To have not gone over to my neighbour's with her parcel?

[CowboyJoanna]

So the other day, a deliveryman pulled up on the street with a parcel for my neighbour who lives across the way. She's a slobby stay at home mum so she was in the house at the time, but for some reason never collected it. None of the neighbours either side of her were in, so the deliveryman brought it over to my house and asked me to take it in for her. I asked the deliveryman to leave a note for my neighbour to come and collect, but I don't think he understood (he was an eastern european bloke with broken english).

Anyway, I kept the parcel in the hall all day, waiting for my neighbour to collect it. But it became abundantly clear the deliveryman had not left a note, because she was sat on the sofa all day. When my DH got home from work, he asked me about the parcel and I explained it was a neighbour's. He said to me "leave it there and if she so wants it she'll come over. The deliverymen always leave notes". So we left it there.

Nothing came the next day. Neighbour was still in the house all day, as always.
But this morning we got a bang on the door.

It was the neighbour, and she proceeded to hurl a mouthful of abuse at me. "The fuck's your problem? Why didn't you bring me over my fucking parcel you cheeky bitch? That was my daughter's fucking birthday present and I was losing my fucking mind over it getting lost". I told her it wasn't my fault because I asked the deliveryman to leave her a note and I assumed she would come and collect it if she so wanted it. But she shouted "I got the note yeah but it's MY FUCKING PARCEL AND YOU JUST SAT THERE WITH IT".

It's not like I opened it or anything, but I'm wondering should I have gone over? I thought to myself, it's her parcel so if she wants it so badly she should've answered the door instead of sitting in front of the telly. And she didn't need to be so bloody rude.

maybe she is??

If I take a parcel in for a neighbour I message them and they come and get it.

My next door neighbour was on holiday and her daughter who lives away was staying in her house. I took in a parcel and put a note through the door and she came to collect it. I do have lovely neighbours though (except the cunt in number 22).

Not in Rossendale are you op?? 😂😂😂 Regular occurrence here this type of thing!!! lol!!

22's are always C**ts.

I put YABU, because as has been said, you are incredibly rude to have spoken like you did about her, and you could have popped the parcel over seeing as you took it in! I have had packages before in the past, and my 'delivery updates' don't move for 8 hours. So for example, it was delivered to me at 1pm and the website didn't say it had been delivered (at 1pm) til 9pm. So the neighbour probably didn't know the parcel was with you! No wonder she was pissed off.

Also, you saying she was in - but the delivery man tried to deliver to neighbours - makes no sense. If she was in and she was expecting the package, then why did she not answer the door?

Assuming this is all true, it's because of shit like this that I NEVER take in anyone's packages. NEVER. I fucking hate it. It's nothing but a bloody nuisance. Having to wait til they come back home, and making sure you look out for them coming home, (and trying to catch them,) trying to make them hear you if you have to knock on their door, having to make tedious conversation with them when you drop off said package, having to take responsibility for the bloody package! CBA! I never take peoples packages in now, and I don't expect anyone to take mine in either. Indeed, I don't WANT them to. I have my own 'safe space' for them to deliver to.

She sounds like a complete CF.

It died a long time ago.

I’m sorry if someone was banging on my door giving me a mouthful calling me a cheeky bitch for not bringing them their parcel I wouldn’t be able to speak about them politely either. OP YANBU!

How awful. I would have slammed the door in her face. Then I would have called the delivery company to say that due to the threatening nature of the neighbour I couldn’t give the parcel to her. Let them pick up the parcel and redeliver it to her.

You did her a favour taking it in, there was no need to do her another by taking it to her door.

One of my neighbours once accused me of stealing her wine delivery. She came barging over all 'Errr, exCUSE me, but I THINK you have my WINE!'. It apparently wasn't enough to just tell her I didn't have her wine - she needed to attempt to push my door open to scan my hallway for HER WINE.

The utter twat had seen me take a delivery from the same company that delivers her wine (according to her) and put 2 and 2 together to make crazy bitch.

MY delivery was my Grand Prix tickets. Considerably smaller than a case of wine, in fairness, and a lot more expensive (which she didn't appreciate me pointing out).

I've refused to take anything in for her ever since, on principal.

YANBU

She's a nasty bitch, I'd have replied "then why didn't you answer your fucking door to the delivery driver? Never come onto my property again", whilst shoving the parcel into her arms and slamming the door on her.

I mean, I didn't like your initial description of her, but reading the dialogue, your description was spot on really. Never take in a parcel for her again!

What a lazy bitch.

If a neighbour ever takes in a parcel for me, I always go straight round to retrieve it.

"Because she lives across the way. And through her window I can almost always see the back of her head propped on the sofa everytime I look out the window."

Well by that logic you can't know she spends all day on the sofa unless you spend all day looking out of the window.

Yabu as you both sound rude.

Is this the neighbour who would not answer the door and hand over the parcel in the other thread? What a load of stupid people there are!

This drives me mad, if any of my neighbours v kindly take a parcel in I go straight over before I even take my shoes off. I’ve had it before where I have taken them in and they don’t come for them and expect them brought to them. Easy result I don’t take parcels for them any more.

Agree she sounds an awful neighbour

Oh ffs, at least read the OP's posts before posting such crap. The neighbour did know because she had a card through her letterbox telling her where her parcel was.
And even if she hadn't, that is no excuse for the abusive tirade at the OP. I think the OP has been very restrained in her description given the behaviour of her neighbour.

Why imply the OP is lying about the woman being in? Maybe she's one of those mumsnetters who never answer the door? Who knows why trashy antisocial people do the things they do.

Well, she sounds like a right charmer!! However, why didn't you just take it over? What a drama over nothing. People on MN are so weird about things like this.

I'm really surprised people are saying the OP is just as rude as her neighbour. The neighbour was aggressive and verbally abusive, I wonder how many posters would be happy if they were approached by a neighbour in such a way? Most people on this site can't even handle another mum not saying hi to them on the school run.

We've gone too far in terms of not being judgemental, be kind etc. It wasn't long before people on this thread were using mental health as an excuse for the neighbour. It's laughable, especially since I don't believe for one second anyone would want to live next to this neighbour. Seeing a house with a furniture and rubbish dumped in the front garden brings down house prices in the whole street for a reason.

We are retired and at home most of the time, we take in parcels for about 10 different neighbours i would never dream of taking the parcels to them, they collect from me if they want them. The only neighbour we won't take parcels for left a very large parcel with us for 4 days then sent small child over to tell us to take it to them. We are old, they were not and they were in when the driver called, got really pissed when we made them collect it from us.

I’d have flung it at her and told her to get to fuck.
Cheeky bitch.
Sounds like a right lazy cunt.

Not really. If OPs version of events are true then this other woman is an absolute thundercunt.

Next time tell the delivery driver she has moved out and to return to sender.

it is probably similar slobs on here that are defending her.

She might also be working on a laptop from the sofa and not be a SAHM at all!! 🧐

She might be Mother Theresa reincarnated!

If the woman won’t answer the door to the delivery man, why would OP expect her to answer the door to her? She’d could be carrying it back and forth every day for weeks.

If a neighbour is kind enough to take in a parcel for me I do not expect them to carry it around for me or store it in their hall for days. I go round as soon as I can, thank them for taking it in, and get it off their hands ASAP. If you aren’t prepared to do that you should include delivery instructions to not ever leave with a neighbour.