If your son moves to state school he will not be seen as being badly behaved. From what you have described this would be classed as low-level disruption and considered par for the course.
Teaching back in the state sector was an eye-opener. One child had been expelled from a nearby private school and was an absolute pain to teach. He was bright, but rude, lazy and provoked the other pupils by laughing when they got something wrong.
The head described him as ‘lively’ but said she couldn’t understand why the independent school had expelled him because, according to her, his behaviour wasn’t ’that bad’. She wondered if the staff in the private school were less able to cope than those in the state sector and that was why he had been told to leave.
This is the point some on this thread are wilfully misunderstanding or ignoring.
The staff in the independent school were not lacking in discipline skills, they just didn’t see why class time should be wasted on someone who really didn’t want to be there and whose presence was a detriment to the peaceful education of the other pupils.
State schools frequently have lower expectations of behaviour than independent schools.
State schools which do have equivalent behavioural expectations are the ones that either manage out the disruptive pupils (although that is difficult) or who have a selective intake and so can be a little more discriminating in those they accept. It’s much easier if the school is already oversubscribed.
Lower sets in independent schools contain pupils who struggle or are less able. Lower sets in state schools contain those who can’t as well as those who won’t. This isn’t fair on the lower ability pupils. They have as much right to a calm education as their more able peers.
If those who truly believe that importing independent school pupils into underperforming state schools will magically turn those schools around, would you please explain HOW you think this will happen.
Are you suggesting that independent school style behavioural expectations will be put in place and that expulsions of the badly behaved will suddenly become the norm?
If so, why hasn’t that happened already? There are thousands of children of middle class and/or wealthy parents already in the state sector. So why does the independent sector have a better reputation for behaviour?
Why are there organisations such as No More Exclusions who are actively campaigning to make it illegal to exclude a child from school for any reason whatsoever - including rape?
Would you be happy for your child’s state school to adopt zero tolerance to bad behaviour? Would you be happy to see it become a model of Michaela School?
Because if you really think that the parents of independent school pupils will magically enact a transformation on state schools you have to accept that the only way this would happen is if state schools adopted the independent structure and expectations.
Is that what you want?
If so, why haven’t you campaigned for that already?