Sending nudes?

[Mayis]

Would you? Have you?
Been together for 2 years, no children together. He has recently been asking for a "photo" meaning a nude. Not sure if I should. Do you think he would judge me? May be he is just testing me? Or is it the norm? Acceptable?

Thanks in advance.

I have done in the past. I'd say it's acceptable if you feel it is acceptable if that makes sense.

I would also say never, ever include your face. One of my friends has recently had to go to the police over an pig ex boyfriend who has sent old photos to her family as revenge porn. Pig.

Well, no. I wouldn’t if I were you. I’ve been married a loooooooong time and my husband and I might occasionally send each other something. But we have an agreement to delete and delete from deleted after looking. And I never would have done this before being married. I can completely trust this man. You need more time and commitment imo.

I never would. Not even to a spouse.

Nope, nope and nope.
Not the norm at all.
Just don't do it, he'll have that photo forever and could show someone or even share it, it will be out in the universe forever.
At the very least he'll probably have a w**k over it 🤢
Why does he want it, do you require a dick pick? Thought not.
Say no, if he pushes then he's a wrong 'un, chuck him back in the penis pool.

Agree with poster who said about your face. Never ever include your face.

Youvr been together 2 years and he's 'asking for nudes' Has he not seen you naked before?

If you're having to ask if he's 'testing you' then it doesn't sound like you have a healthy relationship.

Why can't you ask him outright?

It depends on the level of trust. It was less risky in the pre-internet days. In the past l have been photographed (on a beach for example) and painted (l used to life model) naked.

Maybe ask for one back. A sort of safety deposit.

No!

NO!
Just no!
The fact you are asking us means you are not as ease with his suggestion do just don’t do it.

I hate the word “nudes”

makes it sound like a tasteful arty shot with nothing graphic.

it’s pornography. If you would be happy with it in the public domain, go for it.

Nope not ever. He can see you nude in the bedroom otherwise no.

You have been together for 2 years and he is asking for nudes now? I wouldn't but at least do not show your face if you do.

What’s wrong with your boyfriend of 2 years having a wank over you? Presumably they’re having sex. I don’t understand why that would warrant a sick face to be honest, and it’s better than him wanking over other women.

I have done when I trust the guy. But even now with my long term partner I never include my face (or even any of my tattoos).

I get the concern with these... but isn't there an option on say WhatsApp that deletes it immediately after it's been opened, and you can't even take screenshots?

Regardless, I'd never send either!

Another vote for no. I just don’t see why you would put yourself in that position. If he wants to see you naked he can do it IRL.

Never. Not even to my DH of 20 odd years.

DP (of 11 years!) was scrolling through his camera roll trying to find a picture of the dog the other day and I spotted my own tits as he scrolled 😂

I’d never get my face in them though, just in case his phone was stolen/hacked.

I send them to my husband all the time 🤷🏻‍♀️

Rings and tattoos can often give identity away.

To be honest, l couldn’t care less who sees me naked (we all have bodies) but l need my job and my employer might think otherwise.

I don't see the harm if you're in a happy secure relationship with someone you trust, I just would be careful about showing your face just incase. Some responses are being very ott, it is actually normal to do this, nothing wrong with it. Its just a bit of fun and foreplay as such. It doesn't have to be full nudity or full pics either, it could be suggestive or you could wear nice underwear etc if you feel more comfortable

This.

Just don’t include your face.

Is it a long distance relationship? It would cause me concern the sudden but persistent interest in it.

Personally I wouldn't its very risky and really its unnecessary. What's wrong with his imagination or waiting till he sees you why does he desperately need pixels of you?

Most women I know have never been desperate for a dick pic. So you really have to look behind what the reasoning is. It would suggest to me he has no sexual discipline.perhaps sees women as objects/ is well used to masturabting to a screen.
I appreciate my relationship boundaries are not yours op. But for me a partner using pornography is a very unattractive/unhealthy activity to me and actually pixels are pixels so this would fall under that same category to me. I like to experience sex in person have that connection to a real person.

I know of plenty of people who have unfortunately had their pictures swapped online in return for others or ratings. Almost like these women/partners are pokemon to trade for these men it's awful.

If you want to, go for it. You're a consenting adult sending something to another consenting adult.

That said I'm way more laid back about things like this than most of mumsnet I think. It's just a body, plenty of people have seen me naked, plenty more will 🤷

It's your body and your choice but if you break up in the future,you run the risk of revenge porn or him showing off to his freinds.

In know it does not happen on evrey occasion but that's the risk you take and not a risk I would take personally