To have not gone over to my neighbour's with her parcel?

[CowboyJoanna]

So the other day, a deliveryman pulled up on the street with a parcel for my neighbour who lives across the way. She's a slobby stay at home mum so she was in the house at the time, but for some reason never collected it. None of the neighbours either side of her were in, so the deliveryman brought it over to my house and asked me to take it in for her. I asked the deliveryman to leave a note for my neighbour to come and collect, but I don't think he understood (he was an eastern european bloke with broken english).

Anyway, I kept the parcel in the hall all day, waiting for my neighbour to collect it. But it became abundantly clear the deliveryman had not left a note, because she was sat on the sofa all day. When my DH got home from work, he asked me about the parcel and I explained it was a neighbour's. He said to me "leave it there and if she so wants it she'll come over. The deliverymen always leave notes". So we left it there.

Nothing came the next day. Neighbour was still in the house all day, as always.
But this morning we got a bang on the door.

It was the neighbour, and she proceeded to hurl a mouthful of abuse at me. "The fuck's your problem? Why didn't you bring me over my fucking parcel you cheeky bitch? That was my daughter's fucking birthday present and I was losing my fucking mind over it getting lost". I told her it wasn't my fault because I asked the deliveryman to leave her a note and I assumed she would come and collect it if she so wanted it. But she shouted "I got the note yeah but it's MY FUCKING PARCEL AND YOU JUST SAT THERE WITH IT".

It's not like I opened it or anything, but I'm wondering should I have gone over? I thought to myself, it's her parcel so if she wants it so badly she should've answered the door instead of sitting in front of the telly. And she didn't need to be so bloody rude.

Her neighbour wouldn’t open the door to the delivery driver, why should OP expect it to be any different if she’d gone and knocked?

Same applies to "lazy, can't be arsed to get off my sofa mum".

No, I do not expect my Neighbours to deliver my Parcel to me if they've been kind enough to take it it. I will collect it from them, if I get back after 8pm or it's already dark then I won't go over until the following day though.

Yanbu no - and in future just refuse to take in parcels addressed to her. We have a couple of problem neighbours in our street and I have no qualms about saying "sorry I can't" if a delivery person asks us to take a parcel for them. You have no obligation to act as unpaid parcel drop service and you certainly have no obligation to go over there if you do accept a parcel. It's for her to come over to you and apologise profusely for the inconvenience that you've had her clutter im your hallway.

Simply don't take any parcels in for your neighbours - or jsut for those you like.

It seems I’m the only person left on my street who still works from home and all the delivery drivers know it! If I had to drop off all the parcels I take in I’d be calling it a p/t job!! She’s a CF. Don’t take anything in for her again. Absolutely not your responsibility. The favour you did was taking it in. Collecting it is on her.

Had a similar issue couple of Christmas's ago. Neighbour was quite stroppy saying it was a Xmas present that she couldn't give. Unfortunately for her, my husband opened the door who said, why didn't you just collect it earlier. She argued with him saying that they hadn't put a card through the door & only knew it was with us as she had chased by email. He asked her why she didn't chase by email sooner. She huffed, he shut the door. End of.

You both sound like trash tbh.

YANBU and because she has been so rude, decline to take in future parcels for her.

Bloody hell, I’m judging her! She can flop on her sofa all day if she wants to, but not expect a neighbour to pick up her slack, and then abuse her when it doesn’t go her way. Horrid woman. Poor OP.

If this woman cannot be bothered getting off her backside to answer her own front door knowing full well that a parcel for her daughter's birthday is going to be delivered, it's highly unlikely she would get off her arse to take in a parcel for OP or anybody else.

I mean, when I get mail for other people on accident I either take it to them if nearby or give it back to the delivery person/call to have it picked back up by delivery person.
I am still very confused as to why the delivery person didn't just deliver it where it was supposed to go.

Because she didn’t answer the door.

So he delivered to OP and left a note for the neighbour to say it’s with the OP.

These days, pictures are taken as a receipt of delivery, visible to the person who ordered said parcel
I have a neighbour who orders loads from Amazon, never answers the door which leaves neighbours to take in the parcels, nobody takes them anymore.
They are disrespectful and rude and nobody accepts parcels for them apart from the odd person who just keeps the parcel for themselves

You could have worded the post better, though I totally get where you are coming from and beyond!

One day the delivery guy said would you take a parcel, I said who for? he said and I said most definitely NOT! He asked why and I told him "They do not like anybody and nobody likes them!" He laughed
If you have never experienced living near disrespectful, uneducated morons then there should be a button on here where you do not get to comment! Some do not know the depths these will sink to

They can't just leave it? In the USA it is either left on the porch or designated spot or they take it back and leave a note and you have to go down and pick it up. Rare occasions it can be set up for future delivery.
Anytime it is at a neighbor is always 100% accidental wrong delivery.

I really like my neighbours and would have no qualms about dropping the parcel over to them, just in case they weren’t aware I’d received it. So…YABU. And her reaction means she is also unreasonable.

FFS really? We’re all spinning around on the same planet together and you can’t be bothered to take a parcel over? Despite your disdain for the mum she dod not ASK for it to be delivered at yours nor dod you refuse.
YABU

I have no kind words for you OP.

cremebrulait · Today 18:45
FFS really? We’re all spinning around on the same planet together and you can’t be bothered to take a parcel over? Despite your disdain for the mum she dod not ASK for it to be delivered at yours nor dod you refuse.
YABU

I have no kind words for you OP.

how the fuck does this argument stack up?
stupid fucking neighbour should have waddled over picked up her own sodding parcel

@mandlerparr in the uk it is common for parcel delivery drivers to ask neighbours to take in a parcel, rather than just leave it. Parcels normally have to be signed for or left in a safe place (eg greenhouse/parcel box/over the back gate etc. They should not (although some couriers do) just be left on the doorstep. They will be stolen. An awful lot of uk housing don’t have a front step/driveway/garden as the front door open directly onto the public footpath.
Couriers therefore tend to knock on neighbours doors and ask them to keep the parcel safe for the intended recipient - who should get a note or app notification of where the parcel was safely left.
Most courier companies will allow you specify a) where you want a parcel left and on what day to deliver, if you don’t want them to deliver on their chosen day.

edit to add. If the parcel cannot be safely delivered couriers return it to base and it’s usual for them to try twice more before the parcel is returned to the original sender.

You are not her bit@ch if she wants her parcel she can come get it. You were kind enough to take it in for her.

Yep. Take no more parcels in.

Then she can worry where it is and shout at someone else about it!

You all sound like trash.

Sometimes I'll take parcels round, sometimes they collect. Depends who thinks of it first. What I wouldn't do is take a parcel and stubbornly refuse to take it round to make some kind of point.

You spend so much time at the window looking at this dreadful common woman, you might as well have taken the parcel round.
She might have asked you in for a drug taking session.

Did she know you had the parcel?

She sounds bloody awful! It’s not your job to deliver parcels. She had the note, she knew where it was. It was up to her to fetch it. Stay out of her way & don’t take in any more parcels for her.