Sitting around on bed during the day

[Ferngardens]

Fed up of my husband sitting around on the bed all the time. He just sits there reading or on his phone for hours over the week. Especially in day clothes I don't think it's very nice, plus bad for his back and the bed surely. I get why kids hang around in their rooms but think it's something people grow out of surely. I wish he'd find a chair or something to do! It annoys me when there's piles of washing on the bed and he's just there scrolling away. I feel like I can't go in the bedroom because he's just hanging around on the bed and it's irritating.

See, I kind of agree with the OP here, BUT I recognise that I am a product of my upbringing, in which bedrooms were for sleeping only (even as an adult, I refuse to have a TV in the bedroom). Also, no, I don't really like people sitting on bedlinen in 'outdoor clothes'.

However, I am lucky enough to own a house with enough room for both my OH and I to have our own studies and a garden, so it's easy enough to fuck off somewhere away from other people to a space that's not a bedroom.

I would be bloody annoyed by anybody just hanging about in a room with clean laundry to put away, though.

Can be. Not definitely is. I do it most nights as I don't have a partner and I'm certainly not depressed.

Lots of things can be a sight of depression and isolation- walking around for hours on your own, not going on nights out, crying, getting angry, over or under eating, gaming a lot, being forgetful… you could go on all day.

They can also all be perfectly normal healthy things.

This. I often lie on my bed, especially if I want to watch TV, as the bedroom has the only television in the house (I refuse to have an ugly, cluttering TV in my living room).

Jesus. I wouldn’t live with someone who wouldn’t let me relax on weekends and sit/lie wherever I wants in my own house. It’s so controlling.

Jeezo. He’s a grown ass man who can surely sit where he likes in his own home!

Just found this thread because my DH does it too and I really hate it but I see this thread is divided between the bed loungers and those who find it weird.

Interesting. It feels antisocial to me, and it gets me down when he does it. It makes me feel like he's avoiding me, even though I know that's not the case at all.

And this is a really important point that maybe I need to think harder about myself

I don't think it's positive.
It's a sign of being fed up and depressed.