Would you send this woman a link to the article about her new boyfriend?

[TheHeadOfTheHouse]

A woman I went to school with around 20 odd years ago has started a new relationship and it’s all over Facebook. She’s naturally an over sharer anyway, so even though I haven’t seen her since leaving school I know a lot about her life through Facebook.

Theres been lots of very lovey dovey pictures numerous times a day with this new man. She’s tagging in him everything and I noticed his Facebook name was odd, it’s two words rather than a name. I thought it was abit odd that he wouldn’t have his real name on there, but in his info bit he’d put his name.

So I googled his name and a picture comes up of him in numerous newspaper articles about how he beat a man so badly, the man had to eat through a straw. He got 6 years in prison.

would you message the woman with a link to the article?

she might already know and be ok with it, but if I didn’t know, I would want to know if I was her.

This is exactly what I'd do as well. Send her the link. She may know but at least you can be sure she will now

Obviously tell her.

And of course she's not going to click a link in a random email or from an obviously new Facebook or messenger user she doesn't know.

I'm always of the opinion 'do unto others'. I would want to know if I was dating anyone with a criminal history.

The worst that can happen is she thinks you're a meddling witch and hates you, or tells him. Actually I'd also do it via another email account, in case she does that. He's the one you're worried about really, not her.

Someone did something similar to me years ago, she told me my partner had a child, and even when I said no he dosnt she insisted he did, and I said ok how do you know that and she said oh I looked him up on Facebook and saw pictures of him holding a new born, I was like that's his neice,

and now I think that girls a right odd ball, to 1 look up my partner when like you we hadn't seen each other for years since school, and 2 to think that 2 seconds of looking on Facebook means she knows more about him than I do 😂

not sure how holding a newborn means you're automatically the dad

If I were in her shoes, I would want to know. People saying she already knows are making a lot of assumptions. If you tell her (in whatever way you decide to), then if she decides to turn a blind eye to his nature, as many women choose to, then at least you will know you've done all you can.

Yes, I would. If she already knows, no harm done. If she doesn't, she needs to.

If he had been in all the papers with a criminal conviction though....
Not quite the same scenario.

This. But after you sent it, let it go.

Agree with @Kesio do it from a unlinked email address. If you are absolutely sure its him obviously, people can have the same name. I know 2 people, similar age, same name, from the same town (one is a criminal, one is not, quite awkward for the one who is not)

Oh yeah of course, totally different.

She's not a close friend and may ignore any anonymous message.

Just write under one of the gushing posts -

'Is that the same Fred Bloggs as this?' and then post a link to his reported crimes.

You can ask your local police station advice for a Claire's law on her request and they can contact her if needed.

You could also send it to a mutual friend who knows her better and say you just saw this randomly and it looks like friends man - does she think she knows?

Bad advice as he and his scary friends might see and start stalking her and ruining her life in revenge. Better to at least do in a private message

Is her mum on fb? Could you send the article to her?

Yeah this is the best solution.

She probably knows though, surely everyone does their online due diligence stalk when they meet someone new.

Will you send it frm yr iPhoen? 🤣

I'm sure she has access to google. If you found this information in 2 minutes and he has spent 6 years in jail then he is probably not hiding it from her?

MN can be very odd sometimes. On another thread posters are expressing amazement that the OP looked someone up on LinkedIn out of curiosity. On this thread most posters are confident that a woman in a new relationship has googled the man. Not everybody does this.

I'm with the people saying get a throwaway email address and send her a brief email with the bare facts and a link to a newspaper report so she can see from the link that it's not phishing. It's not just your schoolfriend who might be at risk here from a violent man - has she got children?

I would. Because if it was me in this situation and I didnt know but someone else did (whoever they were, regardless of whether I knew them or not) I would want them to tell me.

I just found the artical. I would tell her anon if possible. Advice to do a claims law as well . Even if she ignores you or gets pissed of at least you have tried

I would ring 111, give them the information and let them deal with it. Then you’re not putting your old friend in danger or yourself.

What are the police going to do?
Hes been through the court system.

They can look at the Police records and give advice to the OPs friend as appropriate.

No they can't.

Of course they can.