To dislike it when men post on mumsnet?

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I find it annoying. Why can’t they use their own men’s websites? Of which there are many!

*Note I put a thread up like this last night. Then went to bed. When I woke up this morning, it had been deleted by MN. Not sure what went on there..

The kind of goader who doesn't want men posting is also the kind of person who doesn't want non-parents on here either.

Presumably because in their real life if they aren't talking about bubbas they're lost.

Hmm. I basically agree with you, OP. I've always assumed the 'by parents for parents' was MNHQ needing to avoid getting on the wrong side of equality rules, without actually changing the intention to have a predominantly women's site, so citing the tagine doesn't feel like a gotcha to me.

I do think there's a profound difference between a man coming on here to access advice on something for his family or relationship, and a man coming here as many of us do, to socialise, share experiences and be entertained. The former is reasonable and sensible, the latter comes over as creepy and intrusive. I don't know any men irl who would dream of hanging out on Mumsnet.

But that advice and expertise will come from men just as women, that's the point.

I find the forum an interesting mix, but male and female bring things equally to the discussions. Maybe not equally as it seems men are a minority, but the gender/ sex is pretty irrelevant in most cases.

@PoochiesPinkEars ,

‘Which would be tricky to administrate reliably, but those men who realise they are coming into our space and therefore women here might appreciate that could respectfully start a post with 'man here' or 'I'm a man'.... 😁’

Umm, I don’t know how long you have been on this site, but the majority of posters detest men who do this. As they say, it is like a loud man bursting into a room full of women and announcing his presence!

I would never do this as, on most threads, it is irrelevant. However, given my screen name, it certainly isn’t a secret.

A male parent may want a woman's take on questions they may have. Not all children have a mother around for various reasons.

Yes, it says so right at the top of the page.

Op you keep saying 'I see that a lot' to each example given

Where? I've been here 18 years and don't see much. Where are you frequenting ?

Good point!

Life is indeed tough... if this is as tough as your life gets... well I don't think you have much to complain about

What? Your brain makes some stuff up.. Information overload, confused! Comprehension limited. That’s ok.

Those who genuinely want this to be a female only ‘safe space’ (I wish Orwell were still alive….) should message Justine and ask for the site to be changed to accommodate your desires.

I can’t see it happening though as men actually are parents and an important part of a parenting site’s intended audience.

However, contacting MNHQ is the way to go if you are serious.

I've been here about 19 years on and off and there were definitely men here then. Mumsnet sounds way punchier than parentsnet so I'd suspect that's why it was chosen, easier to build a brand on a snappy memorable name. Mums may have been the target demographic but the intention I assume was for a parenting site. Wasn't it originally set up after a disastrous family holiday?

Agreed. Thank you.

• In fact very few men I know post online much at all ime.

Things that I find/have found really useful about Mumsnet:

• Info about schools/education
• Info about neighbourhoods I considered moving to and whether they were good for families
• Quickly check is this behaviour ok/normal/something kids will grow out of etc
• Quickly check symptoms/health concerns for kids

None of these are specific to mums, and there is nowhere else that’s as useful that I have found.

Well, given that one of the questions when you register is whether or not you have children, or are intending to conceive, I'm sure that if MN didn't want childless people joining they would reject them at that stage. Many of the threads on here have nothing whatsoever to do with children or parenting.

It's incredibly entitled of you to think you can dictate who posts on this board tbh.

Probably the sex topic.
And is probably the kind of poster who still has the vapours and calls for PigletJohn if she needs her lav unblocking.

Nobody moans when @pigletjohn appears in a thread....nobody

MNHQ have clearly said in the past that parentnet wasn't as catchy and this is the sole reason why it's mumsnet.

Or Wilf!

I'd like to think they find it helpful to get a broad range of parenting advice. However what I do agree is annoying is when they zone in on relationships board and defend whatever arseholery the poster's DH/DP is doing simply because he is a man and they cannot, simply CAN NOT view it from any other perspective. I don't think they even try half of the time.

Fine to use this as a parenting forum but we don't need to be gaslit when looking for advice.

Do you. Our children are being told that men can give birth. Any alternative is labelled transphobic.

However its a parenting website.

It's as dull as fuck over there. Same with Gransnet. The bulk of postings on this site are on MN.

Comprehension issues?
Look up the word "probably".
As Soupy has asked you, how come you've namechanged for this?

What are vapours and who’s piglet John. I never go on the sex boards.. well unless a particularly popular one turns up on currently trending.

@NattyTurtle ,

‘It's incredibly entitled of you to think you can dictate who posts on this board tbh.’

Except I never did that. The OP and many of you are, though.

As I said above, I respond to posts based on their content, not on any other aspect of the poster (sex, age, parental status etc etc).