To think friends decor is gross?

[walkthroughtulips]

Stayed at a friends house this weekend with mutual friends and they raved about how nice her living room is and I was baffled.

It’s an extremely dark grey with one wall with equally dark grey wallpaper. Brown sofas and a yellow armchair. Huge jar with pampas grass. Grey carpet with a cream rug. Black plastic tv stand, concrete side tables.

She must think my deco is gross and shit. But I genuinely was so baffled by their reaction.

Op you’re getting a beat down here. I often comment on others decor…to my sister…on the phone. We love to discuss….with each other..other peoples awful ugly dated ridiculous decor. We especially love it when they have plenty of money to DO BETTER. She and I…. have great laughs about. You see the difference op right?

Sounds hideous.

Why can't you have your taste in decor and she have hers? I can't imagine being so horrified by pampas grass I'd need to start a thread. Perhaps you are upset with your friend for another reason and blaming the decor?

Are you really that shallow you think anyone you associate with should decorate to your taste?

Proper sniggered at your use of the word ‘friend’.

AIBU To think that the object of my envy and scorn’s decor is gross?
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Sorry I dont see the big deal here- so she has decor that isnt to your taste, so what?

That doesnt mean she thinks you are "gross". My friends have different tastes to me and I just think thats well, normal isnt it? I dont view their houses as gross just because their style is different to mine. Isnt it great that we are all different- it makes life interesting surely. It would be super boring if we were all clones of each other. Embrace the difference- thats what makes going to other people's houses interesting and fun.

I don't see anything gross about it.

As long as the house is clean, who cares.

Do you see yourself as a good person generally? As a good friend? Can you see why people are getting a certain impression of you from the fact that you've posted only to slag off your friend's taste in decor?

I do wish Mumsnetters would find a word to mean "person I spend time with but actually despise and will take any opportunity to slag off publicly". Because "friend" means something else entirely.

I think a dark grey and mustard yellow colours go really well together.

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This post is dripping with pure envy and says a hell of a lot more about the OP than it does her supposed friend. If this is real, OP, I’m genuinely embarrassed for you, you have revealed yourself to be quite pathetic and shallow minded to be placing so much importance on someone’s decor 😂 I think you need a bit more substance to your existence.

Newsflash: people have different tastes.

Posting her decor on the internet is in poor taste. Imagine how you'd feel if you opened Mumsnet to this post and it was someone describing your living room...

I presume people who like pampas grass and have things that make them happy rather than just what's "in"?

That's completely different. All the friend has done is use a fashionably dark colour for her sittingroom, that's different to ripping out original features.

@walkthroughtulips other friends might well describe the host's house as 'oh it was gorgeous. She has a lovely sittingroom colour drenched in F&B downpipe, with a toning feature wall with Timorous Beasties style wallpaper. Then she's lightened it with a berber rug, vintage tan aniline leather sofas, a mustard occasional chair and introduced some texture with concrete side tables and one of those big fluted vases with some creamy pampas grass. It was so cozy and comfortable, we had such a great time'.

Maybe @walkthroughtulips has taste stuck in the 90s and has magnolia walls and a fading red sofa from IKEA.

She's enthusiastic about it and loves it, that's all that matters. You don't have to like it or get it. Why not just let her enjoy her taste in decor?

For all you know she may think your taste is gross too, not that it matters if you like it and enjoy it.

Live and let live.

I imagine the others loved it because most people seem to love grey. A lounge decorated in different shades of grey with crushed velvet furnishings and chrome accessories is the norm. It's not my taste either tbf, but who cares??? Decor is down to personal taste/opinion, if the people who live in it are happy with it that's all that matters. I can't imagine ever giving it any further thought!

Suspect it’s more she’s envious that the others were liking it, and saying so. Made her think her own must be shit. And that feeling of envy is stronger than her like for the woman whose home it was.

its very damaging for her, driven by envy and insecurity.

Where did she say there was crushed velvet furnishings?

So it basically looks like this? I thought Pampas grass was on trend - I see it in every florist I walk past

I was just observing in general terms the trend - a grey crushed velvet sofa, or bed, often accompanies the grey walls/carpet.

That room doesn’t sound like the usual trend for boring grey though.

This is why I don't have anyone over. My furniture looks bad with the walls. I can't afford to redecorate and my furniture is cheap and horrible. I'm happy to live like that because I don't believe it is a good use of the planet's resources to redecorate before the decor has reached the end of its life.

I don't want people coming round sneering so I no longer have people over. I do have one person but he hasn't decorated or bought furniture since his elderly mum died decades ago. Unlikely to judge me.

I thought you were going to show us a picture 😁

I’m glad you’re not my friend.

She let you stay over and you’ve took the time to start a thread slagging off her decor choices.

You sound vile and very jealous of this friend.

Everyone has different taste and why would her living room be done to your taste and not her own.

She probably hates your living room too but I doubt she’d make a thread about it because she’s not that shallow.

Who are you trying to impress?

Just decorate your living room how you want it and don’t worry about what’s in fashion and what’s not.

Jealousy will get you nowhere.