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To think schools should get with the times re working parents.

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working8til4 · 24/05/2024 20:31

Why can't they be open 8-6 for everyone? It would help reduce gender inequality in the work place

AIBU - DON'T BE SILLY
YANBU - actually you have a point

OP posts:
Kalevala · 25/05/2024 12:27

user1471556818 · 25/05/2024 10:24

Well I was a nurse working 7 am till 8 pm.
So obviously 🙄 school should open at 6 and close at 9 pm 7 days a week to allow my travel time, being late off duty and shift pattern .
I'm not expecting nights to be covered see how reasonable I'm being.
Or you just do what everyone who can't do " normal hours " work flexible hours do
You sort out your childcare

Where we lived overseas, wrap around covered two hours before school 630 to 0830 (playground supervised from 830). Then three hours after school until 6. So it would work with nursing morning shifts starting at 7 (we had three shifts at the care home i was at), but not finishing late.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 25/05/2024 12:29

Yes - but for most people they do act as childcare. Op has a point why is the working day 9-5 but school only 9-3pm?

Because primary school children (i.e. the ones young enough to actually need child care) shouldn't be in school 9-5. It's too much. They need childcare, not more school. So childminders ot wraparound on the school site (but not provided by teachers, who are there to teacglh and have mountains of prep and marking to do after 3pm.

Kalevala · 25/05/2024 12:30

Areolaborealis · 25/05/2024 10:28

Its simply too long a day for the youngest children. They should be sleeping 10-12 hours a day. If they are at school 10 hours, travel 30 minutes, need dinner and bath where is down time? Might as well sleep at the school.

Some parents may need before school care, some after, some a bit of both. If it was open but not compulsory, only some of the children arriving at opening would be there until closing.

WoshPank · 25/05/2024 12:31

Some people think nobody would want the wraparound care jobs - which clearly isn't true, as many schools have such systems.

I haven't personally seen anyone say nobody does, although it's possible I missed it. Lots of us have said the jobs are unpopular though, which is empirically true. As the person who's made that point probably most often in this thread, it's not that nobody would want them. It's that there is a substantial gap between some people wanting them and there being enough people wanting them for all schools to be able to offer what OP thinks they should

There have been several posters who've claimed that because some schools in the UK offer the wraparound OP wants, and some societies do a better job of it than us, that must tell us something about the practicalities of expanding it here. Which is wrong.

booboo24 · 25/05/2024 12:32

I purposely haven't read the full thread but firstly, it isn't supposed to be childcare, it's for education. However my major gripe with school is that if they want you for anything they expect you to just waltz out of work at the drop of a hat, usually for something that can be sorted out over a phone call. The teachers can't just leave a lesson mid way through, unless for an emergency so why they expect us to if we are working is beyond me. I don't mean if my child is ill, or any other emergency, that's different and work wouldn't get a look in then!

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 25/05/2024 12:32

TorringtonDean · 25/05/2024 12:25

@AtomHeartMotherOfGod the OP said the childcare does not have to be provided by teachers.

OK sorry. Every school I've worked at does provide this, so I thought OP must have meant something different.

OP I think that's a reasonable offering to expect for all schools, bar those with a small pupil roll. Supply and demand are still fundamental.

WoshPank · 25/05/2024 12:33

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 25/05/2024 12:32

OK sorry. Every school I've worked at does provide this, so I thought OP must have meant something different.

OP I think that's a reasonable offering to expect for all schools, bar those with a small pupil roll. Supply and demand are still fundamental.

Including supply and demand of workers!

working8til4 · 25/05/2024 12:34

AtomHeartMotherOfGod · 25/05/2024 12:32

OK sorry. Every school I've worked at does provide this, so I thought OP must have meant something different.

OP I think that's a reasonable offering to expect for all schools, bar those with a small pupil roll. Supply and demand are still fundamental.

Fair enough yes. In my area there is ONE school that offers wrap around out of 5. And they have a wait list.

OP posts:
Sherrystrull · 25/05/2024 12:37

KarenSmithsWeatherBoobs · 25/05/2024 12:23

@Sherrystrull 'No one is saying it's ridiculous.

