To not allow DS to have the colour floor he wants?

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DS is 19, his room needs new flooring.
Going to replace old carpet with laminate. Asked him to have a look on website and out of all the options he chose the 1 thing I hate, grey laminate 😂
I hate grey. I hate grey laminate even more.

He's not contributing to it financially.

I've shown him some other slightly less grey shades, more wood tone with grey but he's not having it.

Its a large room and will cost over £500

AIBU?

YABU - It's his room let him choose
YANBU - It's our house and you're paying, let him choose a different shade

Actually, I wouldn’t even put laminate down in a bedroom! It’s cold underfoot in winter and is very noisy. Carpets don’t need to be so expensive - just get a cheap one for now and once he moves out, have the flooring of your dreams!

I so agree! I'm in a rental unit (retirement village) that has white walls and godawful grey carpet. It's low pile, so easy to keep clean, but that's all it's got going for it. It's so dull. Only grey flooring I've ever liked was the carpet in one childhood home, probably 1960s Axminster, that had clusters of roses scattered on it.

I agree. My last place was a granny flat in Queensland, all laminate flooring, nice colour but bloody awful stuff to walk on. I ended up getting colourful rugs. I can't imagine a hard floor in a bedroom in Britain! 🥶

I'd personally give him a choice out of a few options you like.

It would be a no on the grey from me.

Same as the other voter because you asked him to choose and then said no.

I would have probably not even asked for this item but presented your choice as his new floor and what paint/bedding did he want to go with it.

Explain you need something more neutral that will go with future changes of decor so it needs to be the wood with the hint of grey rather than straight grey

I like the one you posted as a compromise (hate the grey!) . He can choose the paint and soft furnishings.

You gave him free choice and now you are going back on it, it’s not fair.
I would try to achieve a compromise but softly and with respect not from the point “I’m paying” .

^^This. He knows you're paying, no need to mention that.

Choosing a colour from an online picture is a sure way of ending up with something totally different .
If you want a colour you can both agree on you need to get samples and see what the colour looks like in the room.
Be sure to only show him the samples you would be happy with. That way he thinks he’s chosen the floor but you have really .

I'd let him pick to be honest. If he is going to be there for the foreseeable future then why not. It wouldn't bother me what my kids bedroom looked like.

I wouldn’t replace until he moves out, he can have a rug

Laminate in a bedroom....carpet is so much warmer. He is 19 so won't necessarily be there much longer so you have to like it too

I think you have to give in. Sorry but I do. Give your boy the laminate he wants and when he's lefty home buy a huge colourful rug.

Is it an upstairs bedroom? The laminate floor will mean it's a lot noisier downstairs with no carpet to soften sounds.

I wouldn't put any kind of laminate flooring down in a bedroom - it's so noisy.

It's an easy win. I remember my mum allowing me to choose the decor in my bedroom.

( My dad was indifferent and went with the flow).

I hate the grey interiors trend.
It's grey enough outside for much of the year without bringing the grey inside too.
But you asked him and didn't stipulate that grey was a no no so you walked yourself into it.
Could the two of you go to a flooring showroom together and see what the different floors look like in real life ?
He might change his mind. 🤞

I would buy it. You said he could pick. Does it matter if you hate it?

Of course he will have it.

He's an adult and can pay for his own floor in his own home but whilst he's in your home, the floor is of your choosing not his. Tough titty!

Grey laminate sounds bloody awful.

Mine have whatever they want in their rooms. I don't have to like what they like and I want them to feel comfortable in their home.

I have laminate in all the other bedrooms. Always have. I don't find it too cold at all.

I hate carpet with a passion.

TBH when I said he could pick I didn't even think grey was a thing anymore for laminate. And as he said he wanted Brown carpet I thought he would want brown/wood flooring so I thought he can choose it.

If I would have realised grey was on there and he might have chosen that I would have put that as a clause in the choosing but didn't.

There's hundreds of different colours on there and only about 3 that are that horrible grey so I didn't even see it when I looked.

The person paying for the laminate chooses the colour.

I'd choose the flooring and let him choose a rug to go over it if he was that fussed. You're being really generous giving him the option!

I am another one that wouldn’t have laminate down in a bedroom. Bedroom flooring quite often needs to come up and go down again to fix electrics, burst pipes etc.
I have just got rid of an awful pink carpet that my daughter chose just before she moved out. Even she thought it was a terrible shade a few years later!
Does your son know that grey interiors have long since gone out of fashion.

How long is he likely to be at home for? Is he desperate to move into a shared house as soon as he can or is he more likely to stay for a few years whilst he saves for a deposit?

If he's going to be around for a while I'd let him create his space how he wants. It's a big thing to be in control of your own environment and might help him want to keep it tidy and clean!

If however he's going to move out in 2 years I'd try to keep finding a compromise