To have not gone over to my neighbour's with her parcel?

[CowboyJoanna]

So the other day, a deliveryman pulled up on the street with a parcel for my neighbour who lives across the way. She's a slobby stay at home mum so she was in the house at the time, but for some reason never collected it. None of the neighbours either side of her were in, so the deliveryman brought it over to my house and asked me to take it in for her. I asked the deliveryman to leave a note for my neighbour to come and collect, but I don't think he understood (he was an eastern european bloke with broken english).

Anyway, I kept the parcel in the hall all day, waiting for my neighbour to collect it. But it became abundantly clear the deliveryman had not left a note, because she was sat on the sofa all day. When my DH got home from work, he asked me about the parcel and I explained it was a neighbour's. He said to me "leave it there and if she so wants it she'll come over. The deliverymen always leave notes". So we left it there.

Nothing came the next day. Neighbour was still in the house all day, as always.
But this morning we got a bang on the door.

It was the neighbour, and she proceeded to hurl a mouthful of abuse at me. "The fuck's your problem? Why didn't you bring me over my fucking parcel you cheeky bitch? That was my daughter's fucking birthday present and I was losing my fucking mind over it getting lost". I told her it wasn't my fault because I asked the deliveryman to leave her a note and I assumed she would come and collect it if she so wanted it. But she shouted "I got the note yeah but it's MY FUCKING PARCEL AND YOU JUST SAT THERE WITH IT".

It's not like I opened it or anything, but I'm wondering should I have gone over? I thought to myself, it's her parcel so if she wants it so badly she should've answered the door instead of sitting in front of the telly. And she didn't need to be so bloody rude.

Omg is your post real? Are ppl really this petty 😂😂 why on earth wouldn’t you take the parcel over, it’s called being a friendly neighbour. Of course her behaviour was despicable but I’m guessing there is some sort of backstory here between you, considering the way you have described her.
luckily I have far too much going on in my life to be so petty, I’m glad people I live near are kind and thoughtful.

The neighbour isn't very friendly though is she?! 😆

Why take in her parcel if you could see the back of her head, and knew that she was in, slobbing on her sofa?

What a load of rubbish.. if she had the card she would have come and got it, not “gone out of her mind worrying where it was”.. both those statements contradict each other and it’s obvious which one is true.

he obviously didn’t leave a note and you enjoyed having it knowing she didn’t know where it was.

you shouldn’t have accepted the parcel if you were planning on being a complete dick about it.. but if all you do is stare out your window watching her sitting on her sofa all day it was probably a little bit of excitement in your excruciatingly boring life.

My rule of thumb is if I take your parcel you collect it from me and if you take my parcel I collect it from you.

If I still have the parcel a couple of days later I will of course take it round and usually the person says thank you, it said it was delivered but no note was left. If they don't then I assume they are lazy and just wont take any more parcels in for that person.

We have an amazing delivery driver who knows who is social with who on our estate and always takes it to someone's house who is friendly with that person if the recipient isn't in. He's a real gem

If my neighbour takes a parcel for me I go and collect it. I wouldn't ever expect them to deliver it to me.

I think with it being the normal thing to do that people should go and gather their packages left at the neighbors. Just very different way of doing things.

"Superstoria
Can you tell me where you both live please? I’m currently house buying and i’d like to avoid you like the plague.

YABBU."

Somewhere in the North West

Not gonna lie I read the tirade of abuse from Slobby Mum in a scouse accent!

No, you are NOT being unreasonable, it was good of you to take the parcel in for her and she should've been grateful instead of being a rude, entitled bitch, if that was me I would've probably chucked the parcel at her 😂 and told her in no uncertain terms that I won't be helping her out in any way shape or form in the future either!

Exactly, which one is it?!

Tbh I think it’s mental not to just take it over.

Our village is tricky to navigate. Parcels get delivered all over the place. Today I took parcels round to two different neighbours and texted our old NDN to tell him I have a parcel for him (he’d forgotten to change his address)! It literally took me two minutes.