They're saying the steps needed to 'refine' it are complex and hard and not always possible.'

Some people are saying it's ridiculous - and those are the comments I am addressing.

Some people think others should have a crystal ball and scrutinise what their future holds before they even think about trying to conceive.

Some people think those that work and need wraparound care don't deserve to have children in the first place.

Some people think nobody would want the wraparound care jobs - which clearly isn't true, as many schools have such systems.

Quite a lot of people seems to think the suggestion is that teachers themselves provide this additional care, rather than dedicated people employed for the job.

Edited

I've not seen anyone deriding the suggestion or saying it's ridiculous. Pointing out holes in a plan and giving real life context adds to the discussion.

KarenSmithsWeatherBoobs · 25/05/2024 12:38

WoshPank · 25/05/2024 12:31

Some people think nobody would want the wraparound care jobs - which clearly isn't true, as many schools have such systems.

I haven't personally seen anyone say nobody does, although it's possible I missed it. Lots of us have said the jobs are unpopular though, which is empirically true. As the person who's made that point probably most often in this thread, it's not that nobody would want them. It's that there is a substantial gap between some people wanting them and there being enough people wanting them for all schools to be able to offer what OP thinks they should

There have been several posters who've claimed that because some schools in the UK offer the wraparound OP wants, and some societies do a better job of it than us, that must tell us something about the practicalities of expanding it here. Which is wrong.

Somebody has definitely said this. I cba scrolling through the entire thread trying to find it again though.

Of course they may simply have been trolling.

Our primary had dedicated wraparound staff, along with a couple of TA and dinner ladies, etc, doing some days who probably wanted to make some extra money.

WoshPank · 25/05/2024 12:42

KarenSmithsWeatherBoobs · 25/05/2024 12:38

Somebody has definitely said this. I cba scrolling through the entire thread trying to find it again though.

Of course they may simply have been trolling.

Our primary had dedicated wraparound staff, along with a couple of TA and dinner ladies, etc, doing some days who probably wanted to make some extra money.

Edited

Ok. Maybe one person has, and obviously it's wrong.

But the fundamental point remains that OP is assuming there would be people available to fill the roles. She's not shown any working out at all on this, or even given a vague explanation. Meanwhile, pretty much all school based roles are facing a recruitment problem. It's not enough to just say that some places manage to do it and that means they call can.

Redlocks28 · 25/05/2024 12:45

We can’t find people willing to apply for TA jobs when it’s 8.45-3.15 and their children are in our school!

Trying to find anyone wanting to do before/after school term time only, is even worse. If people have kids, they are giving them breakfast/dinner at home at that time. If they don’t, they don’t want low paid, term time only, very inflexible jobs at really inconvenient times.

spanieleyes · 25/05/2024 12:47

So, for the ONE child who we have that currently has after school childcare in place on a Friday , we would need two members of staff ( even at minimum wage that would be £25 per hour between them) and an additional £10 per hour hall hire we charge. So £35 an hour. From 3.15 to , for ease, 6.15. That's 3 hours. So £105 minimum we would need to charge to cover costs.
Can't see many people paying that!

Notellinganyone · 25/05/2024 12:51

Username83058265 · 24/05/2024 20:32

All together now - SCHOOLS ARE FOR EDUCATION NOT FOR CHILDCARE

This. Have you not been listening to the lemming-like exit of teachers?

Luddite26 · 25/05/2024 12:58

CurlyhairedAssassin · 25/05/2024 11:24

This thread has got really long and I'm sure this has been mentioned by school staff already but what on earth makes you think that school buildings and playing fields just "sit there" locked up during the holidays? Haven't you considered cleaning staff, caretakers and school business managers and the hours that may be in their contracts? Have you seen the state of many school sites? They are old and in a state of disrepair. Annual maintenance of buildings and grounds has to be scheduled for the times that children are off site. ie. holidays. Normal deep cleaning. Painting. Relaying flooring. Fixing roofs, replacing outdoor equipment sheds. Installing new routers or phone or entrance systems. Tree maintenance. Overseeding playing fields (spring and autumn). Repairing fences. Cleaning inside windows. Replacing kitchen equipment. Resealing the hall floor.

