Would your husband…

[Sunflower8710]

I had accidentally put something in the dustbin today, needed it before bed (11:30) I told my husband who told me to go get it. It’s pitch black, almost midnight and the bin is at the end of the drive.

Would your husband ask you to go retrieve the item or would he go get it?

Agreed @SouthLondonMum22 I'd say the posters are the useless lazy ones!

Yeah this. I would happily have gone out and got said thing myself.

And being short is irrelevant (someone said they couldn't retrieve it as they were 5 ft 2.) You can get one of these grab-sticks. B & Q have them ...But Ebay do too. AND B & M.

However... If the bin was at the foot of the driveway waiting for the binmen to come the next day (as the OP claims,) the bloody thing would be at the top of the bin, as it would be pretty full! So being a teeny tiny makes no difference.

She put it there and if there is no physical reason she can't retrieve it then the obvious thing to do it go out and get it. Have you got an issue getting something out of your own bin?

Going on an earlier post your husband must be very manly after 30 years in waste management.

Well you are really rude. Maybe these gentlemen are just wimps who are dominated by lazy women? Or maybe they are control freaks who won't let their "little woman" do anything for herself.

I despair, why we bothered fighting for equality in the 70s to end up like this I just don't know.

Yeah I would ask my partner to get it and he would. He does anything dirty and bin related in the house which I'm delighted about🤣

Nah just sat here enjoying being an independent woman who needs a man for nothing 😂

@WalkingonWheels my husband is also kind but also respectful that he doesn't overstep my boundaries of capability.

I understand your capabilities are less than mine, but please don't infer that my DH is not kind.

I would go get it and be laughed out the room if I told him I was scared to go to the end of the drive at night (I wouldn’t do it for him either and no we don’t live in a loveless relationship 😂)

I would, and have, done it for my husband but he is disabled. Good job he isn't married to someone who is too precious to do it.

I would expect my
Imaginary husband to come with me and hold a torch /for moral support but not to go himself and me stay cozy in bed unless you're pregnant or ill or something

I apparently live in the vanguard of feminism, and I sometimes think that the attitude of young women here who see themselves as demanding equality would horrify many on MN who see themselves the same way.

I wouldn't even ask, I'd just go and get it myself. He probably would go if I asked him, but would think it pretty strange of me to ask.

@bananaramaterry

Lots of questions about his rant, ranting about others ranting and @Frogpole hasn't returned to answer them!

He could of course be riding on his steed to lay his coat across a puddle for his wife to walk across.

@CharlotteRumpling

I have a good friend who has a chihuahua, and I have never seen anything less capable of attacking anything bigger than an ant.

😆

If I asked because I was nude / lazy then yeah course he would, as I would for him.

But what is up with people being scared of the dark? Especially when it’s like ‘oh well if you live in a bad area maybe’. I live in a pretty full on drug dealer stabby bad area but if that meant any woman would get instantly attacked for stepping outside when it was dark then the fucking army would be here sorting it out. ‘bad area’ tends to mean a lot more risky for young men than women, in my experience - the bad things that happen to women seem to be able to happen anywhere.

Why are all you grown adults scared of being outside in the dark? It's nuts.

The OP has disappeared, so we must guess. I understood it was that getting out of the bin would be a bigger pain in the bum for her.

They'll get darked on. Plus, spider willies.

😆 Daft overused lines on here. Still make me LOL though.

I love being in the dark! Something enchanting and mystical about it! I stayed outside for an hour watching the Northern Lights the other week. (DH was at away with work, and so I was on my own!) I saw 2 shooting stars that night too. I also enjoy going for walks in the dark!

Oh stop it, you perfectly capable adult!!

You've not even regarded the feeble women, that's DHs are such gentlemen.

Our bins get collected on a Monday even if it’s a bank holiday.

I'm really confused - is it really common for women not to step outside their house at 11.30pm?

Doesn't that make you feel like a prisoner of your own home or anything? 🤔

I’m not sure, I walk h9me at 11.30pm at least once a week, I’ll check next time to see if any other women are out…and report back.

Some people on this thread have clearly never had to let a diva dog out for their business, barking their heart out at 3am with a husband who’s dead to the world 🤣

Well obviously if circumstances were different both of us would help the other. However, when it’s a case of the reason I don’t want to walk to the end of the drive to rectify my mistake is because it’s dark that’s a totally different story.