Changing the bed linen in between guests staying over

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I am going to try and write this as factually as possible. We have a lot of people staying over for various reasons. Partner A thinks the bed linen needs to be washed in between every guest, even if they've just slept in the bed for one night/a few hours. Partner B thinks that is unnecessary and doesn't have to be done every time.

Partner A also feels the house should be generally tidied before guests come over - stuff put away, surfaces wiped, plates/cups etc in the dishwasher instead of piled high next to the sink. Again, Partner B disagrees.

Partner A thinks 99% of people think like they do. Partner B says their parents and sister agree with them so Partner A is the weird one and has issues surrounding guests visiting.

So - who is being unreasonable?

Poll: YANBU - if you agree with Partner A
YABU - if you agree with Partner B

I’ve stayed in a spare room at ex in laws a long time ago and they hadn’t changed the sheets. I could smell the BO from the previous guest (overweight sweaty ex bro in law). It was just laziness and I would never have done the same in return:(

This is what I thought too! I thought it was a given people change sheets but apparently not.

I don't think anyone has "wanged on" for 10 pages. Numerous people have shared their opinion, just like you, and actually most disagree with you.

We don't have that many house guests, but I always strip the beds and wash the sheets as soon as they've gone, so I can make up the beds clean in case we have guests unexpectedly.
However, if we are going to someone else's home for a night or two we take our own bed linen and then it goes on our bed at home when I next change that.
It really is not environmentally friendly to wash sheets that have only been used once.

Most disagree with me? What, they disagree with the things I’ve clearly stated:

• I’d put on clean sheets each time
• It’s not that much bother
• On balance, people prefer clean sheets

?? Or you just don’t like the fact that someone’s pointed out it doesn’t matter that much?

I think these threads attract so much action because some people have based their whole personality on being the most house proud/hygienic/best housewife and they just have to prove it, even to strangers, so it can’t just be a casual “yeah, definitely change the sheets”;instead they have to feel ‘queasy’ or ‘sickened’ or just have total failure of imagination at the very notion that someone might reuse sheets. It’s weird.

Of course you should change bed linen between visitors.
If you can't cope, tell them to bring their own or don't have them.

Ask Partner B how they'd feel if they turned up at a hotel & the sheets hadn't been changed from the previous guests or the room hadn't been tidied.
Grim to think they'd be happy to sleep in others sweaty, dirty bedding.

Definitely change the bedding between different people 🤢

Says a lot about partner B 🤢🤣

My husband would absolutely agree with you (as I do) and would be mortified if there were dirty dishes left out (again, as I would).

So no I don't think it's a 'man' thing.

Who even thinks about not changing bed linen??!! My god if I have guests which I do living in the Mediterranean I change their sheets every other day

Crap I oressed the wrong one.

I got confused.

I should have voted yanbu.

Partner A is right

@nickelbabe it's easy to change your vote just click the other bar and you transfer your vote (it won't make any difference to the statistics now there have been 3.5k votes)

Unless it's my dc eg dd1 stays for one night and then dd2 comes for another then I would definitely change the bedding. Even in the first instance I'd probably change the pillowcases at least!
I'd also give a quick clean and tidy around though if it was close family I might not be as houseproud.

I’m assuming partner B is a man and does not want to help with the cleaning/ bed changes lol I would ask the guests who stayed the night before to strip the beds and put the dishwasher on at the very least. Then you could leave new linen on the bed for the next guests and just explain you have had lots of guests and won’t have time to keep re making the beds but yea if I was a guest I wouldn’t want to sleep in someone else’s sheets

I often stay at my auntie's house and due to her health issues I normally make the bed myself and take off the bedding when I leave.

I think this is being a good house guest. Like people have said it’s not a hotel. I mean they are being good enough hosting people. If they want a chambermaid service they can pay me lol or go to a hotel! But if definitely leave them clean sheets out to do it themselves and ask previous guests to strip the bed

My MiL used to bring her own bedding when she stayed at ours- which I thought was weird but fine! Not fine was on wondering why my linen cupboard smelled of body odour discovering that said MiL had put her dirty sheets in with my clean linen for next time.

Oh!! Please always wash bedding between guests!! Re tidying up - I’m less bothered by that, but as a rule I’d keep the kitchen tidy most of the time anyway.

I used to wash bed linen in between every guest... until ALL of our frequent guests (all of our parents and step parents, plus certain friends) insisted repeatedly that there was no need. So now we don't. (If the guest is not one of those people who insisted they don't mind, then we do change the bed linen).

I like to clean the house between guests, but we have young children, and our close friends and family don't mind if we haven't had time.

I read this like you had 2 partners

If my guests were coming then I would definitely wash the sheets!

Partner B is an utter slob! Here in Scotland we would say that's minging! Translates to dirty, smelly, messy, generally unpleasant. I would say a clean bed and tidy-ish house is the bare minimum for anyone coming to stay.

You won't get a balanced set of views here. Mums will always side with the person changing sheets every time.

Erm, yeah, if I’m staying at someone’s as a guest I would expect the same level of cleanliness etc as if I was hosting a guest. If I stayed over and found out big Dave, Sharon’s fella who sweats or hasn’t wiped his arse probably had slept in the same bed as me the night before I’m sure you’d never see me at your place again ( obviously it could also be Sharon who’s the greb but I chose Dave for dramatic effect 😂) definitely clean/change bedding as a must and potter about throughout their stay I could handle general house clutter if we were friends.

This 💯