Salt burn makes me worry for poor kids at ‘posh’ unis.

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Im beginning to think certain Universities have much wealthier students on average and a kid from a poorer background would have a hard time perhaps ? Oliver in Saltburn was almost ostracised. Dc is looking at Exeter and Bath as favs. Not going to have any of the spending money, nice things from home the private school kids there will have I’m guessing. Will they have a hard time and be excluded in any way do you think. Horrible to think that as pretty shy and socially awkward anyway 🥹.

Sure, but so what? You’ll find unpleasant people everywhere. ‘Stay in your lane in case you meet someone who thinks you’re not PLU’ isn’t much of a motto for life.

Exactly! Dd is very defensive of her best friend whose parents are mind blowing wealthy “its not her fault!” Cracks me up!

Saltburn was created by a very posh woman who seems to think that all middle class people are looking at posh people in awe. I was at Bristol in the 1990s and it was full of posh kids who were perfectly nice, friendly and enjoyed going to the pub and nightclubs as much as us state school kids.

I’m WC and went to a ‘posh’ uni- I found my tribe and your DC will too.
The posh wankers weren’t the kind of people I would have hung out with anyway, they were often not very bright, and clueless about the real world!

It does give that impression but good to read it’s not like that

I don't think that there will be a huge number of the stereotypical type of person you seem to be fearing.

Plenty of kids who've been through private schools take out loans for university and scrimp like everyone else.

What about the people on giant salaries who own £1m+ houses near wonderful state schools in the home counties? Their kids will be loaded at university as they haven't had to pay school fees. Will you be fearing these kids as well? Or is it only private school kids you think are horrible.

Spoiler - People are cunts from all walks of life. Just avoid the cunts and she'll be fine.

You watch the full film? Oliver wasn't poor he just wasn't super rich. He was ostracized for being a creep and he lied about being poor.

In Saltburn its mentioned that every year Felix "picks" a charity case. Some guy he feels a bit sorry for and takes him home to the family.

I think Oliver had picked Felix out as his mark from the beginning and spun his story of poverty etc in order to be Felix's chosen person for the year in order to wheedle his way into the family. I think it was all planned out because Oliver was a calculated psychopath.

I think that some of the students probably picked up on that and found him creepy as a result and went on their gut instincts and avoided him.

No matter where your child goes there will be people who are more or less privileged than them that's just reality. Your child's ability to accept that and focus on getting what they want out of the experience and being strong enough to refuse to 'keep up' is going to be what sets them up well for life in general. Because in life the same rules apply.

" I wouldn’t have been able to afford all the balls and gowns you were expected to attend/ buy."

Sorry, but that's just bizarre. I was at Oxford 40 years ago and it really wasn't compulsory to go to balls (and if you did want to go, you could hire something very cheaply.)

I grew up in a home that looked almost exactly like Oliver's on Saltburn (who was very middle middle, prtending to be working class) and I went to Oxford around the same time the film was set. I had an AMAZING time.

I knew the odd very posh kid - but most of my friends were pretty middle class. I would also note that there were a lot of us who'd gone to private schools on financial aid or scholarships. I went to a private school my parents could never have afforded had I not been loaded up on bursaries.

I found it odd as well, nearly 60 percent of kids at oxbridge are state school. And balls are both not compulsory and you can get dresses very cheaply. I’m fairly sure if yours so upset at rhe thought of having your bed changed by a cleaner, you can ask to take your own linen and do it yourself.

I know what you mean, my son just went through the Uni system and every one on his course - this was Southampton was ‘posher’ than him.
He got used to it though and although his girlfriend’s parents are very well off his lifestyle to hers is very similar, working in London in City jobs.
If you can’t beat ‘em join’em OP.

I was an ordinary girl at a posh uni and I would just like to say… I have forgotten almost all of Saltburn, save for the willy at the end.

Every single posh kid I have met recently pretends to be “street” these days and they all wear the same tracksuits and hoodies so I think the chino look/quiffy hair and show off about your hols/your school has long gone. That was a thing in the 90s. The ones we know have all toned it down massively, they actually seem to hide it deliberately.

Based on Saltburn alone, it should be the posh kids who are scared of the poor kids 😂

'If you think you're getting away I will prove you wrong...' etc

Pretending ain’t the real deal. Their accent, overconfidence, parents politics and cash give them away as posh, privately educated … and as for ‘street’ the labels they wear to dress ‘down’ show their privilege

I work at a Russell group. The students aren't hugely posh but they are privileged. They go on holidays that are far better than I've ever known, they skip over to Milan for shopping at the weekend for example. They assume everyone has what they have. They're nice and open though. I don't see exclusion on class or background.

Ha I was at Oxford in the early 00s and watching the first bits of Saltburn was like watching my past, but only because of the outfits! The students were from all sorts of different backgrounds and no one was ostracised for not being posh or rich.

I went to a Russell Group uni and came from a south london council estate on free school meals and benefits, and had been working since I was 14 alongside studying. I scared the shit out of my posh housemates initially as they thought I was so mature! We quickly bonded despite our different backgrounds and are still good friends now, 25 years later. Uni is a leveller.

my daughter went to Russel group, none of the kids were doing this.

milan shopping!

Middle class kids surely? Oliver had invented his backstory to be the ‘charity case’ of the year/ease his integration into Felix’s life (apologies if that’s ruined the film for anyone yet to see it!).

For what it’s worth I thought that Saltburn was fun (but also very stupid and far too long) - I certainly wouldn’t base life decisions re where to go to university on it!

LOL. The number of students at any university who skip over to Milan for shopping weekends is absolutely minuscule. This isn't remotely representative of the average Russell group student, at all.

OP, whatever university your son goes to, I promise you there will be loads of people like him.

Which labels, out of curiosity?

Exeter and Bath have majority of state students so he will be not be in a minority!

At Oxbridge 20-30 years ago - you did get colleges that were private school dominated.