To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

I know, scandalous, innit? People enjoying being indoors! 😱

I cannot understand letting children go in the garden in their pyjamas, don't they get cold and dirty do they put socks and shoes on ? For the love of God why not just get them dressed ?

I have dogs to walk so all day pj's not really an option.....also I don't think I could just stay in all day.
But I do have lounge wear which are basically daytime pj's you can be seen in!

Won't they get dirty and maybe wet in their clothes if they got dressed and went in the garden anyway? Does it matter if they're going to be washed after anyway?

Well no thin cotton pyjamas are clearly less suitable for outside play than clothes designed for outdoor wear. I wouldn't bathe my children after playing outside, neither would I necessarily launder their clothing. This place is like the looking glass sometimes. Not getting your kids dressed before allowing them to play outside is solvenly and poor parenting no matter which way you look at it.

How arrogant.

Not all PJ's are thin cotton for a start.

But by your logic, kids being in PJ's all day is disgusting, but not washing them or their clothes when they've spent the day outside is fine?

Double standards there I think.

I don’t think the occasional pj day is minging, that said if I do have a pj day. I usually change into fresh pjs and wash and clean my teeth then chill in bed a bit. But i probably wouldn’t if I had kids etc as it’s one of those things I wouldn’t want to do very often.

My children had a bath every night until the end of primary, daily shower at secondary, no I would wash what we call " scuffs" after every wear. Jeans can cope with a bit of muck far better than any pyjamas.

Sorry wouldn't wash a pair of jeans/ heavy duty combats/shorts or dungrees for a little one for a few mud/grass stains.

You literally just said you wouldn't bathe them after playing outside, but now you're saying every night?

My little one throws herself into everything. So she ends up covered in stuff. Which can sometimes mean a couple of outfit changes a day, depending on what we're doing (going out after she's flung herself round the garden, for example). So I'm not going to get hung up on whether it's her clothes or her PJ's getting mucky, because they're going in the wash anyway. If she gets up and wants to go straight in the garden to check on her plants/pick fruit or veg and won't freeze in what she's wearing, she can crack on. If we're having a lazy day and she decides she wants to take her bubble machine outside, I'm not making her get dressed beforehand.

You sound very judgemental, and like you're not quite answering truthfully.

I do it, it's great! I do change my drawers though.

I maybe spend one day a week in the house not getting dressed. I do get washed though. I feel like I need that day as a busy mum of two children still in nappies (and yes, when I stay in my pyjamas they do to).

My friends all do it though my parents never did. In fact my dad always called it slovenly. He even dresses if he stays in hospital, he was confused as a doctor rather than a patient before!

Me? If it makes me slovenly I don't care, the PJ days will remain!

when my mother got her hips done she was in a secondment hospital for her recovery they made her get dressed every day as part of her recovery. also on her last week you had to cook and serve meals etc all to prepare you for being able to live your lives at a home by yourself.

You judge people for not dressing when staying indoors but you don't wash mud stains off your children's clothes? OK then. 🙄

Would you go out with stains on your clothes?

My kids PJs are no colder than their daytime clothes. Daytime when younger and garden playing might be leggings and T-shirt. Or joggers and T-shirt. PJs are bottoms and T-shirt type top. So pretty much the same. Youngest would likely pop her crocs on to play out but she would wear them anyway to go out. Wouldn’t go out barefoot. They’re too old now for playing in the garden.

You aren't a horsey person til you've gone to the yard at 5am in your PJs and wellies 🤣

Occasionally it's fine. It's a lazy treat with an oldie and all day telly when you're just tired out. Just change your PJ's before you go back to bed 🤷‍♀️

It’s so nice to be called a bad, lazy parent first thing in the morning. Thanks for that.
My children are 4 and 18mos, so only have access to the garden if I’ve checked that the weather is appropriate. No rain or particularly cold weather. They will put on their crocs or socks with welly boots to go outside, and I’ll give them a jacket if they ask for one (they rarely do). They’re mostly playing with their water things, bubbles or mud kitchen. I don’t see the harm in them running around, fully clothed and comfortable, in their own contained garden, wearing their PJs that will be taken off when they come back in covered in mud. They are washed and changed as soon as they come in, then fully bathed and clean PJs for bed.
I can’t fathom how, one day a week, allowing my children to be children, is a bad thing.

What strikes me on these threads ( apart from the bizarre level of reaction of stirs up) is the people who seem to shun variety in the way they approach life.

So if someone says “ I like a day in my pjs” someone else comes roaring on and says “ omg I HAVE to get out of the house! Totally don’t understand people who stay home.”

Except people don’t stay home. People go out and about most of the week. However surely , with variety being the spice of life etc, it’s sometimes nice to be up early on a weekend and pacing the streets/ park ahead of the rest of humanity and other times it’s nice to stay cosy by a fire with a pot of something lovely cooking in the kitchen. I don’t have one lifestyle, I mix it up a bit. And I think it’s only fair to try this with dc because they might like one more than the other.

Totally this.

Do what you feel like you need/want on the day. Some days call for outside. Some days call for pjs.

You let your 18 month old decide if they need a coat ? How does dressing children appropriately for the activity eg: not pyjamas for a mud kitchen equate to not allowing them to be children ? If a childcare setting was doing that for this age group Ofsted would have a few questions.

Doing what exactly? Letting them wear pj kind of clothes?

To be honest I find these threads pretty stupid because as far as I’m concerned most children these days gad about in what look to me for all the world like pjs anyway: leggings , baggy t shirt. There are even those “ suits” now people are wearing in summer that have matching shirts and short sleeved top and how they differ from pyjamas beats me. Ditto mums on thd school run in their gym kit. How is that far different from stretchy soft pjs? Different in the days when people dressed in tucked in ironed cotton blouses and belts and even wore a hat etc. How does putting a child in stretchy leggings or jersey pull on shorts change anything Ofsted would give a toss about vis a vis stretchy jersey pjs?

More allowing 18m old to decide whether to wear a coat. Also no underwear with pjs, not sure sitting on the ground with no pants on is a great plan regardless of age. I would suggest that leggings and t- shirt are suitable outdoor clothes for 3 months of the year maximum in the UK. If spending time outside between October and June I would expect any carer to ensure children had long sleeves, shoes and socks and warm tops on as an absolute minimum.

Most pyjamas have long sleeves, and she has said she wouldn’t send them out if cold or rainy. As for no pants on, I’m really not sure what is so fearful about that. Or has something climbed up your bottom - which might explain why you are being so aggressively judgmental of this poster?

That’s what I thought.
Id never let my children play outside getting dirty then put them back in those clothes. Give me a freshly laundered pair of pjs over reused outdoor clothes any day. How DISGUSTING neuro!

It's minging! You're right. Unless the pjs are very glamorous indeed (so not really pjs then).

I would never wear them at home for the simple reason that I'm busy doing all kinds of stuff: cooking, cleaning, gardening, odd jobs. The ruddy things would be filthy within half-an-hour. Pjs are only for people of leisure sitting on the sofa watching Neflix, and I don't fall into that category.