To have not gone over to my neighbour's with her parcel?

[CowboyJoanna]

So the other day, a deliveryman pulled up on the street with a parcel for my neighbour who lives across the way. She's a slobby stay at home mum so she was in the house at the time, but for some reason never collected it. None of the neighbours either side of her were in, so the deliveryman brought it over to my house and asked me to take it in for her. I asked the deliveryman to leave a note for my neighbour to come and collect, but I don't think he understood (he was an eastern european bloke with broken english).

Anyway, I kept the parcel in the hall all day, waiting for my neighbour to collect it. But it became abundantly clear the deliveryman had not left a note, because she was sat on the sofa all day. When my DH got home from work, he asked me about the parcel and I explained it was a neighbour's. He said to me "leave it there and if she so wants it she'll come over. The deliverymen always leave notes". So we left it there.

Nothing came the next day. Neighbour was still in the house all day, as always.
But this morning we got a bang on the door.

It was the neighbour, and she proceeded to hurl a mouthful of abuse at me. "The fuck's your problem? Why didn't you bring me over my fucking parcel you cheeky bitch? That was my daughter's fucking birthday present and I was losing my fucking mind over it getting lost". I told her it wasn't my fault because I asked the deliveryman to leave her a note and I assumed she would come and collect it if she so wanted it. But she shouted "I got the note yeah but it's MY FUCKING PARCEL AND YOU JUST SAT THERE WITH IT".

It's not like I opened it or anything, but I'm wondering should I have gone over? I thought to myself, it's her parcel so if she wants it so badly she should've answered the door instead of sitting in front of the telly. And she didn't need to be so bloody rude.

@GoodAfternoonGoodEveningAndGoodnight ahh i see!! Thank you. I suppose just typing non English speaking as a first language may have been more pc.

But kind of irrelevant as the op said he did leave a note which the lazy neighbour said they read, but still expected op to deliver the parcel.

Please do not EVER take any other parcel for that very ungrateful neighbor.

I would have popped the parcel on her doorstep, knock the door and leave.

The only person I will take parcels for is my neighbour as we share a communal front door and prop it against the front door to their flat.

Last week, I had a courier trying to give me a parcel for a bitch who refused to give over my parcel 6 months ago. It was for me, not a Xmas present. I said "I have problems with that woman" and why not try the 5 houses which are closer to her than to me?

OP if you get a courier trying to give you a parcel for that slob, ask courier to bang on the window and refuse to take it in.

I usually wait till they come and collect as I always call for my parcels as soon as I know a neighbour has got it. Sometimes if I see my neighbour arriving home I pop out and tell them I have a parcel for them. I don’t think you were unreasonable but like others say, I wouldn’t take any more in for her

It's just a difference in expectations. She thinks you broke convention and that it was rude

My neighbour took in a very small medical parcel for me once. I went to collect it within half an hour of it being dropped off and a note left. He said " I don't mind taking in a parcel for you occasionally."
He's been asked to do it once - in four years.....

At that point I would have told her "If that's the case, get the delivery company to come and collect your parcel and redelivery it" then shut the door. Then ring the delivery company and say you don't want to deliver it or confront her due to whe aggression so can they come and get it.

Cheeky passive aggressive so and so!
I don't get what's wrong with people

The way she spoke to you was appalling and next time I presume you will just not take a parcel in for that house. I have one that I won't accept for - because I have been stuck more than once with parcels for them, which they didn't collect for days, and knocks on the door went unanswered even although we knew they were in. It's easy just to say 'no'

However, that was a horrible judging way to describe your neighbour. You have no idea what is going on in her life

And yes - I would have taken it over to her later in the day it was delivered

Just for the attitude I'd have shut the door in her face and returned the parcel to sender. Serve her right.

I agree she should have come and collected her parcel.
Definitely would refuse to take anything else for her
No excuse for the way she spoke to you, but I’d be worried about getting on the wrong side of her. She’s sounds extremely aggressive

Why would you not just drop it over like a decent person? So little effort needed, probably less than being on here and slagging her off.

I have lots of parcels delivered, often to neighbours if I’m out. I have NEVER EVER expected them to bring them round. As soon as I am home and see the delivery note, I pop round to collect, with lots on thank yous for taking the parcel in for me. It is unreasonable to expect the neighbour to deliver it.

My neighbours parcel got delivered to me, I wasn’t sure if the delivery driver left a card or not. So next time I saw one of them outside and ran the parcel out. Be neighbourly OP. You just seem like you were thinking ‘I’m not taking that lazy bitches parcel over to her, she sits on the sofa all day.’ So whilst her behaviour was unhinged, maybe you’ve already given her vibes you think you’re above her.

I'd have taken it over, just to get it dealt with - but it makes no difference now because you won't take parcels for her in future will you. Better make sure anything for you doesn't go to her, as someone said.
I once had some important documentation sent to me which was taken in by a neighbour and no note left. For days I wondered why it was taking so long, eventually rang to query and was told it had been delivered - then worked out it must have gone to neighbour. You can't rely on delivery people to leave a note (luckily that neighbour moved soon after).

I find this very hard to believe

Yes, that is the made up bit of your story..

If she knew where it was why would she be going out of her mind with worry, wondering where it was?

Load of made up bollocks.

When I was living with my ex in-laws the lady who lived next door was forever taking in my parcels. I'd go and collect them promptly when I got home from work or wherever I'd been, and once took her some nice chocolate as a thank you present. I wouldn't have dreamed of shouting at someone doing me a favour!

This woman is a scumbag.
YANBU

I've put you as not being unreasonable, it is her responsibility to collect. But your attitude stinks and I'm pleased neither of you are a neighbour of mine.

Do you not find it very rude that the neighbour firstly didn't answer the door to the delivery man, and secondly expected OP to deliver her parcel? What a bizarre reaction!

Without hearing the full story, not particularly no.

I have missed parcels even though im in the house, once i was in the shower, once i was out in the back garden hanging up washing.

I certainly wouldn't expect a neighbor to delivery my parcel to me but it has happened when ive came home from work ad put the kids dinner on and neighbor has come round before ive ad time, likewise if i have a parcel and i see the neighbor in i have zero issues popping over with it, theses just no way id sit there seething waiting for neighbor to come round and collect parcel.

@flabbergastedalways do you wouldn't find it rude to expect your neighbour to deliver the parcel to you?

If you don't think that's rude (and that was the question), then you need to look at yourself and your entitlement.

OP

Not too sure if you can do this. Have an online chat with the couriers to ask them if they get anymore parcels for the bitch, to put instructions not to deliver to you if she CBA getting off her backside to answer the door.

Or put a sign up “I do not take any neighbours’ parcels”