Teachers come in and have a good sort out of their stock cupboards. They set up their new classrooms. In primary, all the new labels for books and pegs etc need doing. Office staff come in and do all the archiving and shredding and setting up systems for the new year (because the last few weeks of the summer term is manic and you don't have time to do it all).

INSET days usually involve full day mandatory safeguarding or first aid training or curriculum updates so it's not like all this stuff can be squeezed into those.

Please, just engage your brains and try not to think that the only things that go on in schools are what you see as a parent. There is SO much more that goes on that you haven't got any idea of.

And yet so many schools do make use of their premises with out of school camps. And many really think outside the box and open up as car parks if they live near a place that has events like a school near Heaton Park in Manchester. And I've seen schools using their playing fields for camping and caravanning over the summer and opening the gym for them to use showers and toilets.
It once was government policy to make schools community hubs.
But then there were always the naysayers when I was on the primary school PTA overruling why you couldn't hold a disco for the kids in their own school hall
Oh and thanks for the lecture by the way. You assume so much.

DragonFly98 · 25/05/2024 12:58

Itsacruelsummer · 24/05/2024 20:39

Or working life could catch up with the needs of families- flexi time, compressed hours etc.

Or the economy could actually work for families to live on one full time or two part time incomes so parents could spend more time with their kids.

Why should children be shoved in childcare or school for 10 hours a day when it's not beneficial for them?

The vast majority of parents want to spend more time with their children and not less and the real problem is that they aren't supported by workplaces or the economy to do that. Wraparound care has its place but no child should be in school 60 hours a week.

Edited

Society worked fine with one working parent until feminism stuffed it up for everyone.

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Er ok , you do realise other people can have a different opinion to you yes?

Whatayear2023 · 25/05/2024 13:05

I do not think schools should be 8 till 6 but schools should be open that time with wrap around care easily available... the government spends so much on childcare to get people to work that money could be invested in schools.to provide this at s much lower cost...
I would also find it easier.to have one place my children could go to instead of arranging a morning childcare and drop off.and evening pick up.and childcare.
I also think there should be a 4 day week every fortnight allowing children to have extra free time or play time where that be in the what I would call.play school or.home.

Luddite26 · 25/05/2024 13:06

DragonFly98 · 25/05/2024 13:04

Er ok , you do realise other people can have a different opinion to you yes?

What is this feminism in your opinion that stuffed it up for everyone?

Nanny0gg · 25/05/2024 13:07

working8til4 · 24/05/2024 21:13

The staff. More jobs! Horray!

Well, there's a thought

Do you fancy it?

Not everyone actually wants to work with children (because the pay will still be shit for a start)

Nanny0gg · 25/05/2024 13:08

Whatayear2023 · 25/05/2024 13:05

I do not think schools should be 8 till 6 but schools should be open that time with wrap around care easily available... the government spends so much on childcare to get people to work that money could be invested in schools.to provide this at s much lower cost...
I would also find it easier.to have one place my children could go to instead of arranging a morning childcare and drop off.and evening pick up.and childcare.
I also think there should be a 4 day week every fortnight allowing children to have extra free time or play time where that be in the what I would call.play school or.home.

Where do they staff work whilst others are using the space?

When do the cleaners clean?

MultiplaLight · 25/05/2024 13:09

So there is a school with wraparound near you....

No one said you should abort due to lack of wraparound. But if you know school is going to be an issue you have 4 years to prepare (at least), by moving, finding a childminder, changing jobs, organising a family member to help.
It's not like school hours are sprung on you out of nowhere.

Nanny0gg · 25/05/2024 13:10

working8til4 · 24/05/2024 22:01

Then it should be government subsidised to more than minimum wage

Where's the money coming from?

Nanny0gg · 25/05/2024 13:14

working8til4 · 25/05/2024 05:46

And? Not my fault is it. The Scandinavian model others have mentioned sounds good to me.

Well if you're stretched already, paying higher taxes for this care may not help you