do as soon as I come home is take off all my nice clothes & out on my comfiest old things - usually a vest top with pj bottoms & a hoodie. For me far easier to cook in & relax lying on the the sofa
It saves my good stuff & I'm cosy & comfy

My dh & teen do the same!

I shower every night & at weekends if I'm having a day at home which I love as I'm out of the house all week then I stay in my comfy stuff

If I'm going out I dress properly though I wear different stuff to work clothes.

It works for us.

It’s not chic
during lockdown I got dressed properly every day
make up
waistband

Yes I'm talking about balance, I don't believe children have to be busy every day I don't think it's mentally healthy for them.and a day in the house does them no harm.

Pyjama days are normal and fine.

I try not to be judgemental as a rule but I admit I struggle with people who mistake neuroticism with hygiene and an inability to relax with productivity and intent. I find them tedious and a bit embarrassing.

I’d rather get dressed into a comfy jogging suit or something.

I have already said they might get this in a garden, but indoors ? primary school children ? really ? How ? Surely less hassle to just get them dressed and take them out.