To not allow DS to have the colour floor he wants?

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DS is 19, his room needs new flooring.
Going to replace old carpet with laminate. Asked him to have a look on website and out of all the options he chose the 1 thing I hate, grey laminate 😂
I hate grey. I hate grey laminate even more.

He's not contributing to it financially.

I've shown him some other slightly less grey shades, more wood tone with grey but he's not having it.

Its a large room and will cost over £500

AIBU?

YABU - It's his room let him choose
YANBU - It's our house and you're paying, let him choose a different shade

Are you both likely to remain in the house for the next 5 years? If so I would let him have the grey and just replace it when he moves out. Remember teenager spend so much time in their room it's not likely to last aslong as in an adult bedroom.

https://www.factory-direct-flooring.co.uk/prestige-plus-12mm-arbor-grey-oak-ac5-click-laminate-flooring-3572?gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQjwxqayBhDFARIsAANWRnQOFQFcuWgj74HqeBfaqPA5A2MYFrPPfOcJRxIk5keZQCRW3XkkhToaArBnEALw_wcB
Would you/he go for this? It's what I put down when I couldn't decide between grey and brown.

I'm amazed you gave him a choice. Paint colours and decor are a different thing. Flooring is down to you. It's your house

i have to agree that it will be cold underfoot, although perhaps easy to clean

I dont even know why you gave him a choice. He is 19 and living at the house you're paying for, ergo your choice. Like others said, a choice between things you want would have been better.

Laminate doesn't seem the ideal choice for a bedroom, but even if that's what you're going with why would you have different laminate in each bedroom?

If its his room and you're expecting him to be at home for a fair bit longer, id let him have the boring floor he wants, but ask him to contribute

Why wouldn't you?

You have the same flooring and paint in every room? How boring.

Besides he's in the 3rd floor and visitors never go up there, no reason to.

You're not doing your credibility any favours by giving him a choice, then not agreeing with it! I also hate grey laminate, but I stick to my promises.,

Won’t it be noisy having laminate in a bedroom (which is probably upstairs?) it’s much quieter and cosier to have carpet in bedrooms. But I know that’s not the point!

His room, his choice.

Why do you think your tastes are better than his?

Grey laminate goes with anything and it’s easy to get a rug for it.

I had black carpet in my room.
Everyone said not to but it was my choice and my taste (then everyone loved it afterwards).

Laminate isn’t the best for noise insulation but it is easy to keep clean.

If you are decorating it for when he leaves, then choose yourself.

But you should only do this if he’s definitely moving out soon and tbh if that’s the case then I’d just wait until he’s gone.

But if you’re decorating it for him and he has no plans of moving out just yet, then of course let him decide.

I agree!

He only has a choice if he chooses something that OP wants, which isn’t a choice at all.

Does it match his room?

My sister chose bright pink carpet for her room when young. My parents didn't mind.
I agree that flooring looks awful so I probably would have picked a selection and asked him to choose from that. But also I do think it's his room and you could always have a nice rug down.

My ds (12 at the time) was insistent on laminate for his floor when we changed his old carpet. I wasn't keen but he loves it. It's not cold at all (maybe would be if you are barefooted, don't know) and definitely not noisy unless you have clicky shoes - why would you in a bedroom? He also chose grey, which I didn't like but in all honesty how often do you go in your son's bedroom? It really doesn't affect my life that I'm not massively keen on my son's flooring and I must say, with the other colours he's chosen for walls and other decor it doesn't look as bad as I thought. But even if I hated it, who cares? Even if/when they leave, how bothered are you about the flooring in a spare bedroom? If you didn't want to replace it at that point you could always get a big rug.

I remember being a student any my landlord bringing carpet samples round for me to choose from when they were replacing the sitting room carpet. I chose a deep rose pink. I think if a landlord of a student rental can allow choice of colour then someone can allow their son their own choice of colour for their room.

YABU to have offered him a choice then say no.
How often do you go in his room? If you anticipate him being there for a while I'd just go with it

You can always paint it when he moves out - amusingly in the article below they've chosen grey floor paint.
Can You Paint Laminate Flooring? (I Tested It Out!) (theblokecave.co.uk)

Oh come on - what 19 year-old is bowled over with excitement at the idea of new flooring? Flooring he doesn’t even like, if the OP gets her way.

“Thank you SO much for forcing me to live with something I don’t want”.

Then why are you so bothered about what’s on the floor? You want to take the choice away from the one person who has to live with it!

Oh I agree! Previous owner of our house put that exact flooring down in the living room and hallway and I hate it, it’s on the job list!

He’s 19 so presumably won’t be living there in the next few years.

Laminate in a bedroom is all a bit Mrs Hinch for my liking. Bedrooms are supposed to be comfy and warm places.

Aren’t you having the same colour throughout? It’s going to look bitty otherwise. Anyway you choose, he chooses rugs.

You said he can chose let him have what he wants, buy a rug in a colour you like to brighten it up. You don't have to look at it, if it's like my teens were you won't even be allowed in.

Agree, so let him choose.

If no one goes up there why does it matter what he likes.

If he like you say is a good lad. Go to him and say what you said here.

I really hate the grey. I know right now this is your room but in 5 years you likely will be out and I have to live with it. Can we find something we both like?

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