Sending nudes?

[Mayis]

Would you? Have you?
Been together for 2 years, no children together. He has recently been asking for a "photo" meaning a nude. Not sure if I should. Do you think he would judge me? May be he is just testing me? Or is it the norm? Acceptable?

Thanks in advance.

It's been called trashy and degrading on this tiny little three page thread already, and every time it comes up on here along people come to denigrate the women who do it. Sorry but plenty of people absolutely do hold that view.

I gave in the past. I've been careful not to include my face.
I wouldn't do it now.
One ex filmed me. I did agree to it but didn't really want to. It's a long time ago but I do sometimes worry that he still has the videos and could use them against me. He was definitely the type.

Do you trust he won't send it on to his mates? Personally I wouldn't and never have.

Nope

Yes I do and would.

But I wouldn’t show my face and I’d be careful with any identifying tattoos or backgrounds.

If you’re not comfortable turn don’t do it.
It isn’t something you have to do in a relationship.

I would but it wouldn't be my body

Do what you want, just be fully aware that if things go south, the consequences can be awful. My daughter is 25, and she along with her closest friends would absolutely NEVER send nudes. They have seen it go very, very wrong for far too many other young women they know.

Personally, I think it's grim that a man even asks for them. Kind of pathetic, really. Something you'd expect from a teen boy.

Nope. I would send anything that I wouldn't want my kids to see.

Never and never would, despite being in a long, healthy, secure and trusting relationship.

I don't want any risk of images being out there. All it takes in a slip of the hand and it gets sent elsewhere or uploading somewhere accidentally - more likely accidentally by the sender rather than the recipient from what I've heard too.

I don't judge those who do, though I'd advise my own dc not too. Especially for our jobs, it's not worth even the smallest of risks.

Married 17 years and together 25. My DH has never asked me to send a nude and I would never send one either.

🤣🤣 sorry, I should have known! 🙈

It doesn't matter what other people would do. It is your body, and the standard is not what other people would do, it is what you feel comfortable with.
I think if you aren't 100% on board with something sexual then don't do it. The fact that you are not sure and are checking on here speaks volumes about that.
If you are worried about him judging you or testing you I would question if he's a decent guy.

If your asking the question then your not happy doing it so don’t

This. With bells on.

This. It's a no. Never.

Absolutely, never your face OP. If you're aroused and excited by the idea, crack on. If it's making you nervous (and that's what it seems) tell him to do one. I'm a fan personally. Partner was having a shit day at work on Friday and I sent him my boobs looking pretty bloody hot in a new bra. Cheered him right up!

Just don't include your face, my friend cheated on his gf and she sent his nude to his boss to get back at him!

No.
I work in a male dominated environment, it’s very common for men, even the “nice” ones, to show nudes around, so I wouldn’t send anything like that!

I have sent them to an ex in the past. It was someone I trusted completely but I still didn’t include my face in them and it was on WhatsApp when he could only view it once. There is always the risk of a screenshot though!

It’s entirely up to you if you want to send one, please don’t if you’re not comfortable with it!

No!

Only send photos that you're happy for your boss, your dad and your next door neighbour to see.

Never have, never will.

There is such a huge difference between someone nude or topless on a beac and a very sexual pic.

I would be really insulted at the thought of sending a nude photo without my face on it. It's really objectifying.

Never did until I met my husband. Men had asked in the past and I said no because I didn’t trust him. With my husband he didn’t even ask and I sent him one because I knew he would never ever ever ever show anyone. Need to 100% from the gut trust someone to do this.