Pulling my hair is weird behaviour?

[thelastgoodbye]

This bank holiday I went on a weekend away for my friends birthday, I know most of the people going but not all.

We got the train down and we’re all sat on the tables of 4 next to each other. They started talking about how they were doing their hair that evening and one had extensions and she said how difficult it was to style as her hair was so heavy. I simply agreed with her that yes when I had mine I had the same issue.

One of the women I don’t know, looked at me and said actually you can see your extensions, leaned across from the other table and yanked on my hair. I just looked at her bewildered and said “that’s my real hair, I don’t have extensions in anymore”

Aibu to think this is just odd behaviour? It was like she was trying to embarrass me

She sounds like a silly moo.

The comments on this thread are baffling .. are people actually totally ok with a stranger pulling on there hair? regardless of the extension stuff if someone i don't know tries pulling on my hair I would be pissed!!!!! Probably tell her to get the fuck off my hair and don't talk to me for the rest of the trip.

Now imagine this

" woman sits next to man she doesn't know, he says I can see your hair extensions and pulls her hair" ... now its an abusive man.

I do need a thread about what happened when you were away though!

People are just so strange! My SIL came to visit from overseas a few years ago. She waited until I’d gone out of the room and asked my DH if I’d had hair extensions, like it was some dark secret……I hadn’t. My hair had simply grown in the 5 years since I last saw her. She obviously didn’t believe my DH though and asked me casually a few days later. Bonkers.
someone grabbing your hair is crazy though OP, she sounds one to be avoided.

She sounds mental, who does weird shit like that to someone they have just met?!
I can't even imagine a friend doing this, a friend would gently move the hair to cover the extension if it was on show.

OP people get it YOU DIDN'T HAVE EXTENSIONS IN. Every post you reply to that is saying it's out of order or giving you their examples of similar behaviour, all you go on about is not having hair extensions and being really aggressive to people siding with you. Maybe if this was the attitude you had then, she just wanted to yank your hair!

So she managed to pull them out then?

I'm still not clear on whether OP had extensions in 🤔

Sounds like she'd had a few drinks on the train and was just messing round/being a bit stupid. Most people would just respond oy that's my real hair and then have a laugh about it. Not a big deal.

I'd have said -'erm, this is my real hair, maybe you could stop touching me now?' in a withering tone. Then marked her down in my head as a very strange character. As you say, she probably wanted to pull one out to demonstrate how crap they were. I hope she was embarrassed at being such a blithering idiot when you told her you didn't even have any in.

Do start another thread on the weekend, sounds entertaining.

She's pulling your leg OP

It would definitely get my guard up massively if someone I didn’t know did this to me. It’s some kind of power move, I guess she was threatened by you?

However if she did nothing else weird for the rest of the weekend I would give her a free pass.

I suspect it was uncomfortable because they were embarrassed by her behaviour. Yes it’s weird to yank on someone’s hair.

I wouldn't dream of yanking at the hair of one of my mates, either in public or in private. I absolutely wouldn't do it to someone I don't know. What was she planning on doing if she pulled an extension off? How does she know you don't have sensory problems, or haven't had alopecia or chemotherapy resulting in hair loss which would make this really hurtful?

YANBU. Really weird responses on here. Currently teaching my toddler it's not ok to pull people's hair, extensions or not, surprised adults haven't learnt this yet.

The woman was trying to embarrass you.

If Op had had extensions the woman would have pulled some out.

How is that playfulness?

Are you new to Mumsnet? People post on all sorts of stuff, we don't police what they choose to say. It's essentially a chat forum. If you don't think it's worth a post, why have you bothered to reply?

lol at these answers. Of course it’s not ok. But it’s really not thread worthy either.

I need to know about what kind of extensions you were wearing OP, were they clip in or bonded?

I guess I mean that I don’t think it’s annoying/extreme enough to compose a post about it to get people’s advice.

But yeah ofc you can start posts about whatever you want. It’s just my opinion that it’s a bit of a non-issue, since OP is seeking opinions.

If I’m scrolling through mumsnet already I’ll comment on all sorts of things tbf.

Try and take it in a positive way. She thinks your hair is what people pay hundreds for! You must have beautiful hair!

but yes - it is weird behaviour from her!

She was in your small group. It was a bit forward and rude. But maybe the dynamics were casual and she felt she could do this on a matey basis.

If she'd pulled on my hair she would have got a major telling off in no uncertain terms. Pulling hair is a form of bullying.

She made a tit of herself, plain and simple.

What happened for the rest of the weekend?

I'd have slapped her hand away and shown her up. Weirdo.

This is odd behavior. The fact that it has never happy to you before, proves this is odd behavior. Why did she do it? Without knowing her, no idea. I would put it down to some people just don’t know how to behave. These oddballs pop up in society every now and then.