Would you send this woman a link to the article about her new boyfriend?

[TheHeadOfTheHouse]

A woman I went to school with around 20 odd years ago has started a new relationship and it’s all over Facebook. She’s naturally an over sharer anyway, so even though I haven’t seen her since leaving school I know a lot about her life through Facebook.

Theres been lots of very lovey dovey pictures numerous times a day with this new man. She’s tagging in him everything and I noticed his Facebook name was odd, it’s two words rather than a name. I thought it was abit odd that he wouldn’t have his real name on there, but in his info bit he’d put his name.

So I googled his name and a picture comes up of him in numerous newspaper articles about how he beat a man so badly, the man had to eat through a straw. He got 6 years in prison.

would you message the woman with a link to the article?

she might already know and be ok with it, but if I didn’t know, I would want to know if I was her.

Stay out of it.

I would..from an anonymous account. I wouldn't want a violent person knowing my name.

You sound way over invested for someone you haven't seen for 20 years.

There is this

The man has a history of serious violence, let her know anonymously, after all, she coul7d be next

We do occasionally acknowledge each others posts and something seemed off so thought I would do a 2 min digging.

If you decide to then at least keep it anonymous. She likely knows though. He'll probably have told her it was self defence or a similar excuse.

No tou haven't seen her in 20 years
She might well l know anyway .

Of course not. She probably knows.

You havent seen her for 20 years - leave her be.

Why on earth would you google someone's boyfriend when you havent even seen that person for 20 years but, still think it might be ok to meddle.

She must have googled him, surely?

If you do it, even anonymously life often finds a way and there could be trouble in various shapes and forms, if you don't do it nothing can go wrong. In my opinion that's your answer.

Is she in the UK? Honestly, if you care about her, I would put in a Clare's Law request as a third party. They won't disclose to you, but if they deem the charges worth disclosing to her, they will contact her and ask to meet to make the disclosure. It may be taken more seriously coming from a police officer than a random anonymous account on Facebook.

Hell yes. I once went on a date with an unusually-named man who was very interested in whether I had googled him. I had, but only briefly: when I got home I found the newspaper reports he hadn't wanted me to see. It was mild compared to the OP here, a road rage type incident where nobody had been seriously injured, but my date had been violent, unprovoked, in a public place, and I wouldn't want to be alone with him knowing that. The guy was a very charming, handsome, witty, silver fox businessman type, not somebody you would imagine starting brawls. I ended up wondering whether he had hit his wife and being glad the thing had petered out after one date. He was on Soulmates for years.

If you found this out after a short amount of investigation then she, or someone closer to her than you, has probably already done the same. So she probably already knows.

I would assume this to be the case anyway, seeing as checking out new partners online seems to be so prevalent these days. I would leave it alone if I were you.

Do you not think she would do her own digging about her new boyfriend especially if his Facebook name is shortened?

Some people don’t go googling peoples names etc that’s what’s making me think she doesn’t know.

she might know, I don’t know

Id send it 👌🏽 do it 100% anonymously though, u dont want this dangerous man angry with you.

Many years ago my ils hired a PI to get some dirt on my new friend .. They did and didn't tell me. If they had my life would have been very different imo.
Their motive was to prove I was cheating. I wasn't.. We weren't an item until much later on. If I had know the info they had I would never have gotten involved. I found out after a decade of hell with him. It wasn't dv though. If your motives are good op then tell her..

She will know there might be an absolute nonsense of an explanation from him or she might think he's changed or she can fix him but I am betting she knows, although what have you got to lose telling her you are just old school friends and would it matter if she doesn't speak to you again?

Yes I would. We don’t need to all turn blind eye. Imagine he did something awful to her! Like you said she might already know, but I think I’d anonymously send her a link.

I would but she probably knows and won't thank you.

I didn't something similar to my friend. I found out her new boyfriend had spent 6 years in prison for almost killing his girlfriend.
Turns out he'd already told her and put his own spin on it..... which she believed despite his story being completely improbable.

She doesn't speak to me now.

This.

Aside from this giving Stalker vibes lol...

A woman I went to school with around 20 odd years ago ...... I haven’t seen her since leaving school..... So I googled his name...

If something happened to her - you'd feel guilty for not saying something. You cant assume she has googled him - she may not be as stalker as you are ;-)

I would, anonymously, then what she does about it is up to her, but imagine if she doesn't know and he turns violent on her.

"Nothing can go wrong" except her friend also being badly beaten.

I'd get a new disposable email address and send it to her anonymously.