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To think nurseries are not safe for young babies

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Luxell934 · 20/05/2024 20:25

I've read about two very young babies dying in nurseries recently. One who choked after being given inappropriate food and one who was left to smother to death.

As a new mother it's absolutely terrifying to think about, I have also worked myself in nurseries for a number of years. It was a very well respected chain of nurseries and we were always understaffed and over ratio, I remember caring for up to 9 babies with just two staff and were told team leaders were "in the office, if needed" which basically meant get on with it and don't bother us. I also remember feeding 4/5 babies at a time. Looking back I was so young that I didn't speak up.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13438725/Nursery-nurse-Kate-Roughley-manslaughter-convicted.html

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cqennjjllpqo

Nursery nurse is convicted of killing nine-month-old baby girl

Nine-month-old Genevieve Meehan was also tightly swaddled and covered with a blanket by Kate Roughley, 37, who put her to sleep when she was in her care at Tiny Toes nursery in Cheadle Hulme.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-13438725/Nursery-nurse-Kate-Roughley-manslaughter-convicted.html

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catchthebeat · 10/06/2024 12:48

MrsSunshine2b · 10/06/2024 12:38

They are not in the workforce. And attending childcare is not "being raised" by anyone other than the parents, just like school aged kids are still being raised at home, by their parents, they are just also attending another place of education. No-one is dropping their 18 mth child off at boarding school and not seeing them until the summer holidays.

This link is from the states but there are other more international studies you can find.

https://www.acf.hhs.gov/opre/report/childrens-learning-and-development-benefits-high-quality-early-care-and-education

I didn't say they are in the workforce. I said it's to encourage them to continue to work. That's why free or cheaper childcare exists as far as I know.

I really hope that the reason you gave isn't why poor families are offered more childcare. Support from services such as Health Visitors and Social Care, sure. But encouraging uneducated/poor parents to outsource some of their childcare to someone who must be better at it because they're more educated (although that isn't always true) is pretty sinister.

Jellycats4life · 10/06/2024 13:02

I really hope that the reason you gave isn't why poor families are offered more childcare. Support from services such as Health Visitors and Social Care, sure. But encouraging uneducated/poor parents to outsource some of their childcare to someone who must be better at it because they're more educated (although that isn't always true) is pretty sinister.

It’s always been my assumption that this was certainly one of the implicit aims of offering extended free childcare to those in receipt of certain benefits.

MrsSunshine2b · 10/06/2024 13:24

catchthebeat · 10/06/2024 12:48

I didn't say they are in the workforce. I said it's to encourage them to continue to work. That's why free or cheaper childcare exists as far as I know.

I really hope that the reason you gave isn't why poor families are offered more childcare. Support from services such as Health Visitors and Social Care, sure. But encouraging uneducated/poor parents to outsource some of their childcare to someone who must be better at it because they're more educated (although that isn't always true) is pretty sinister.

It's not sinister at all. It's been identified that children of unemployed parents who have not attended nursery or preschool are starting school with significantly less life experience than children who have attended preschool or have more affluent parents. Providing those parents with access to funded childcare means that the child is getting access to experiences they are likely not to have had at home.

In the example above of an illiterate parent, at the very least they will have the experience of someone sitting with them to read a story.

How is providing childcare to someone not in work "encouraging them to continue" work? You can't continue something you're not doing. As far as I'm aware, the govt has never argued that funded hours for 2 yos for parents in receipt of benefits has ever been for any other purpose than to ensure the child has more chance of starting school on a more equal footing to children of parents who are not on benefits.

SouthLondonMum22 · 10/06/2024 13:37

MrsSunshine2b · 10/06/2024 13:24

It's not sinister at all. It's been identified that children of unemployed parents who have not attended nursery or preschool are starting school with significantly less life experience than children who have attended preschool or have more affluent parents. Providing those parents with access to funded childcare means that the child is getting access to experiences they are likely not to have had at home.

In the example above of an illiterate parent, at the very least they will have the experience of someone sitting with them to read a story.

How is providing childcare to someone not in work "encouraging them to continue" work? You can't continue something you're not doing. As far as I'm aware, the govt has never argued that funded hours for 2 yos for parents in receipt of benefits has ever been for any other purpose than to ensure the child has more chance of starting school on a more equal footing to children of parents who are not on benefits.

That’s correct.

15 hours isn’t about getting the parents to work because 15 hours wouldn’t be enough, it would be 30 hours like the childcare assistance for those with both parents in work.

The 15 hours for 2 year olds is to provide early childhood education to children who are statistically disadvantaged compared to their peers and often start school behind their peers.

Namechangey23 · 10/06/2024 19:12

freshgreenmintleaves · 08/06/2024 00:27

“Also why is it you say nursery workers are “trained professionals" is a myth?

It’s a myth because there seems to be a substantial number of people who seem to believe that institutional care (sorry, that’s what it is) is better than home care with a loving, nurturing parent because, apparently, nurseries are populated by highly “trained professionals” who are doing things with their child that they couldn’t possibly do at home; or that a loud, overstimulating environment with loads of strangers milling about is better for cognitive, social and emotional development than a slower, calmer home environment with 1 or 2 loving, nurturing primary caregivers and interaction with a small network of family and friends.

“Many are trained and have excellent experience..at good nurseries. I would not send my child to a nursery where there was no evidence of training. Are all the teachers/assistants at schools trained would be an interesting one as last time I checked you only needed a year and some courses you train on the job (I am not saying that is right for the record).”

Who gives a fig about training? You need someone who loves the child to care for the child. An illiterate mother is far superior to a stranger with a billion trillion years of training and education. Why? Because she loves her child, and that will be evident in the way she interacts with, and responds to her child; and that’s what’s necessary for the healthy wiring of the brain that occurs primarily in the first three years of life.

