To have not gone over to my neighbour's with her parcel?

[CowboyJoanna]

So the other day, a deliveryman pulled up on the street with a parcel for my neighbour who lives across the way. She's a slobby stay at home mum so she was in the house at the time, but for some reason never collected it. None of the neighbours either side of her were in, so the deliveryman brought it over to my house and asked me to take it in for her. I asked the deliveryman to leave a note for my neighbour to come and collect, but I don't think he understood (he was an eastern european bloke with broken english).

Anyway, I kept the parcel in the hall all day, waiting for my neighbour to collect it. But it became abundantly clear the deliveryman had not left a note, because she was sat on the sofa all day. When my DH got home from work, he asked me about the parcel and I explained it was a neighbour's. He said to me "leave it there and if she so wants it she'll come over. The deliverymen always leave notes". So we left it there.

Nothing came the next day. Neighbour was still in the house all day, as always.
But this morning we got a bang on the door.

It was the neighbour, and she proceeded to hurl a mouthful of abuse at me. "The fuck's your problem? Why didn't you bring me over my fucking parcel you cheeky bitch? That was my daughter's fucking birthday present and I was losing my fucking mind over it getting lost". I told her it wasn't my fault because I asked the deliveryman to leave her a note and I assumed she would come and collect it if she so wanted it. But she shouted "I got the note yeah but it's MY FUCKING PARCEL AND YOU JUST SAT THERE WITH IT".

It's not like I opened it or anything, but I'm wondering should I have gone over? I thought to myself, it's her parcel so if she wants it so badly she should've answered the door instead of sitting in front of the telly. And she didn't need to be so bloody rude.

The thing is
the rude neighbour didn't answer the door for deliverymen, she might as well not answer the door for the OP.
And then what leave the parcel at the doorstep?? so the parcel can be weathered in? or stolen? and then OP will be blamed for leaving the parcel on the doorstep. So possibly no win situation here.

So OP do not accept parcels for that woman again.

YANBU for being upset at how she spoke to you but…..

YABVVVVU for, I’m my opinion, purposely not taking her parcel to her house because you are a snob and think you are better than your neighbour.

You KNOW she didn’t have a card to say it had been left with a neighbour so how was this person meant to collect it from you?

Shitty behaviour from both of you.

OP
I am with you, she sounds like a vile, lazy entitled slob and I’d think and say exactly what you did
All this nicey nicey bullshit never got anyone anywhere.

The onus on the person whose parcel it is to collect it.

How bizarrely entitled to expect your neighbour who has kindly taken it in to then run around after you!

Your neighbour sounds like an arse.

Because this never happened

I have an issue with parcels being delivered to a neighbouring street with a very similar name (Avenue/place same prefix) and it drives me crazy that the woman in the house takes them in and never returns them even though they’re not for her and because it’s been delivered I don’t get a note. So I am now on the side of returning to the correct house at the first opportunity.

Today's episode of things that didn't happen...

If this actually happened, you sound equally as awful as each other.

You come across as a judgemental, narcissist. If you didn’t want to do a favour then you shouldn’t have bothered.

The neighbour sounds a foul mouthed, half wit.

I have no idea why it is an issue for either of you. Normal neighbours don’t behave in this manner.

All these people saying it didn't happen. Of course it wouldn't happen on your posh yummy mummy street in yummy-mummyland
Do you think I'd really have wasted my time typing this out or thinking this scenario up if it didn't??

Read my post again. She admitted she DID get a card.

But she expected ME to give it to her. And got cross when I didn't.

And for the record, I didn't go round because I'm not a deliverywoman and it's not up to me. It's not my parcel if she wants it, she comes and gets it. I would've done the same thing if she was a well-to-do 'naice' woman.

You all sound rough as toast.
Glad I don’t live in your neighbourhood.

Totally agree.

I saw two young women walking up to the local shop in pyjamas and dressing gowns the other day, one with a fag hanging out her mouth.

Did I judge them? Yes. Yes I did.

I'm not going to be told by the thought police who I'm allowed to judge.

YANBU. The law is recipient must collect the parcel as soon as they are home, unless the parcel is delivered after 9pm, at which point the recipient should collect the parcel the next morning, after 9am.

<gavel>

I've taken in parcels before that have been left in my house for a week. I won't take them in for them neigbours anymore.

I always collect straight away if a parcels gone to another house, assuming its still a sensible hour and never understand people who don't. Clearly they're not home to receive it in the first place so do they expect you to sit watching out your window until they get home?

There was no need for her to kick off like she did. She should be grateful someone took it in instead of having to go and collect from the post office!

I would have lobbed it off her head

If she knew you had it she should have come and got it. But usually I would take it over when I knew someone was back in. Not your problem though so she should shut her filthy mouth. And obviously you will not accept parcels for her again.

No, the onus is on her to come collect it, not for you to deliver it. However I personally would have gone over if I saw her there the next time I went out.
How she could claim she was losing her mind when she knew where it was is bizarre.

If you have any evidence that her behaviour like that is anywhere near her children, especially her temper, I'd be tempted to raise concerns about her with social services.

Nope, she’s a rude entitled bitch, bet it’s the last time you ever take a parcel in for her. I wouldn’t let her take up any more of your headspace.

Yep those were my thoughts

well the actual delivery person went over and no dice, so you'd spend all your day going back and forth in case she decided she could be bothered to open the door this time?

my neighbour kept putting my address down for parcels instead of hers, even though she was in her own house all day doing nothing and I was trying to work. After I dumped a couple in the middle of her driveway she got the message and updated it to her real address and collected them herself.

and if someone was calling me f this and f that on my own bloody doorstep, especially because of their own laziness/problems, I'd be doing a lot more than calling them slobby.

some people are just cfs.

I live in the North West so I'll try to avoid your area. Sounds mad!!

Even if you worked for DPD, it wouldn’t be your job to take her parcel to her.

They should and often do lieave a note saying parcel at number 4646565

We've had the same, took parcel for next door, bloke is at home, possibly home works and wife works pt - they did not come so I went over and handed it the next day - I don't wnt to be pushy and go over as soon as I see heir car

we had a parcel delivered and delivered to us two weeks later from about 15 doors away - not sure if they were on hols - the company was almost in the process of sensifn us a second
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best thing is possibly donta accept other peoples parcels as they may say -"did you not see damage - or we cancelled it " - best not to accept unless next door asks