To think friend is jealous over weightloss?

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I have a friend who seems to be in competition with me (just the impression I’ve got over the last couple of years). It’s silly as subjectively she definitely has the better life.

I don’t see her on her own anymore and it’s always a small group of us. We definitely are not as close as we were.

Met up last weekend as a group and I’ve started medication (prescribed by doctor) for weight loss and I’ve lost a stone very quickly. I had to tell them as I really couldn’t eat or drink much from the medication.

Friend is slim (at a guess I’d say 6 stone lighter than me) and she will rarely message me and yesterday she messaged to ask how the weight loss is going …. Am I reading into this too much? I feel like I just want to believe the good in people and I also wish I’d said nothing.

friendships during / after weight loss can be difficult.

I lost ~3 stone and have maintained it, halfway to 4 stone now. A slim friend has become an acquaintance only as was trying to force me to eat, I’ve now realised she had me as the fat friend and couldn’t bare to eat more than me. She is a bit younger than me, and would always get attention off men when going out, she got offended when on a holiday a man she fancied came up to me (I’m a lesbian).

Even close friends have made comments, it seems to stem from a place of jealousy / projection or just because of the extreme diet culture.

I lost the weight after going on adhd meds, never expected to but my binge eating was due to the adhd.

I have a close friend who I was a similar weight to pre weight loss, who has gained as much as I’ve lost and refers to us both as overweight, both as greedy, both as fat. We used to both talk about ourselves in this way, which is quite sad. This friend maintains that she doesn’t eat much / can’t understand why I’ve lost weight etc.

I tried and failed to lose weight for years, there is nothing worse than someone whose lost weight saying how easy it was, so I choose to ignore a lot of comments. Predominantly the worst issues have been from friends and ex friends who are and always have been very slim, and probably have disordered eating. In my experience it comes between choosing to ignore it or ending the friendships.

I have a friend who is slim and she's always eating healthily or at the gym but she regularly goes on rants about people losing weight by injection or tablets. She goes on about how it's the lazy way and how people aren't putting effort into losing weight anymore.

Could this be your 'friends' opinion? I think mine is incredibly jealous that people can now lose weight by tablets/injections.

I would like to state that it isn't my opinion at all. Congratulations on your weight loss OP and I hope you manage to get down to the size you want to be.

I 100% get you OP... I'm a little jealous of all the posters on here who have never had to deal with these competitive begrudgers in their lives.

Best of luck with your weight loss journey