To not allow DS to have the colour floor he wants?

[Nc4ThisObvi]

DS is 19, his room needs new flooring.
Going to replace old carpet with laminate. Asked him to have a look on website and out of all the options he chose the 1 thing I hate, grey laminate 😂
I hate grey. I hate grey laminate even more.

He's not contributing to it financially.

I've shown him some other slightly less grey shades, more wood tone with grey but he's not having it.

Its a large room and will cost over £500

AIBU?

YABU - It's his room let him choose
YANBU - It's our house and you're paying, let him choose a different shade

He's 19, it's not like you are trying to reason with a 3 year old and need to follow through so they learn trust. I think you can and should explain it to him like you have to us.

Giving him free scope of most of the rest of the options seems more than enough for me.

We're the least controlling parents in the world 😂
His room is completely his. He chose his bed. Bedding. He chose his wall colour. His curtains. His blinds colour.

He's got posters all over his walls. He's put a load of shelves up for his consoles and games. He collects bluerays so got shelves up for those.

I really don't care how he has his room, genuinely. He could paint it tomorrow if he wanted.

And if he picked any other shade of flooring I wouldn't have cared.

It's just a pet peeve of mine, grey laminate. I've always really, really disliked it!

It's just one of those things that really made me go 'urgh'.

And if he picked any other shade of flooring I wouldn't have cared.

It's just a pet peeve of mine, grey laminate. I've always really, really disliked it!

It's just one of those things that really made me go 'urgh'.

Which is why you don’t have it in your bedroom, or communal areas. Realistically, you’ll barely even see it in your son’s bedroom - how much time could you possibly spend in there?

Also, given that you’re a Housing Association tenant, isn’t there a possibility that you’d be requested to downsize once any children have left home? So you might not be able to use the room for something else in years to come anyway.

I agree with you in taste but he lives in it, not you.

Buy a cheaper version so you can rip it up the minute he moves out. Additionally, he's 19. It'll soon be covered in clothes and rubbish.

And if he picked any other shade of flooring I wouldn't have cared.

Then you should have told him that upfront, not let him pick whatever he liked and told him "no".

Laminate flooring never looks like real wood, so I couldn’t get worked up about the fact someone has a preference for a grey tone to a more yellow/brown one. Especially if it was in a room I didn’t go in often, and I’d asked the person whose room it was what they’d like! That would seem to me to be the very definition of unreasonable. Sure, with hindsight if you’d wanted more control then you’d have offered a more restrictive choice, but you didn’t. I don’t see how you can now go back on it without ending up with the reason being ‘because I say’ which seems churlish in the circumstances.

You could get real wood flooring for the same price as that and would last longer. Try redwood planks from travis perkins

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I'd hate to live somewhere I couldn't make my own :(

oh the irony.

Sorry but I like it. I would prefer a grey laminate over a brown one

His room, his home, his choice and it has nothing to do with who's paying for it. My boys all have their rooms exactly as they want them just as they should have b

Nope. If the kids leave I may have to pay a bedroom tax but I'm a secure tenant and they can't force you to downsize.

The woman who lived here before me lived her on her own several years, nothing was ever said.

At that point in my life I may want to, but I'm going to be here at least 20 years.

I asked him if he definitely wanted that one before I order it and he said no 😂🙄
He looked again and chose a dark wood one. Apparently he showed his mate and he said it looked like something Mrs Hinch would have 😂

Am glad really as it's a lovely one he's chosen

Happy ending, good news!

I like that big rug in your photo, I've been half thinking of a similar one available here, but much smaller.

Good news

Great update op!

Hahaha, jinx