Just had a blazing row with a builder

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Not working for me, he keeps parking across my driveway. I’ve asked him again to move it and he said all I have to do is be polite and ask.l each time.

I responded with I was polite the first time and how about he just doesn’t do it. And wow did it escalate. He was screaming that he pays road tax and can park where he wants, I pointed out it’s a dropped curb so no he can’t.

Honestly. It got so much worse, he called me a fucking bitch. Now I feel vulnerable in my own home.

Aibu? I shouldn’t repeatedly have to ask someone to stop blocking my car. I’ve noticed he doesn’t block the driveway of the people he’s working for.

An an impartial observer, you are making yourself look a bit silly on this thread!

I misspelled a word. I apologised. People won't let it go. What more do you want?

Honestly maybe I’m reading way too much into it but telling me to ask politely felt so sexist. Like I should be a good woman and ask the man if he wouldn’t mind terribly to move his van for me.

And fuck being polite. I was polite before and it clearly got me no where. And the bitch comment, yet another way for a man to put a woman down. I’m a bitch because I want to be able to use my driveway … ok.

Whats hilarious is that not too long ago someone parked against the neighbours driveway. I know because he came round banging on my door asking if it was mine (erm mines in my driveway mate). I then later saw a community enforcement officer ticketing the car, so he’d clearly reported it. But thinks it’s fine when it happens to his neighbours.

I think the craze where everyone has to have off street parking is a huge part of these kinds of conflicts. The biggest problem with most roads is that nobody seems capable of walking a few feet from the kerb anymore and everyone wants to practically park in their own living rooms so they don't have to walk anywhere, ever. All it has done is remove all the street parking so you end up with people parking across drives because there's usually nowhere else they can park without going to the next street and walking back.

Personally I'd block my own drive for the next few weeks (or until he's finished). If you have CCTV keep an eye on it as he sounds the type to stick a stanley knife in the tyre though -especially after a row and if you stop him doing it by blocking your drive. "Big" men don't like being stopped doing what they like.
I'd be absolutely mortified if I was the neighbour whose house he was working at.

Definitely tell the home owner. Lots of builders do this on my road because they don't want to pay for visitor permits (or the people doing the renovations are too tight to cover this). It's really irritating but at the very least, most move immediately if you ask (nicely or not). Not that you should have to ask permission to access your property. To tell you to "ask nicely" and then scream at you is totally unacceptable. In my area you can report bad parking online and a traffic warden usually comes fairly quickly.

The only thing I've found works with driveway blockers is to park across your own drive. Not that you should have to. I know some people say you wouldn't be allowed to park across your own drive where they live, but you are where I live.

It’s fine to misspell a word. Your responses are a bit defensive and immature in my view. That’s the issue, not the spelling. Anyway I won’t derail further. Sorry OP!

Write a polite note but stick it to the middle of his windscreen with a big blob of pritstick. Watch from behind the curtains as he tries to clean smears
of glue from the glass.

And yet here you are continuing to focus on a very minor transgression.

Let. It. Go.

Go away? It’s my thread.

Yet here you are having some seriously weird immature argument. Stop embarrassing yourself and you go away.

Yes! My area is like this- crammed in cars into what should be front gardens and then their second car is never parked in front of their dropped kerb, oh no, always in front of my house which still has a front garden... (It's raining right now, I'm bitter I've got to hoik everything through the rain from a next door road because the person who lives opposite me has 4 cars and only space for one on their front garden parking space 🤪😂)

You could park across your own driveway but he sounds like the kind of twat who would intentionally move his van once you'd driven off, just to piss you off.

See if he does it again, if he does, report it so he gets a ticket (as per your PP)

Put traffic cones your in your drive?

It's quite easy to do. Don't respond to me. You're expecting me to not respond to you, so just carry on with your thread. I won't say another word as long as you or anyone else doesn't say anything else to me.

Oooh, so you can dish it out, but you can’t take it? You get to correct people, but your mistakes are fine? There’s a real absence of logic. 🤣

And, thus, the aforementioned looking silly.

Had exactly the same :( came home from work and very nicely asked him to move so I could get on my drive. He was ok ish but said I had room to squeeze round him. I said not possible so he moved back a foot. Still over half.

Next morning came out and he was across again and on the pavement bit so about five inches from the front of my car. No way could I get out. Had to go and ask him to move again.

Got home from work and again he was parked across my drive. Told me he had to park somewhere. I suggested he blocked the drive of the house he was working on. We ended up with a shouting match in the street 😭

I hammered on the neighbours door and told them to move their bloody cars so he could park on their drive and take the inconvenience for themselves instead of inflicting it on everyone else.

It worked but the neighbours haven't spoken to me since 🤷‍♀️

Tell them you work for HMRC and ask for his company name/sole trader info.

He can get a ticket/ towed, if you call up.

It's not incorrect in the US. Curb curb curb curb curb curb.

That builder is a twat pure and simple you don't have to keep politely ask him to move he knows exactly what he's doing.

I'd get him towed away lol definitely speak to your neighbours

The same thing happened to me - almost verbatim. Really intimidating and scary.

Our neighbour's brother always parks across us when he visits. We've asked him not to and he says it's fine because he'll move it if we want to go out. I want to be able to go out without having to knock next door!

If I were you, I'd park my own car across my drive for the foreseeable, just so he can't do it.