To not allow DS to have the colour floor he wants?

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DS is 19, his room needs new flooring.
Going to replace old carpet with laminate. Asked him to have a look on website and out of all the options he chose the 1 thing I hate, grey laminate 😂
I hate grey. I hate grey laminate even more.

He's not contributing to it financially.

I've shown him some other slightly less grey shades, more wood tone with grey but he's not having it.

Its a large room and will cost over £500

AIBU?

YABU - It's his room let him choose
YANBU - It's our house and you're paying, let him choose a different shade

Your house, you’re paying, you choose. A tiny bit of appreciation from him for new flooring wouldn’t go amiss.

He is appreciative! He's a good lad.
Definitely so but he's just adamant that's the colour he wants.

Which is annoying me since when we were originally going to have carpet down he said he didn't want a grey carpet but brown.

But now he won't have brown/natural laminate but grey 😂

He's 19, how long will he be living at home anyway? If he's not paying, he should have the final say. There needs to e a compromise - a colour neither of you hates, at least!

Probably a long time the way housing is these days!

Suggest if he wants his own colour, he buy a rug? Does he have enough money for that?

I would have chosen 3 options I liked, then given him the choice out of those 3.

Tell him, you're vetoing the grey, and to pick one of these instead.

Maybe just go back to a carpet then ?

how much to carpet the room?

The carpet was quoted 450, so I'd rather have laminate for the same price.

I've said this as a comprise?

Well I put YABU but purely because you asked him to choose what he wanted with no provisos and have then told him no! 😂

I would have told him the laminate colour - I too absolutely Hate grey laminate - and asked him to choose a rug....

Maybe apologise for misleading him and do the above?!

Fair enough! But there’s a big difference between, for instance, him choosing a wall colour you don’t like which can be painted over, and expensive permanent flooring. As someone suggested a rug seems like a compromise.

For what it's worth (nothing, I know 😄) that's a nice colour, OP!

I absolutely hate grey laminate.
It looks like it's dirty all the time and sucks all the colour from the space.

The grey trend is bloody awful and the sooner its over the better. Grey flooring will date very quickly.

I'm looking at perfectly lovely, pristine condition houses that are decorated top to toe grey & they are so depressing. I'd have to redecorate throughout but if I factor that into the price I'm unreasonable.

Tell him it needs to be a compromise option. It's a big chunk of money for something that will hopefully last years. If he really won't budge, can you just shelve the discussion for a bit and one of you might feel differently?

how about a white lie, that it is it not available
or a promise that he can have grey walls or a grey rug?

No it to have a go op, we’ve all done it, but it’s hard when you ask someone to choose with no guidance, they pick, then you say no! 😬 either he can pick which he has- or you say it’s one of xyz I’ve narrowed down which one? Now it’s a sticky situation! Fwiw we have ash I think laminate and it’s grey ish (I don’t want orange brown lol) but still looks like wood

If he’s adamant on Grey he pays for it. That would be my take

If he’s going to be living in that room for the foreseeable, then let him have his grey floor. DD’s room has way too much furniture in it but she’s 17 but it’s her room and I don’t have to live in it.

I think tell him you should never have given an open option because you really don't want the grey, you want a wood colour. Explain you have to have one eye on resale of the house and the long term.

But agree with the posters above - don't give a free choice in future if you then won't accept the answer.

He can paint the walls and buy a rug, but no way would I let my child choose flooring in my house that I hated. I wouldn't even entertain
compromising, OP 😆

Team son. I hate hate hate these laminate fake woods, plus it's just too cold underfoot. But if you want to distract him from it, have you also looked at linoleum? Might come out quite similar in price, and there's some quite stunning colors available these days.

Why did you ask if he can't choose?

I wouldn't ask. I prefer same floors in different rooms.

You told him to choose, so let him choose. How often really will you even see it?

Why did you ask him to choose if you don't want to let him have what he wants? You should have just made the decision yourself.

This.

Your house, your money, your rules.