To have elective surgery DH disagrees with?

[WhatWouldYouDoEh]

I'd be interested to know if anyone has been in a similar boat and what did you do?

"Surgery" might be a bit strong - it's LASEK or LASIK. Something I've wanted to do for a long time as I hate wearing glasses or contact lenses.

My DH has seemed supportive so far, but now I'm at the point where I've had an initial consultation and I'm suitable to go ahead, he has said he doesn't agree with me having it done. He's concerned about the potential complications (mainly driving at night).

Ultimately he will respect my decision and not stop me going ahead, but now there's a voice of doubt in my mind.

He called it "vanity" surgery and has said he doesn't think it's worth the risk.

I have dreamt of being free of glasses for years and can finally afford to make it a reality. I must admit now I am having doubts.

It won't allow me to amend the post.

It is more likely than not that all will be fine.

Only you can decide. My vision was so much sharper after LASIK even compared with my glasses. Colours were brighter and the world looked different- and I had a really quite low prescription. This was 20 years ago.

After I bravely went ahead a whole flood of friends and relatives had theirs done. There were a variety of small issues, mainly with pain following Lasek ( if I remember correctly). None had lasting night vision issues though I had initial dryness and still have a small amount of halo.

I had a hospital check last year for something else and they commented on how very thin the flap was and how strong the cornea. Ask your surgeon for his complication rate. Using national stats isn’t very helpful, it will include a few total clowns.

And tell your DH that you’ve considered his opinion and will be making your own decision as a full grown adult.

Lots of people saying it’s not vanity surgery
… so what if it is?! It’s OP’s body and all that.

OP - I might be WAY off the mark here, but could his concern be, that if you were to have problems with driving at night, it would always fall on HIM to be designated driver on a night out? Or is his concern genuinely solely your health & wellbeing?

I'm 40.

I wear glasses all the time - I don't take them off to read, but I can read without them also. I need them to watch TV, to drive, and generally to see things, which are more than a couple of feet away, clearly. So I don't have great social vision currently as people I'm talking to are blurry!

My eyes are relatively normal, so hopefully a good sign for me.

Thanks your posts are really helpful. 😊

Yes, I think that's probably part of it, which I do get.

I had LASEK more than 25 years ago and it has changed my life so much for the better. I was terrified and paid extra to go to a talented surgeon who did a lot of repairs re other eye surgeries.

I had night halo effect for about a year, but I could still drive in the dark; I drive without issue in the dark now. In my mid 50s, I still don’t wear any glasses or lens, so it’s saved me a fortune over the years. It is so much easier to exercise now I can see properly. My eyes are much more comfortable since the surgery as I used to have very nasty acidic gushing incidents prior.

I had perfect vision from the moment I removed the bandages the following morning, and no pain or irritation at any point. It has honestly been one of the best and life-changing decisions I ever made. I can’t recommend it enough!

Did you have it done?

I think he's entitled to express his concerns, ut ultimately it's your decision, which seems to be his position anyway.