To think staying in your pyjamas on stay at home days is minging?

[Iaminthefly]

A mum has just posted on one of my SM groups saying that she never gets herself or DC out of their pyjamas if they are having a day in the house. She asked if other people do the same. Loads of people have responded saying they also don't dress themselves or DC if they aren't planning on leaving the house.

AIBU to find this a bit minging? Fair enough if you're ill or as a one off, but every time you are home? Who want's to sit around all day unwashed in clothes you've had on all night? Also surely it's setting a terrible example for your children?

Maybe I'm just an old dinosaur but I think it shows a shocking lack of any standards.

Feel free to tell me I'm old and out of touch.

Do you only walk as far as your dog shits and then turn home or do you think being outdoors and walking is good for them in and of itself?

I absolutely believe this. I can't stand staying in all day so would never inflict this on my children. Even just a walk to the shops/ round the block surely ? Being so inactive is really, really bad for physical and mental health.I need to be dressed before breakfast so 8/8:30 latest for me. I also made the DCs get dressed before breakfast when they were young ( cruel mother).

@PissPotPourri running out of stuff means you still can get dressed and ready.

The two times I did forget the dentist, I only remembered when I got the call from them and it was too late anyway because they cancelled it.

The only time I can see with real no notice , is if your house is on fire and you have to run. At that point, if it's that bad, I wouldn't really care if i'm outside in PJ's(or house clothes for me as I don't actually wear PJ's) or properly dressed with a bra on. I'd have other things to worry about.

Forgetting things regularly suggests an overloaded schedule. You need a day at home in your PJs to catch up with yourself and get organised.

I couldn't do it unless I was ill. It's not much of an effort is it to have a shower and put some clothes on?

Just sitting or hanging out at home Is teaching children to amuse themselves and just be settledis fine.

We have a day when we stay in PJs perhaps once, in winter maybe twice, a month. The kids go out in the garden quite happily in their pyjamas. It's obviously fine. 🙄 We brush teeth but don't tend to shower that day. The pyjamas get washed at the end of the day or the next morning.

Where does the idea that every day has to "have a sense of purpose" come from? It's perfectly fine to relax once in a while. Anyway, purposeful things can be done in PJs or swimwear or any other clothes. Homework, baking, cleaning out the guinea pigs, an online food shop. And clearly if a last minute dentist appointment or the need to go out for bread cropped up, I'd go at that point. Why do I need to be prepared for all eventualities (which actually have never really happened) in my own home for goodness' sake? And if the door went I'd just answer it.

But other people don't so.......🤷🏼‍♀️

🤦🏼‍♀️ of course it is, it also is for humans but that doesn’t mean that on the odd occasion it’s OK to have a short walk and spend the day at home doing things with them.

It doesn’t have to be ‘all or nothing’

Well, no, but it's significantly more effort than not doing those things 😂

We 'sort of' do this on Christmas Day 😂 🤶

But they're clean pjs.. we put our pjs on after brekkie and they're Xmas ones (don't buy new every year we just have a set each as adults and the little one has quite a few sets usually from relatives etc prev year)

It certainly does make us more lazy, but on Xmas day we want that 🤣 other than opening presents and slowly putting food in the oven at the right times we do nooooothing for that day!

🤣

If you are sat around in your pj's all day long then it's safe to say no one is going for a small walk. And the op isn't about now and again, is she?

Newsflash: not all people are you.

Seriously though, if you need something it is good to do it, but don't assume everyone else needs it too.

Historically people stayed at home much more, they had jobs to do that took time. Where you are physically based when you do healthy things is less important than doing the healthy things.

MN is so strange about lazy days and not going outside.

I never spend the entire day in PJ's but I regularly get up, shower, change into something comfy and stay in the house and garden all day at the weekend.

I work outside in all weathers five days a week - it's a physical job and I often come home knackered - weekends are my chance to reset and relax without any pressures on my time.

Even when I was growing up in the nineties we'd have the odd lazy day at home - I really can't see the harm in it.

"Really you think children should be out of the house every single day ?"

Yes they should. Obesity crisis? Children and adults actually should get outside and move instead of slobbing around their house in their pyjamas.

I can't stand staying in all day so would never inflict this on my children.

What if your children were of the type to benefit from a day "off" at home occasionally? Would you still force them outside because it suited you?

You know that you can exercise at home? And that going outside doesn't actually mean you're exercising or being healthy?

It is unnatural not to leave the house all day. Different if you have a lovely garden in which you spend lots of time then that is obviously different, literally being confined to the house like we all were in Covid- horrible, why would you do that ?

Little ones need to go out, not big trips but just to the park/ the shop give their legs a stretch talk about the sky, cars, dogs whatever. Humans are meant to be active.

These are examples from just last weekend- friend said did I fancy joining her for a dog walk, a neighbour rang to say her car wouldn’t start and please could we try jump starting it, delivery driver left a parcel for another neighbour and I took it round, and I wanted to make a cake and had to go out for eggs. All necessitated leaving the house at short notice. Probably other things too that I’ve forgotten.

I couldn't do it unless I was ill. I need to get dressed and face the day, even if I'm staying in all day. I was brought up to think it's somewhat slovenly to spend too much time in pyjamas.

Haha you know it's okay to have an occasional day where you don't leave the house.

It's not a 'half life' ffs 🙄

I think it's sad that if someone couldn't be arsed to walk their dog, people would be up in arms about the cruelty and laziness of it and they'd question your ability to care for that dog generally.

Dogs aren't children 🤷‍♀️

But also, I don't walk my dog everyday - he gets a couple of days "off" a month because I find it hugely benefits him to do so. He sleeps, plays in the garden, has some mental stimulation and is perfectly happy.

A ten minute walk ? yes I absolutely would. There is good evidence that it benefits all our physical and mental health. As I said different if we are all spending plenty of time in a large garden, but unusual to do this in your pyjamas.

I quite often say “I didn’t get dressed all weekend” if I’ve literally stayed in and not done anything, but I’ve showered every night and put on clean pjs, I don’t especially sweat in my sleep (maybe I will when I get older?) so I just don’t feel the need to put some clean clothes on in the morning and create more washing for myself
I’ve still got up and brushed my teeth / washed my face each morning too
so I really don’t see how that’s minging OP