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To ask you how far you'd go to stop a friend from frequently drink driving

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wherehaveallthegoodfolkgone · 02/06/2024 22:31

He's in his early 60s, drives a van and is convinced that alcohol won't impair his judgement.

Today he was drinking several glasses of wine at his son's house before driving for an hour to return back. We live close by and I noticed the state he was in.
I really lost it today, he could have killed someone. I've messaged his son but I short of reporting him, what on earth can I do.?

I've sat down with him and made him read the RAC facts on drink driving, the met police facts on jail/licence removal etc.
He's nodding but deep down I know he won't really listen.
Any suggestions?

OP posts:
Diningtableornot · 14/03/2025 10:41

As you've already tried reasoning with him, I'd wait until you know he's over the limit and driving his van, then dial 111 giving his number plate and approximate location so the police can arrest him; or better still give them some advance warning.
He could kill himself or someone else and that would be harder to recover from than a driving ban or fine.

BodyKeepingScore · 14/03/2025 10:46

The next time I had witnessed him drinking, or knew for a fact he’d been drinking and then driven his car, I’d simply inform the police and let them catch him in the act.

BlondiePortz · 14/03/2025 10:58

They kill someome how would you feel call the police

HereComesEverybody · 14/03/2025 13:24

@BodyKeepingScore I've done exactly that in the past. It's really not easy but it's 100% the right thing to do

MissDoubleU · 14/03/2025 13:38

Report him. Imagine how ruined his life would be if he killed someone.

A friend was killed last year by a drunk driver in a hit and run in the South of England. Lovely man, whole life ahead of him. Wife is still in pieces over it. Fucking horrific.

GreyAreas · 14/03/2025 13:41

You can't reason with an addict and you need to protect him and others.

MirrorMirror00 · 14/03/2025 16:20

I couldn’t be friends with someone who drink drives. It’s completely unacceptable. I would tell them that, and tell them that I was going to report them.

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