To push ds into claiming

[Lacky301]

Ds has just finished uni and never worked through me and ex dp give him £450 a month between us plus I've always bought him the odd thing and gave a bit extra here and there.
Me and his dad are seperated and his dads just received notification that he will now be charged full council tax as ds has finished uni I'm under strain financially. I've told ds he needs to claim universal credit until he finds a job but he keeps saying I want my results first. Am I wrong in pushing him to claim to take some pressure off me and dp. Fwiw he would get around £370 per month as living at home.

He isn't work shy

@Lacky301 why isn't he getting any casual job then to tide him over,?

People? Or him?

If he is living in his uni accommodation till August why is your ex's council tax changing now?

FWIW we funded our dcs till the end of June of their final year so they could have a bit of down time after they'd finished uni. One then got a job, one lived on student overdraft for a few months!

I agree it’s not lazy, it’s likely the only time he will get to do it. I just disagree with his mum trying to push him onto benefits to fund it.

Can't he get a bar job where his accommodation is?
Agency work in a warehouse?
Call centre work?

Well I'm guessing ds may want some time out after concentrating on his studies for such a long time but in doing that it appears he's earned lazy arse title

UC is job seekers....

He needs to get a job - any job but yes he can claim UC. Only from the official term end date though as they’ll take his Student income into account until then.

This it’s utter bollocks there are SO MANY summer jobs for students

“Wanting time out” isn’t what benefits are for.

need money = work.

or you continue to support him. I don’t see why the taxpayer has to.

I’ve heard it all now!

I do mean this kindly OP, but is he due to pass his degree? Have you asked him? He should have a pretty good idea what classification of degree he should be getting by now?

You may have some concerns about claiming welfare benefits, but you shouldn’t feel bad about claiming Universal Credit or Job Seekers Allowance. As a graduate, these benefits are in place to help you transition from full-time study to work, even if you are living at home or have job lined up in a few weeks. This is an important safety net, which you should claim just in case anything changes. If you meet the eligibility criteria below you should claim from the day after your official course end date.

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But he isn't transitioning and hasn't got a job lined up yet.

Surely he isn't entitled to handouts? He's capable of working but hasn't bothered.

I have seen this and was going to attach it but I'd be wasting my time lol

He will have to pay council tax on this student accom very soon, as no longer a student.
I suggest he puts together a cv- loads of advice online, reed, gradcracker, ucas etc and gets chatgpt to adapt it for retail / hospitality roles, print it out and take copies to local bars, cafes and shops personally independent especially, asking to speak to whoever recruits. Uni careers service may have local leads.
agencies may have casual warehouse etc roles.
Doing nothing will hinder his ability to get a grad job- his degree may get him through the initial sift but his transferable skills will be vital.

He is as he would be looking for a job whilst in receipt

That link says don't feel bad but mumsnet will

Why did you ask MN as you don’t think it’s wrong?

Talk about taking something out of context.

If you are a young person at uni / finishing up, there's really no reason not to get a job

It's nuts to say that he couldn't find a job during uni holidays. The whole nature of holiday jobs is to cover seasonal demand so it's silly to say employers only want someone who'll stay around after the summer.

You are doing him no favours trying to make excuses for him not working.

In terms of graduate roles, of course he should have had a plan before finishing uni.

MN is saying that he needs to take any job right now and not bum around waiting for his results whilst the taxpayer keeps him.

He's never going to find a job when you make excuses for him and you've done it over and over on this thread. He's perfectly capable of taking any job until he finds one in his field but you seem to think he deserves a break which is fine, but don't expect the rest of us to fund it.

Look people may have thier opinions but the critism of my parenting is not on is it?
If posters had of come on and said better he doesn't enter into the benefit system and just tried to find employment whilst we carry on helping him that would have been okay it just takes a bit of kindness and not for people to be labelling me and ds.

Exactly @spuddy4

It's fine if he decides he wants to take a week or two off. I used to go abroad in the summer holidays, line up a job & have one week to relax & settle in, then work really hard for the summer.

I sometimes had to take out loans to go abroad, which I'd then pay back after the summer.