To be irritated that my dh couldn’t just buy the kids a souvenir each

[Shitvenir]

Instead of a random plush to share?

He’s been away with work for a week. One FaceTime in all that time. Most of my text’s unanswered (I only sent 3 a day tops). It wasn’t his idea to bring something back for them, I suggested it might be nice so they knew he was thinking of them. A bag of sweets they wouldn’t get at home or something small, even a bloody pen each surely would be nicer than a stuffed animal that neither of them can have in their bed without the other being upset? I just wanted him to be a bit thoughtful.

Literally this 😂

All these perfect wives whose husbands work away. They don’t complain or text them or expect the husband to think about their wife or children at all when they are away. If only we could all be so perfect.

Same, I'm pretty laid back about contacting DP, but even I manage three texts a day. I think that's a low amount tbh.
If we had young children, it would be more than 3 a day.

OP the present is crap, at least he should have the nous to buy two, it's not rocket science.

You’re contacting him so much and each day is intrusive. He’s at work, he’s busy, take this massive clue. When I’m away I might message once.

Then you're also a crap parent and partner. Yay!

If you make enough for the company to send you abroad for work you can spring for two fucking snowys! The airport gift for the kids is the 'fuck I forgot gift'. Of course they get something every time one of us goes away! It could be sweets from that country or a toy or a key ring if you're jet lagged and standing in the shop before boarding the flight.

Thoughtless to buy one gift that is not shareable!

I don’t understand the people saying 3 texts a day is too much. Do you not like your husbands? I enjoy speaking to my husband and we both check in multiple times a day.

I don’t think he needed to get them anything as it was a work trip, but it was a nice thought for them to know he was ‘thinking about them’.

I don’t understand why he couldn’t just pick up a couple of cheap things though, so they can have one each.
He was literally in the shop.

Fair enough not wanting to spend loads on getting more teddies at that price but then don’t get an expensive one.

Or get them that to share and get them some sweets each.

I feel it would have been better for him to get them nothing, than getting them one to share.

I would let it go though because what’s done is done.

You send a good morning message when you wake up.

Another when you're back in your room freshening up for dinner. Maybe a quick facetime with the kids if you can.

A goodnight message or call as you get in to bed.

Buy something from the airport shop.

It's not difficult. If the motivation is there, it can and will be done.

3 texts a day!!! That's a bit much.

Ha ha we have about three calls a day when DH is away, never mind random assorted texts.

What are these business trips where you couldn't send a text in the morning when you wake up, perhaps one at lunchtime and another in the evening.
I've travelled quite a bit for work and while it can be busy and stressful I always feel I have the easier deal than being home alone with the kids and I like to check in and make sure everything is ok at home.
I also always buy presents - I have been known to buy something in advance from a toy shop and present it to them as if I'd bought it on my trip!

and the wife any also be a tad busy solo parenting plus working / getting on with normal life.
It's not much to ask for a few messages checking in.

… do you not like your spouse and children?

Exactly. Interesting how the majority who are saying the opposite don't travel for work themselves, they're just relaying whatever bullshit excuses their DH/BIL has fed them.

I bet those guys still manage to find time in between their schmoozing and boozing to check and reply to work stuff on their phones.

What's left to talk about once he is home lol. My partner used to text me regularly but I said to him that we will have nothing to speak about when we see each other if everything said over text

@Samlewis96 I speak to my husband when he is at home.
I text him photos of random cats and fat squirrels when he is at work 😂😂😂

When I was little my daddy used to work away and each time he sent me a postcard. I was so excited to get it. I kept them all in an album and now he is gone it is one of my most treasured possessions.

Surely the OPs DH could have picked up something from the airport? It’s not hard!

Exactly. Interesting how the majority who are saying the opposite don't travel for work themselves, they're just relaying whatever bullshit excuses their DH/BIL has fed them.

100% I do loads of these types of trips where my day is fully booked out and of course I can text DH and ask about DS and I almost always manage a FaceTime with DS too unless the time difference is impossible. If your spouse is claiming this is not doable they are lying.

The present thing is stupid. One soft toy between 2 children is nonsense. Bringing back nothing but hugs and kisses would have been better.

re. the texts I'm not so sure. I'm away atm, not work, a holiday so I have spare time. I left home Sunday am. I've just checked and DH and I have exchanged a total of 6 texts since then. It feels right for us but as PP have wisely said - every couple is different.

Next birthday give him 1 sock.. And the other 1 for Christmas..

Hahaha. My daughter has the joy of receiving cat pictures

Absolutely this.

I travel regularly for work internationally. It takes two seconds to drop your partner a text.

Wow, all these important jobs some of your husbands do with business trips where they cannot be interrupted at all by trivial things like their own children and wife 🙄🙄

Yup. If im away on business my husband would not feel the need to text me as much as you do. Nor would i want him to. Im on business. Im in business mode
I would find that irritating in my working day

But yes a toy each... madness!
Alternate days is the only way