To wonder why my child isn't invited to the wedding?

[Flywiththebirds]

Bridesmaid to a dear friend next year, along with our other close friend. Each of us (bridesmaids) have a child each. Bride has invited our other friends child to the wedding but not mine? I just find it a bit odd to be honest. I understand people choosing not to have children at their wedding at all, but I find it really odd to invite one of your bridesmaids child and not the other? Id say we are also all close in the same way.

Just wondering if anyone else would feel a little strange about this?

See, this makes sense to me but Mn has opened my eyes to how many people would rather walk over hot coals than talk about an issue. They'd rather just ignore it, pull back, go NC, block and delete.

She won’t. 😂

You have to ask. If she wants you as a bridesmaid, she should at least have the guts to explain herself.

Maybe the other child behaved better. Or she likes it more

😂

This is how i would phrase it too

Just clarifying that x is invited as its not clear on the invite and I understand Y is bringing z

How does your child even know the other one is invited to the wedding?

Here’s an idea - just ask her why.

Is the other child in the wedding party? Ie like maybe the flower girl? And I am guessing the children are different sexes? We have boy / girl twins - my son would not been keen on weddings - maybe your friend pressumed (it appears wrongly) your child would not be interested?
if you want to know I would ask the other bridesmaid if she knows why

Why don't you just ask her? (Sorry if this is answered further down the line, but if it was my close friend I'd just ask. Hope it all gets sorted :)

She's your good friend so why not just ask her?

How do you know your child isn't invited OP? Did she say he isn't? Or was his name not on the wedding invitation?

@willowtolive not wishing to be rude but that's the whole point of the OP!

Then this is a good opportunity to model how to react when not invited to something

Always baffled by the number of people on here who claim to be “dear friends” with someone but then can’t even have a simple honest conversation with them and would drive themselves mad with speculation and the opinions of random strangers online.

You’ve admitted it’s going to affect your friendship going forward so just be an adult and ask her!

Hi Sarah Mary told me that her little one is coming to the wedding; is my Billy invited or shall I get childcare?

Or just pick up the phone, hey what’s going on with invites for kids, is George invited.

it’s really not hard.

Just ask the bride!

I would ask, and say something along the lines of:
' I know it's your wedding and no business of mine who you invite and whatever you decide is ok by me, but (daughter) has said (other bridesmaid daughter) is going and I just wanted to double check you'd not missed her off if you wanted her there, but if she's not invited that's 100% fine as childfree is good for me!'

Don't do that. It's so snakey

I'm always baffled by the number of people who claim to be baffled

It's totally baffling, as is the amount of people who confuse simple communication with 'confrontation'.

Two completely different things.

@TwattyMcFuckFace no it's not confrontation. It's just a question between friends. Getting clarification on something.

It's only confrontation if you've let it build up to something bigger than it is.

Why don't you just ask? :/

Absolutely.

The number of people that can't just chat with people they claim to be close to is quite astounding.