I have no idea why you couldn’t just take it over or at least message to say you have it. It’s nice to be nice.

Just move on. Why is this a drama?

You're both obviously home all day. Probably better to get on and not create conflict.

As above .
Don't accept any other deliveries

If I could see her head on the sofa I wouldn't have taken the parcel but having taken it and not being sure if he'd left a note I would have dropped it over. when I could see her.
Have none of you got ring doorbells? I can usually work out where my parcels are even when I'm out and pick them up as soon as I get in.

@mandlerparr yes, usually (9/10 times?) the person who was waiting for the parcel will go and collect it from the neighbour who has kindly taken in the parcel. Or both people will happen to see each other and do the “oh I have/you have a parcel for you/me” exchange, both laugh and the parcel gets to the intended recipient. Everyone happy and no harm done to neighbourly friendliness.
But sometimes the intended recipient expects that the kind neighbour will also deliver, like on this thread or they totally fail to collect their parcel for several weeks or they start to use you as the designated safe delivery address without even asking you if it’s ok to do so. It then tends to be much easier ime to just say no to anyone expecting you to accept their parcels and then subsequently deliver them or become long term storage for them.

Both can be true because the lazy neighbour expected the kind neighbour (op) to take the parcel over the road, despite knowing exactly where it was, but choosing to not collect it.
If lazy neighbour had just answered the door in the first place it could all have been avoided. Hth

Whilst the sloth is sat there doing sod all? Why should OP go out of her way? She got the note, she should have got off her arse and collected it

It is her parcel, she chose not to answer the door. It is not your responsibility to be a parcel delivery person!!! You did her a favour by taking it in, she's the cheeky bitch here!
I have had this issue many times and I will do a favour for anyone, but I am not delivering someone elses parcels!
I had the next door neighbours parcel sat at the bottom of my stairs for two weeks. The postman wrote the card out while he was stood at my door, so I knew they'd got it! But no, it sat there until my husband came home from being away with work and took it round, much to my annoyance!
I refuse point blank to take them in now. If they can't arrange it to be delivered when they're in, like I do, then that's on them.
On the very rare occasion in the past, when mine have been left with a neighbour, I have gone round as soon as I've picked the card up from the mat! It's not hard is it?
Like I say, not your responsibility!

She knew exactly where it was though, so seems daft to be worrying she'd lost it.
She was rude to mouth off when going round, but so is OP calling her slobby and sitting on the sofa all day, she has no idea of her circumstances, or why she didn't answer the door, just from what she's seen nosying through the window at her.
Good dig at the "Eastern European" she thought might not have understood too, sounded like some sort of judgy pants bingo card at first read.
Neither OP or her neighbour comes off well here.

I’ve got a big parcel at the moment that the lazy cow opposite hasn’t collected.

I went over this afternoon but no one was in and she’s home now (we share a driveway so she knows I’m in). Never taking a parcel in for them again.

She said she got the note.
But she wanted ME to deliver it.🤦🏻‍♀️

Just to clarify, as I left it too long to be able to edit, my next door neighbours (two brothers apparently) were not away when their card was put through. My postman is lovely and I know he left them a card, I watched him write it!
They came home from work, one went out and walked the dog, answered take away deliveries etc, for two bloody weeks! Not once did they come for their parcel! Not on!

She did have a scouse accent funnily enough

I dont live in Liverpool, but there is a lot of Liverpudlians in our town

@GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight yes it there is no accounting for what stupid people say or think. As I said could have all been avoided if she had just answered the door in the first place.

I think op is better because at least she did so a nice thing by taking in the parcel in good faith in the first place and did nothing to warrant the abuse from the other neighbour who didn’t do anything nice in this particular scenario. Totally see why op feels hard done by, so yes, op can be judgy if they wish.

Eastern Europeans reference? ??

Eastern Europeans reference? ?

asked the deliveryman to leave a note for my neighbour to come and collect, but I don't think he understood (he was an eastern european bloke with broken english)