Family kept illness secret before GCSE’s

[Happyharry2003]

Hi
im just wondering if IBU as my family say I am but they have a history of telling me i overreact.

My daughter is in the middle of her GCSE’s. On Sunday we went to a family party to celebrate her cousins birthday.

Today her sister woke up with a sickness bug.

I have since found out one of the children at the gathering (10 adults and kids in total) went to doctor and hospital friday and Saturday due to being unwell and dehydrated. Subsequently, their whole family came down with a vomiting bug yesterday. Nobody told me anything.

if I had been told anyone was ill I would not have attended with my daughters. The adults at the party were aware how important these exams are to my youngest daughter and chose not to mention the cousins illness prior to us arriving. They only mentioned the cousin being under the weather just as we left.

I am so disappointed that this was kept from me and also that no one thought it important enough to give me the option of not attending due to GCSE’s. I told a family member how sad this has made me feel and how anxious my youngest now is that she might catch this vomiting bug right in the middle of the exams. I was told I was being ridiculous and that she could always resit them another time.

aibu?

My 19 year old son was vomiting on Saturday, he had been out for a couple of afternoon pints with my husband and had not eaten. That may have been the reason but he also may have been starting with a bug. I phoned my parents and told them in case they were going to call in. Nobody wants to visit anyone if any illness is lurking in the household.

Well I’m impressed that you’re clearly steeling yourself and soldiering on very impressively and your daughter sounds amazing - quite how she was able to actually do those exams with the bug i cant imagine.
Please show your family this thread and come back to tell us how contrite they are. I cannot remember the last time a post on mumsnet made my blood boil like this one.

I keep sending my husband links to this thread and saying ‘see - it’s not just us!!!!’ 😂😂

I literally have no tolerance for people who spread norovirus - the principle of staying away from other people for 48 hours is a no fucking brainer.

I'd be absolutely furious that they've put you all in this situation. Poor DD, what a star she's been.

Well done for getting through it and supporting your daughter.

I'd struggle to let this go with family.

I agree with them deserving a good slap. For showing complete disregard for your DD, by glibly saying she can re-take! What absolute arseholes they are. Don't they actually understand it's not that simple (if it's even possible depending on subject!). They may not care about education, but the OP and her immediate family clearly do care. Not only that, but re-taking means having to spend all that time revising again - all because some complete idiot is a selfish git. This is exactly the kind of thing that would make me go no contact with someone who did that. Today's youngsters have so much to put up with - they really don't need this kind of hand grenade thrown at them.

Just read this and wow.

Absolute respectfully to you OP there is no way I could have managed your self control.

I hope you have a restful weekend and exam has gone ok.

It's a story for my own thread perhaps but this is a stark remark that concentrating on your nuclear family sometimes is the right thing to do. I'm like you and try to do everything for no thanks. And scenarios like this.

Wishing you well.

This thread is making me quite emotional and angry. How fucking dare they treat you like you’re in the wrong.

Best of luck to your daughter. How much allowance will the exam board give for sickness?

I would cut the family off, especially if they have form for being like this.

There’s something awful about a young person trying hard and facing the first most important academic challenge in her life being sabotaged by selfish idiots. Their comments about re-takes and minimising made my blood boil.

I’m concerned that her best while poorly isn’t anywhere near her best while she’s well and not puking..
I hope she gets fab results.
I hope the rest of you are also better now

I am so concerned but there’s been absolutely nothing I can do about it unfortunately other than keep everything crossed. The sickness has only just stopped in this house - but onwards and upwards!

Keep us posted. We want to know how your daughter gets on and we’ll all lobby on her behalf to the examining board if needs be. Also,we want every detail of how your squirming relatives are desperately, grovelingly apologizing to you for their unforgivably stupid, thoughtless and utterly selfish behaviour. I did think this post would be picked up by the daily mail and your relatives would get a taste of what people thought of their actions.

How were her results @Happyharry2003