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Things you're supposed to give a shit about, but you don't.

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BrickTraybake · 31/05/2024 22:49

You know those little things in life that people like to morally police and make you feel guilty about but you just can't muster up the shit to give?

This is a confession thread. I'll start.

I don't give a shit that you supposedly shouldn't feed bread to ducks. I don't care. Don't eat it then. People have been feeding them bread for decades and now we're supposed to bring them organic bloody walnuts or something? Or some other crap they don't want that doesn't float?
They can have my slightly mouldy bread and be grateful.

Over to you.

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Haver74 · 01/06/2024 13:49

LondonFox · 01/06/2024 13:43

What?
Did not know it but will take your word for it!
Realy don't want duck rape in my search history lol

Usually gang rape too! Honestly, the first time I saw it happen, I was so shocked. Nature is brutal.

Bloom15 · 01/06/2024 13:50

Whycantiwinmillionsandsquillions · 31/05/2024 23:09

Hey I’m drawing the line at pandas.
Far cuter than anyone’s dog.
Leave pandas out if this.
Red pandas are also cute.

Agreed!

I love pandas

I don't care about UPF though

Folklore9074 · 01/06/2024 13:50

Gwenhwyfar · 01/06/2024 13:02

Presumably because it helps them to talk about them? I don't see why this bothers you. I find it very nice.

I don't think it 'bothers' her, she just doesn't give a shit... that's what this thread is about.🤔

Lolaandbehold · 01/06/2024 13:51

KentInAutumn · 31/05/2024 23:35

Other people’s holidays/gap year/travelling.

Yawn.

I actually feel bored and tired just thinking about a time I was forced to listen to an anecdote from a colleague who backpacked in East Asia.

You mean South East Asia. It's always South East Asia 😀

I loved it so much I've done it 3 times, but I won't bore you (or anyone else) with the details.

Scirocco · 01/06/2024 13:51

Haver74 · 01/06/2024 13:46

Exactly! I saw a female being drowned yesterday 😪

Had to do a quick about-turn at the river the other day - DC wanted to feed the ducks but they were busily doing, well, that. "What Duck Do?????" "They're playing, honey, we'll come back later".

BloodyHellKenAgain · 01/06/2024 13:51

peppermintcloud · 01/06/2024 13:23

People's cats. To me cats all look the same. When people show me photos of their cats, I never know what to say because all I see is a generic, emotionless cat that looks like every other cat.

😲😲😲😲😲

OneLimeShark · 01/06/2024 13:52

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Gwenhwyfar · 01/06/2024 13:52

"Buses. Driving is usually faster and cheaper."

Really not. The cost of running a car, at least where I live, is similar to the monthly rent for a small bedsit.

Comedycook · 01/06/2024 13:53

Glipsy · 01/06/2024 13:41

I dont. I think a minority of people with and without dicks are threats and see no point worrying specifically about the tiny subset within that minority that comprises people with dicks who prefer to move in the world as women

I think you're missing the point. A trans woman with a penis is just as dangerous to a woman as a man with a penis. They're not being regarded as more dangerous.

kitteninabasket · 01/06/2024 13:54

Isometimeswonder · 01/06/2024 13:35

I kind of agree... I don't have kids so once I'm gone, I'm gone!
But I don't like seeing plastic etc in the seas so I guess I'm a hypocrite

It's not just about what will happen when you're gone though. Climate change, loss of biodiversity etc are having an effect NOW. Don't you care about the people and wildlife in other countries suffering from the effects of floods and unbearable temperatures? Forest fires destroying wildlife and their habitats as well as people's homes and livelihoods? Orangutans in severe distress, their numbers dwindling from being stripped of anywhere to live? Habitat loss leading to increases in zoonotic disease? Increased rain leading to loss of crops, causing food shortages and price rises? Drought leading to water shortages?

None of it at all?

TheGoldSnake · 01/06/2024 13:54

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kitteninabasket · 01/06/2024 13:56

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To my mind there's a big difference between not giving a shit about something, and not having the headspace for it.

bouquetofpheasants · 01/06/2024 13:56

Well said @kitteninabasket

Garlicker · 01/06/2024 13:57

blankittyblank · 01/06/2024 13:01

But that's exactly my point. It's impossible to police, as how would you know if you have a very well passing trans woman in your toilet? You wouldn't. You can only really take umbrage at those who look like men. regardless of anyone's motives for being in a woman's space.

