Sending nudes?

[Mayis]

Would you? Have you?
Been together for 2 years, no children together. He has recently been asking for a "photo" meaning a nude. Not sure if I should. Do you think he would judge me? May be he is just testing me? Or is it the norm? Acceptable?

Thanks in advance.

Not in a million years

No, I wouldn't.

I have and never include my face or visible tattoos etc
This would be more in the early stages of a relationship though rather than 2 years down the line

I do with my husband 🤷‍♀️ I trust him completely not to share them or anything, and don't send anything too racy. Mumsnet is weirdly against sharing nude photos with your partner, it's "trashy" apparently. It's not an attitude I've met much in real life, most of my pals have sent and received them.

And even if all goes tits up one day and husband has a personality transplant and decides to post them on Reddit or something I don't really care. Everyone's got a body and I have a particularly nice one, I'm not really arsed if someone else sees it.

Whatever the case it's what you feel comfortable with - and if he's willing to accept your "no", which I think is the most important point. Nothing less appealing than a man begging and pressuring for nudes which you don't actively want to send.

No. Why is he asking now?

He's seen you naked, he has an imagination. Pass.

I sent a nude photo to my boyfriend at the time when I was 19. It ended up on Facebook.

Im 30 now and have never and would never do it again.

Not a chance. How degrading!

I can't even imagine being with the type of person who would request something like that.

I’d send a blurry picture of steak and blame bad photography skills.

Why on earth does he need a photo anyway? To share with mates I bet.

People on MN don't have sex or masturbate, how very working class shudder.

Would you be happy for it to do the rounds of the internet if you ever fell out or split up? Once you send it it's out there for all time.

Would you be happy for every ex to have such a picture? If not then don’t send one. Also, I don’t think he should repeatedly be asking you. Fine to ask or hint once but not to then drop it implies some boundary issues. So that would definitely be a reason to avoid it.

The fuck I would.
No nude photo of me would ever be fired out anywhere.

You don't know what the future holds but he would have that photo at his disposal.

@KreedKafer No problem with anyone having a wank. Also don't want them to be doing it over pics of me, thanks. They can use their imaginations, or pics of people who are happy to be in that position.

You're fine with it - great!
I'm not fine with it - also great!
People are different.

How would you feel if you found out he showed one or more of his friends or a colleague?

'This is my bird, she's a cracker!' That kind of talk between some men.

Or his phone got hacked or stolen.

Once you send that photo it will be out there forever and you have zero control over it.
As one of the posters, I do have a job and if that photo ever ever comes out, I would never find another job in my profession. I'm not spending the rest of my life working minimum wage jobs, thanks. (Nothing wrong with minimum wage jobs, I just don't want to be forced to do them by my own stupidity of showing my tits to someone).
But if you work in a profession where it wouldn't hurt, it's your body and your decision. Lots of people have sent their nudes to their partners.

I haven't and I wouldn't, nor would I stay with any man who asked. It's a matter of respect.

If you don't feel comfortable sending one then don't. Don't feel pressure to send nudes, If hes a decent guy he won't care.

If you want to just don't show your face as pp said.

Yep I have. I’d only do it on my own accord though, probably wouldn’t like be asked for one right off the bat.

Send it if you feel comfortable, never show your face. If you think he’s testing you then maybe the relationship isn’t meant to be? If you don’t want too then you don’t want too

is it normal, meaning very common? yes

should you do it? no

every other day I read about revenge porn or hacked pics etc. etc.

don't take photos that you wouldn't want shared around the world

Personally, no, I never would. If you break up with that person there's nothing to stop them using it against you or posting it on websites etc.

Of course it’s a joke 😂

It would be a no from me!

Never. Together over 20 years.

I do with my husband 🤷‍♀️ I trust him completely not to share them or anything, and don't send anything too racy. Mumsnet is weirdly against sharing nude photos with your partner, it's "trashy" apparently. It's not an attitude I've met much in real life, most of my pals have sent and received them.

@MonsteraMama I think most people who wouldn't send them don't think it's trashy. They are just very cautious and don't enjoy the same level of trust in a relationship that you do.

1. A digital image can't be fully deleted
2. Revenge porn is very much a thing