You seem to be missing an extremely important point here...the majority of children who go to nursery DO have loving and caring parents AS WELL AS a nursery key worker who they will also be attached to for the hours they attend nursery. Do you honestly believe that my children and thousands of other children who have attended nursery before age 2 do not have "healthy wired up brains" to use your words? It's so strange given my eldest is top of his class, lots of friends, plays piano, sports, excels in maths, still loves a cuddle...yet according to you he should have an unhealthy brain given he attended nursery 3 days a week from age 6 months? You are absolutely kidding yourself! Maybe I was just lucky though eh? Or maybe he will be a disaffected adult eh? Ha! The kids are harmed by childcare is a myth used to keep women in domestic servitude... And it is very very effective because it plays on women's biggest fears. Funny how you don't see many male SAHP isn't it!

SouthLondonMum22 · 10/06/2024 19:31

Namechangey23 · 10/06/2024 19:12

You seem to be missing an extremely important point here...the majority of children who go to nursery DO have loving and caring parents AS WELL AS a nursery key worker who they will also be attached to for the hours they attend nursery. Do you honestly believe that my children and thousands of other children who have attended nursery before age 2 do not have "healthy wired up brains" to use your words? It's so strange given my eldest is top of his class, lots of friends, plays piano, sports, excels in maths, still loves a cuddle...yet according to you he should have an unhealthy brain given he attended nursery 3 days a week from age 6 months? You are absolutely kidding yourself! Maybe I was just lucky though eh? Or maybe he will be a disaffected adult eh? Ha! The kids are harmed by childcare is a myth used to keep women in domestic servitude... And it is very very effective because it plays on women's biggest fears. Funny how you don't see many male SAHP isn't it!

Exactly.

Their network just also includes nursery. Who are far from ‘strangers’.

Jam1994 · 22/08/2024 12:22

I concur! Having experience as a nursery assistant, I vowed never to send my child to one. The environment can be negative and neglectful, especially among the staff. While it is true that accidents can happen at home, they are usually unintentional. When someone else is looking after your child, the level of care may not be the same as that of a parent. Nursery assistants often face pressure and may lack genuine enthusiasm, as they are there out of necessity rather than choice.

SouthLondonMum22 · 22/08/2024 13:17

Jam1994 · 22/08/2024 12:22

I concur! Having experience as a nursery assistant, I vowed never to send my child to one. The environment can be negative and neglectful, especially among the staff. While it is true that accidents can happen at home, they are usually unintentional. When someone else is looking after your child, the level of care may not be the same as that of a parent. Nursery assistants often face pressure and may lack genuine enthusiasm, as they are there out of necessity rather than choice.

How many nurseries have you worked in?

Runnerinthenight · 22/08/2024 18:21

Jam1994 · 22/08/2024 12:22

I concur! Having experience as a nursery assistant, I vowed never to send my child to one. The environment can be negative and neglectful, especially among the staff. While it is true that accidents can happen at home, they are usually unintentional. When someone else is looking after your child, the level of care may not be the same as that of a parent. Nursery assistants often face pressure and may lack genuine enthusiasm, as they are there out of necessity rather than choice.

Maybe your attitude was all wrong!

strawberryjeans · 22/01/2025 16:13

It does really make me anxious, there’s more on the news as well recently that sounds similar.

Lalgarh · 24/04/2025 23:10

Horrific documentary on bbc1 now about it

Ofsted used to do unannounced inspections but that was scrapped in 2015. Now with a pre arranged inspection you get nurseries calling in members of staff who are off sick and laying on fake activities where they're normally just left in Thier chairs, to dupe the inspector

WithACatLikeTread · 25/04/2025 11:14

Lalgarh · 24/04/2025 23:10

Horrific documentary on bbc1 now about it

Ofsted used to do unannounced inspections but that was scrapped in 2015. Now with a pre arranged inspection you get nurseries calling in members of staff who are off sick and laying on fake activities where they're normally just left in Thier chairs, to dupe the inspector

What use is this post for the parents who have no choice but to use childcare?

Lalgarh · 25/04/2025 15:09

I dunno. To prompt government to properly find inspection regimes and enforce child safeguarding rules?

SprinkleofSpringShowers · 25/04/2025 16:48

Lalgarh · 24/04/2025 23:10

Horrific documentary on bbc1 now about it

Ofsted used to do unannounced inspections but that was scrapped in 2015. Now with a pre arranged inspection you get nurseries calling in members of staff who are off sick and laying on fake activities where they're normally just left in Thier chairs, to dupe the inspector

Do you know what it’s called please

Lalgarh · 25/04/2025 17:02

SprinkleofSpringShowers · 25/04/2025 16:48

Do you know what it’s called please

@SprinkleofSpringShowers it's "How safe are our nurseries?"

How Safe Are Our Nurseries?: www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/m0029vnd via @bbciplayer

Trigger warning etc

mikado1 · 25/04/2025 18:08

We had two similar ones jn Ireland around 2013/14. First one particularly horrific called A Breach of Trust. Better to know than have heads in the sand surely. Parents are paying huge sums and should have their babies looked after properly. I will never forget the night I watched that, they had an uncover reporter in as a worker with a hidden camera and microphone across 3 different chains. My friend's child was in one of them. She was devastated.

Letskeepcalm · 05/10/2025 10:08

NuffSaidSam · 20/05/2024 22:44

Some are.

Many, many are not.

And this is no fault of the staff btw, I'm not having a go at them. I don't doubt most are doing their absolute best in difficult circumstances.

Totally agree

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