These arguments get dafter and dafter 🙄 A very tiny proportion of men can pass as women in person. If such a woman-impersonator goes in the Ladies, behaves as women behave, washes his hands and leaves, why should I care? That level of deception takes commitment. There's never a guarantee about any human activity, but I'd say he's fairly unlikely to blow his cover by even speaking, let alone molesting anyone.

Those few are not the men demanding all-areas access to women. As you say, they can stealth it. They don't need to demand or force it. They'd lose out by doing so. I don't care much about them.

Back in the day, transsexuals would occasionally turn up in the Ladies and they were trying hard to just blend in, keep their head down. They were identifiable as male but, back then, they really did want to 'be women' and there weren't vary many of them. We were kind, mostly, because we could afford to be. We just left them alone, they didn't seek attention.

Those few are the men losing out to the ones demanding all-areas access to women. They are recognisably male, like the men seeking access for darker purposes. I'm sympathetic to them, but I'm also sorry we were permissive because that is the inch we gave; activists have taken a mile, and then some. I don't care enough about them to risk the privacy, dignity and safety of all women and girls.

ttcat37 · 01/06/2024 13:58

BrickTraybake · 31/05/2024 23:03

Me too, I've tried grapes and peas, they don't want it. They want the bread 🍞 🦆

I'm not making them eat it and thry are grown ducks, they can make their own choices

Wow. Not sure it’s worth arguing with the brains of Britain but you do know that animals don’t have the IQ of adult humans don’t you? ‘Grown’ cats regularly drink antifreeze from the floor because it smells nice, ‘grown’ hedgehogs get their heads stuck in empty tins looking for food… they’re all ‘grown’ and can ‘make their own choices’.

BloodyHellKenAgain · 01/06/2024 14:00

Warning this may trigger some of a sensitive nature:

I don't care who wins the general election. IMO both main parties are awful and need a complete rethink.

I'm invested only because of 'the sport' of watching them all (and I'm including the rabid partisan supporters) tear each other apart.

TheGoldSnake · 01/06/2024 14:00

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Scirocco · 01/06/2024 14:01

BloodyHellKenAgain · 01/06/2024 14:00

Warning this may trigger some of a sensitive nature:

I don't care who wins the general election. IMO both main parties are awful and need a complete rethink.

I'm invested only because of 'the sport' of watching them all (and I'm including the rabid partisan supporters) tear each other apart.

They're all shite. Larry the Cat for PM!

Gwenhwyfar · 01/06/2024 14:02

LondonFox · 01/06/2024 12:41

I don't care about people who apply for jobs that are completely unsuitable for them and then demand total job description change as reasonable adjustment.
You just cannot do this jib and you are not passing probation (or getting employed).

Examples:
Social anxiety and going for events officer.
Suspected adhd and cannot focus, applied for data analyst.
Cannot speak over the phone and applied for front marketing role.
Any kind of unresolved issue with time management and applying for senior role where you should work independantly and/or lead a team.
I could make 50 points list tbh.

But surely the fault there is on the recruiter who didn't check the person had the right qualities for the job?

Fariha31 · 01/06/2024 14:02

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Not getting in to a contentious topic and actively advocating for one side are worlds apart.

Aria999 · 01/06/2024 14:04

Thejackrussellsrule · 31/05/2024 23:46

Donald Trump. In fact, the whole US election process. I. Just. Don't. Care.

Unless he manages to start world war 3 by having a hissy fit at the wrong autocratic leader of a hostile power. Then everyone will care (quite briefly).

Gwenhwyfar · 01/06/2024 14:05

gemsgv · 01/06/2024 13:05

Covid.

Packing shopping away in the right bags. I couldn't care less which items are in which bags. They will only be in those bags for the next 20 minutes and when I get in, I unpack everything so there's nothing 'easier' about items being grouped together. I know plenty of people would do a double somersault over the till if you were helping them pack and were about to put something in the wrong bag

Apart from the frozen food bag, I didn't know food had to be separated by category. Never heard of it.

Fariha31 · 01/06/2024 14:05

I actually also dont care who wins the general election.

There is nothing between the two (well except Labour will shit on woman's rights). I think that is the only difference.

That and Rishi is actually likeable, so that's another difference?

Fariha31 · 01/06/2024 14:07

Aria999 · 01/06/2024 14:04

Unless he manages to start world war 3 by having a hissy fit at the wrong autocratic leader of a hostile power. Then everyone will care (quite briefly).

Trump is the peace candidate (I know!)

thisisreallygross · 01/06/2024 14:08

I remember a thread about people stealing at self serve and 95 per cent of comments were freaking out about it

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